Social Anxiety Support

Wulf chan · 10-28-2009, 07:56 AM

I know this is down to my SA, but how to do you hang around with a new group of friends at school?
My other friends have left ('cos they're a year older) and now I'm kind of lonely, with only one other close friend (who is in the year below XD)
and there's a group of people, I know quite a few of them, who I really want to hang around with.
But I don't know how to do it without feeling awkward or out of place :\ when ever I think "right, I'm going to ignore everything and just go up to them... NOW" I get really nervous and chicken out :S it's crazy really, I've hung around with them once already and they seem okay with me being there - a couple even seemed happy to see me there o.o
I suppose it's the prospect of meeting new people and making new friends *gasps*
I just don't want to seem pathetic, or clingy.

But feeling like I have no friends is really depressing me, and it needs to stop. I kind of missed school today, because of my "illness"

and this really needs to stop. I don't want to be alone all my life.

PLEASE HELP? How can you "just do it", forget the fear and go up to a group of people who half of them you don't really know and act like a normal person??

[I guess it doesn't help that the person I "like" is there]

ohpewp · 10-28-2009, 09:32 AM

Maybe you can be more optimistic about it and think, "at least I have a group of people I know that I want to be around that I actually have the opportunity to be around." A lot of us don't have that. Do it for the rest of us! :P (Yeah 'cause that totally makes it easy.)

toffee · 10-28-2009, 10:06 AM

I was the same in school, for the first 3 yrs or so, i used to sit alone in the library every lunch time.. then i started to talk to a group of girls in my yr, and they let me sit with them until the end of school. We are still really good friends now. Go for it, you have nothing to lose..it may seem hard but it will be worth it =]]

10-28-2009, 07:56 AM	#1 (permalink)
Wulf chan Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 15	Ugh, how do you do it? I know this is down to my SA, but how to do you hang around with a new group of friends at school? My other friends have left ('cos they're a year older) and now I'm kind of lonely, with only one other close friend (who is in the year below XD) and there's a group of people, I know quite a few of them, who I really want to hang around with. But I don't know how to do it without feeling awkward or out of place :\ when ever I think "right, I'm going to ignore everything and just go up to them... NOW" I get really nervous and chicken out :S it's crazy really, I've hung around with them once already and they seem okay with me being there - a couple even seemed happy to see me there o.o I suppose it's the prospect of meeting new people and making new friends gasps I just don't want to seem pathetic, or clingy. But feeling like I have no friends is really depressing me, and it needs to stop. I kind of missed school today, because of my "illness" and this really needs to stop. I don't want to be alone all my life. PLEASE HELP? How can you "just do it", forget the fear and go up to a group of people who half of them you don't really know and act like a normal person?? [I guess it doesn't help that the person I "like" is there]

10-28-2009, 09:32 AM	#2 (permalink)
ohpewp Status: Somewhat Human Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Arkansas Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 263	Maybe you can be more optimistic about it and think, "at least I have a group of people I know that I want to be around that I actually have the opportunity to be around." A lot of us don't have that. Do it for the rest of us! :P (Yeah 'cause that totally makes it easy.) __________________ For longer than I can remember I've been looking for someone like you Someone with a head like yours and a torso too Birds sing and you're gonna PAY! The end.

10-28-2009, 10:06 AM	#3 (permalink)
toffee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 181	I was the same in school, for the first 3 yrs or so, i used to sit alone in the library every lunch time.. then i started to talk to a group of girls in my yr, and they let me sit with them until the end of school. We are still really good friends now. Go for it, you have nothing to lose..it may seem hard but it will be worth it =]] __________________ Everywhere i look, you're all i see.. just a fading ****ing reminder of who i used to be.