Social Anxiety Support

jonny87 · 11-07-2009, 01:13 PM

“Give me the child for his first seven years and I will give you the man.” This is a Jesuit saying, signifying that children are liable to believe what they are told at an early age. This is especially true if the child’s parents are the ones telling it to them. It is a biological trait in every healthy child meant for survival. It allows us to quickly adapt to our environment based on what adults tell us. This is especially true if those adults are immediate family members.

Many people here have mentioned that they were raised in cults, or were raised by abusive parents. If I use myself as an example, my father would constantly put me down and make fun of others while bragging about himself. I now know it is biological wiring and perhaps a flaw in nature that forces children’s primitive brains to model themselves after adults around them. In a tribal society this might make sense, because if my father behaved the way he did in that case he’d be ostracized and forced out of the tribe. In modern society however, it is a problem that causes many innocent children to turn cold and aggressive because of negative values forced upon them.

Today many of us still fight the beliefs instilled into us as children. For some by parents, for others by teachers, for others perhaps peers. I know for sure that most of us are perfectly normal individuals who adapted to the circumstances we found ourselves in as children. We now realize that the “reality” that we were brainwashed to believe is not the “reality” that others perceive, nor the one we want to perceive. Unfortunately some of us still see S.A.D. as something that is “wrong” with us. In truth we can still change our outlook on the world and we in fact should be incredibly proud of ourselves for making it through the things we experienced.

I try to find strength in knowing that the only reason others may have found me “weird” is because they don’t understand what I went through in life. I no longer strive to be like any of the social people I see who came from supportive families and instead strive to be my true uncorrupted self. I am trying to see the good in everyone now and realize that if I show trust and good nature others usually return it. For the first time in my life I feel proud of being me. As they say; if you rub your nose in **** even the roses will smell like it. I am currently wiping my nose clean of the **** that was rubbed there when I was a child. Don’t blame yourselves over something beyond your control, just find the courage to overcome it.

11-07-2009, 01:13 PM	#1 (permalink)
jonny87 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Toronto Gender: Male Posts: 11	Trained to be anxious “Give me the child for his first seven years and I will give you the man.” This is a Jesuit saying, signifying that children are liable to believe what they are told at an early age. This is especially true if the child’s parents are the ones telling it to them. It is a biological trait in every healthy child meant for survival. It allows us to quickly adapt to our environment based on what adults tell us. This is especially true if those adults are immediate family members. Many people here have mentioned that they were raised in cults, or were raised by abusive parents. If I use myself as an example, my father would constantly put me down and make fun of others while bragging about himself. I now know it is biological wiring and perhaps a flaw in nature that forces children’s primitive brains to model themselves after adults around them. In a tribal society this might make sense, because if my father behaved the way he did in that case he’d be ostracized and forced out of the tribe. In modern society however, it is a problem that causes many innocent children to turn cold and aggressive because of negative values forced upon them. Today many of us still fight the beliefs instilled into us as children. For some by parents, for others by teachers, for others perhaps peers. I know for sure that most of us are perfectly normal individuals who adapted to the circumstances we found ourselves in as children. We now realize that the “reality” that we were brainwashed to believe is not the “reality” that others perceive, nor the one we want to perceive. Unfortunately some of us still see S.A.D. as something that is “wrong” with us. In truth we can still change our outlook on the world and we in fact should be incredibly proud of ourselves for making it through the things we experienced. I try to find strength in knowing that the only reason others may have found me “weird” is because they don’t understand what I went through in life. I no longer strive to be like any of the social people I see who came from supportive families and instead strive to be my true uncorrupted self. I am trying to see the good in everyone now and realize that if I show trust and good nature others usually return it. For the first time in my life I feel proud of being me. As they say; if you rub your nose in ** even the roses will smell like it. I am currently wiping my nose clean of the ** that was rubbed there when I was a child. Don’t blame yourselves over something beyond your control, just find the courage to overcome it.