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Unhappy Weekends depressing?

I don't know about everyone else but I find the weekends to be particularly depressing. Considering that I can't remember the last time I've actually gone out socializing, its really depressing when I'm sitting home alone on friday and saturday nights thinking that I could be out meeting people and whatnot if I could just get my anxiety under control. Just wondering if others can empathize with me...

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I usually spend Friday and Saturday nights in my room on the internet. I'll either do homework, play games, read, or just sit around overanalyzing past events and work myself into a such an anxious state that I won't be able to function properly for an hour.

Either that or I work, which is as close to socializing as I get.

I'd guess that the majority of posters here don't usually go out on weekends.
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ugh every weekend has been the same lately. idont know how to *****in meet people aftr college. ugh and im hating it. its making me sad
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Movies, PS3, internet, gym and eating - another relaxing weekend for me.
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post #7 of 37 (permalink) Old 02-07-2009, 07:12 PM
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yea staying in used to be my thing
even when i had friends i would not enjoy myself just because of the anxiety and peer pressure to belong for once
however, i broke out of that stage eventually, but now im stuck with it again
sitting home sounds nice, but it gets frustrating after doing it for 10 years
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I feel so lonely on the weekends. I spend my time writing scholarship essays even though I know I have a minimal chance against thousands of other applicants. I like to write, plus I guess there's still that very small shard of hope I'll win one.
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No, not really. I have to work for about 11 hours every weekend, but other than that, I don't mind it. For the most part, I'm fine being alone.
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My Friday night routine:

1.) Come home around eight. Spend as much time in the library as one can tolerate in the hopes that by the time I return home, my roommates will have already gone out (in case they should *gasp* invite me to tag along).

2.) Invent some project that requires I stay home, in case one of my roommates should find me anyways.

3.) Throw dinner in microwave, retreat quickly to room. Any non-microwaveable dinner takes too long to prepare, and increases the risk of exposure.

4.) Sit in room, surf the internet. Convince myself that by being isolated, I won't become just another silly member of society.

Note: On particularly wild weekends, I may watch a torrented movie. Movie theatres, once again, require a venture into the public.

Anyways, I do find some comfort that many of the experiences I have read about on these boards are so similair to mine. It gives me some hope that their may be light at the end of the tunnel!
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post #11 of 37 (permalink) Old 02-07-2009, 07:32 PM
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Yeah, weekends are depressing when you have nothing to do. This is the first weekend at college since I've been here that I've had nothing to do, but that's only because the first friend I've made was kind of my only one. I tend to do that a lot - meet one person and just kind of hang out with them. I know people that he knows and I talk to them but I don't really have a back up person to talk to to do anything with. I need to meet more people.
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My weekends are really depressing too. :'(
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i'm so depressed...

why do i look forward to weekends...
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I'm even the only one online pretty much on the weekends. :'(
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Yeah, mine kinda suck sometimes (like tonight, ahem, Saturday night and I'm on here... lame). I'd love to go out to the bar, but I don't really have anyone to go out with. I don't fit in with the people my age from work, so it's kind of limiting.

On the bright side, at least I'm not depressed. Just bored. Sounds like most people are bored on here anyways.
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Orcaholic,

Why don't you call your friends and ask them to chill? I highly doubt people don't invite you out because you're an "embarrassment" (that would be the social anxiety talking). Your friends probably see you being quiet and don't think you're enjoying yourself. People always ask me a million times when I'm out with a new group if I'm having fun (because I get so shy).
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I only like weekends because I don't work other than that it's pretty much the same as a weekday.

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Weekends are lonely times....Thats why I went searching for this place and signed up just today. I'm totally desperate for something to change.

Friday night I sat at home and worked on a paper. Been doing the same thing since 8:30 this morning.......no messages, no texts, no calls. Days just blend together =(
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My weekends are really depressing too. :'( I have like very few friends and I always hope that they will want to hang out with me or spend time with me but sadly it never happens. And its probably because of me ... because im not "normal" like their other friends & they probably worried i would do something stupid. :'( I guess i really just dont fit in. :'( I cant even remember the last time i got to do something with friends on the weekend, probably because maybe i never did. The weekends for me are so empty, I wake up and go to the store with my grandma, then come home to just sit here hoping for company that ill never get. Then i just think about how it really sucks to be me. I try to do stuff... but with everyone else in my family having stuff to do and going out with friends.. even my mother goes out. I'm so alone...
=( its so hard to put yourself out there..I know exactly what you mean. It just feels so impossible. I just sit at home and study most of the time, and when I do get the chance to go out, I feel terrible and shy and people just think I'm being rude.. I can really relate to this feeling, my heart goes out to you!
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