Social Anxiety Support

Sanz · 02-07-2009, 03:23 PM

I don't know about everyone else but I find the weekends to be particularly depressing. Considering that I can't remember the last time I've actually gone out socializing, its really depressing when I'm sitting home alone on friday and saturday nights thinking that I could be out meeting people and whatnot if I could just get my anxiety under control. Just wondering if others can empathize with me...

MavenMI6Agent009 · 02-07-2009, 03:26 PM

I have been feeling the same way the past ten years of stagnation

ilikebooks · 02-07-2009, 03:29 PM

I usually spend Friday and Saturday nights in my room on the internet. I'll either do homework, play games, read, or just sit around overanalyzing past events and work myself into a such an anxious state that I won't be able to function properly for an hour.

Either that or I work, which is as close to socializing as I get.

I'd guess that the majority of posters here don't usually go out on weekends.

rachelynn · 02-07-2009, 03:31 PM

To me, any day, weekend or weekday, it's all the same.

sweet_tiff4prez · 02-07-2009, 03:40 PM

ugh every weekend has been the same lately. idont know how to f*ckin meet people aftr college. ugh and im hating it. its making me sad

SolInvictus · 02-07-2009, 05:33 PM

Movies, PS3, internet, gym and eating - another relaxing weekend for me.

adidas_blue · 02-07-2009, 06:12 PM

yea staying in used to be my thing
even when i had friends i would not enjoy myself just because of the anxiety and peer pressure to belong for once
however, i broke out of that stage eventually, but now im stuck with it again
sitting home sounds nice, but it gets frustrating after doing it for 10 years

laura024 · 02-07-2009, 06:15 PM

I feel so lonely on the weekends. I spend my time writing scholarship essays even though I know I have a minimal chance against thousands of other applicants. I like to write, plus I guess there's still that very small shard of hope I'll win one.

solasum · 02-07-2009, 06:20 PM

No, not really. I have to work for about 11 hours every weekend, but other than that, I don't mind it. For the most part, I'm fine being alone.

Ronnie511 · 02-07-2009, 06:28 PM

My Friday night routine:

1.) Come home around eight. Spend as much time in the library as one can tolerate in the hopes that by the time I return home, my roommates will have already gone out (in case they should *gasp* invite me to tag along).

2.) Invent some project that requires I stay home, in case one of my roommates should find me anyways.

3.) Throw dinner in microwave, retreat quickly to room. Any non-microwaveable dinner takes too long to prepare, and increases the risk of exposure.

4.) Sit in room, surf the internet. Convince myself that by being isolated, I won't become just another silly member of society.

Note: On particularly wild weekends, I may watch a torrented movie. Movie theatres, once again, require a venture into the public.

Anyways, I do find some comfort that many of the experiences I have read about on these boards are so similair to mine. It gives me some hope that their may be light at the end of the tunnel!

SyN · 02-07-2009, 06:32 PM

Yeah, weekends are depressing when you have nothing to do. This is the first weekend at college since I've been here that I've had nothing to do, but that's only because the first friend I've made was kind of my only one. I tend to do that a lot - meet one person and just kind of hang out with them. I know people that he knows and I talk to them but I don't really have a back up person to talk to to do anything with. I need to meet more people.

Orcaholic2001 · 02-07-2009, 06:47 PM

My weekends are really depressing too. :'(

yellowpaper · 02-07-2009, 06:56 PM

i'm so depressed...

why do i look forward to weekends...

Orcaholic2001 · 02-07-2009, 07:00 PM

I'm even the only one online pretty much on the weekends. :'(

Blueyedpoppet · 02-07-2009, 08:01 PM

Yeah, mine kinda suck sometimes (like tonight, ahem, Saturday night and I'm on here... lame). I'd love to go out to the bar, but I don't really have anyone to go out with. I don't fit in with the people my age from work, so it's kind of limiting.

On the bright side, at least I'm not depressed. Just bored. Sounds like most people are bored on here anyways.

Blueyedpoppet · 02-07-2009, 08:04 PM

Orcaholic,

Why don't you call your friends and ask them to chill? I highly doubt people don't invite you out because you're an "embarrassment" (that would be the social anxiety talking). Your friends probably see you being quiet and don't think you're enjoying yourself. People always ask me a million times when I'm out with a new group if I'm having fun (because I get so shy).

CarlitoBrigante · 02-07-2009, 08:30 PM

This honestly did not bother me until recently. My job on the weekends is incredibly boring and I feel like I'm missing out.

2Talkative · 02-07-2009, 08:42 PM

I only like weekends because I don't work other than that it's pretty much the same as a weekday.

Orcaholic2001 · 02-07-2009, 08:49 PM

................

pook · 02-07-2009, 09:17 PM

Weekends are lonely times....Thats why I went searching for this place and signed up just today. I'm totally desperate for something to change.

Friday night I sat at home and worked on a paper. Been doing the same thing since 8:30 this morning.......no messages, no texts, no calls. Days just blend together =(

02-07-2009, 03:23 PM	#1 (permalink)
Sanz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: New York Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 41	Weekends depressing? I don't know about everyone else but I find the weekends to be particularly depressing. Considering that I can't remember the last time I've actually gone out socializing, its really depressing when I'm sitting home alone on friday and saturday nights thinking that I could be out meeting people and whatnot if I could just get my anxiety under control. Just wondering if others can empathize with me... __________________ Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.

02-07-2009, 03:26 PM	#2 (permalink)
MavenMI6Agent009 Status: 2Depressed2BeeHear Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: EL Crapo, Tx Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 19,200	I have been feeling the same way the past ten years of stagnation __________________ "The friend who can be silent with us in a moment of despair or confusion, who can stay with us in an hour of grief and bereavement, who can tolerate not knowing, not curing, not healing and face with us the reality of our powerlessness, that is a friend who cares." (Henri Nouwen) -------------------------------------------------------

02-07-2009, 03:29 PM	#3 (permalink)
ilikebooks Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Ontario Gender: Female Posts: 346	I usually spend Friday and Saturday nights in my room on the internet. I'll either do homework, play games, read, or just sit around overanalyzing past events and work myself into a such an anxious state that I won't be able to function properly for an hour. Either that or I work, which is as close to socializing as I get. I'd guess that the majority of posters here don't usually go out on weekends. __________________ Orpheus melted the heart of Persephone, but I never had yours

02-07-2009, 08:42 PM	#18 (permalink)
2Talkative Status: audi, vide, tace Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Vancouver BC Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,071	I only like weekends because I don't work other than that it's pretty much the same as a weekday. __________________ "I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds." - Henry Rollins

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02-07-2009, 03:31 PM	#4 (permalink)
rachelynn Status: Daydreaming Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 539	To me, any day, weekend or weekday, it's all the same.

02-07-2009, 03:40 PM	#5 (permalink)
sweet_tiff4prez Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Akron, Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 227	ugh every weekend has been the same lately. idont know how to f*ckin meet people aftr college. ugh and im hating it. its making me sad

02-07-2009, 05:33 PM	#6 (permalink)
SolInvictus Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Age: 24 Posts: 41	Movies, PS3, internet, gym and eating - another relaxing weekend for me.

02-07-2009, 06:12 PM	#7 (permalink)
adidas_blue Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 20	yea staying in used to be my thing even when i had friends i would not enjoy myself just because of the anxiety and peer pressure to belong for once however, i broke out of that stage eventually, but now im stuck with it again sitting home sounds nice, but it gets frustrating after doing it for 10 years

02-07-2009, 06:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
laura024 Status: In love Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 3,552	I feel so lonely on the weekends. I spend my time writing scholarship essays even though I know I have a minimal chance against thousands of other applicants. I like to write, plus I guess there's still that very small shard of hope I'll win one.

02-07-2009, 06:20 PM	#9 (permalink)
solasum Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 1,204	No, not really. I have to work for about 11 hours every weekend, but other than that, I don't mind it. For the most part, I'm fine being alone.

02-07-2009, 06:28 PM	#10 (permalink)
Ronnie511 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 4	My Friday night routine: 1.) Come home around eight. Spend as much time in the library as one can tolerate in the hopes that by the time I return home, my roommates will have already gone out (in case they should gasp invite me to tag along). 2.) Invent some project that requires I stay home, in case one of my roommates should find me anyways. 3.) Throw dinner in microwave, retreat quickly to room. Any non-microwaveable dinner takes too long to prepare, and increases the risk of exposure. 4.) Sit in room, surf the internet. Convince myself that by being isolated, I won't become just another silly member of society. Note: On particularly wild weekends, I may watch a torrented movie. Movie theatres, once again, require a venture into the public. Anyways, I do find some comfort that many of the experiences I have read about on these boards are so similair to mine. It gives me some hope that their may be light at the end of the tunnel!

02-07-2009, 06:32 PM	#11 (permalink)
SyN Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 7	Yeah, weekends are depressing when you have nothing to do. This is the first weekend at college since I've been here that I've had nothing to do, but that's only because the first friend I've made was kind of my only one. I tend to do that a lot - meet one person and just kind of hang out with them. I know people that he knows and I talk to them but I don't really have a back up person to talk to to do anything with. I need to meet more people.

02-07-2009, 06:47 PM	#12 (permalink)
Orcaholic2001 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 7	My weekends are really depressing too. :'(

02-07-2009, 06:56 PM	#13 (permalink)
yellowpaper Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2007 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 761	i'm so depressed... why do i look forward to weekends...

02-07-2009, 07:00 PM	#14 (permalink)
Orcaholic2001 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 7	I'm even the only one online pretty much on the weekends. :'(

02-07-2009, 08:01 PM	#15 (permalink)
Blueyedpoppet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 9	Yeah, mine kinda suck sometimes (like tonight, ahem, Saturday night and I'm on here... lame). I'd love to go out to the bar, but I don't really have anyone to go out with. I don't fit in with the people my age from work, so it's kind of limiting. On the bright side, at least I'm not depressed. Just bored. Sounds like most people are bored on here anyways.

02-07-2009, 08:04 PM	#16 (permalink)
Blueyedpoppet Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 9	Orcaholic, Why don't you call your friends and ask them to chill? I highly doubt people don't invite you out because you're an "embarrassment" (that would be the social anxiety talking). Your friends probably see you being quiet and don't think you're enjoying yourself. People always ask me a million times when I'm out with a new group if I'm having fun (because I get so shy).

02-07-2009, 08:30 PM	#17 (permalink)
CarlitoBrigante Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 298	This honestly did not bother me until recently. My job on the weekends is incredibly boring and I feel like I'm missing out.

02-07-2009, 08:49 PM	#19 (permalink)
Orcaholic2001 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Age: 32 Posts: 7	................

02-07-2009, 09:17 PM	#20 (permalink)
pook Status: looking for help.. Join Date: Feb 2009 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 41	Weekends are lonely times....Thats why I went searching for this place and signed up just today. I'm totally desperate for something to change. Friday night I sat at home and worked on a paper. Been doing the same thing since 8:30 this morning.......no messages, no texts, no calls. Days just blend together =(