Social Anxiety Support

bunnie · 08-18-2009, 10:40 PM

I arrived at work in a pretty ****ty mood as usual and this older lady (lets call her Norma) I work with was telling me how I got so many compliments earlier: "Where is that sweet, soft spoken girl?" She is always bringing up how soft spoken I am and it annoys me because I know I have a bad side too (which I kinda like).

Anyway, she is the type to make friendly banter with the customers while I just give them the traditional "hi", bag up their sh**, and say "have a good one". So I'm ringing up my first customer and then the next, when Norma I guess notices they are related. Norma says something like, "Oh, shopping/rackin' up some deals with your mom?" No one says anything and they both have this blank stare. Turns out they are sisters (Oooooohh, awkward), their mother just passed (*cringe*), and they were buying clothes for the funeral.

On the inside, I had this smirk like: "Yea, that's what you get for being so chatty!" Norma apologized and tried to smooth things over and the sisters were pretty calm and nice about it (at least on the outside they were).

See SAers, its not so bad being quiet.

Alicia2009 · 08-18-2009, 10:49 PM

LoL, That's what she gets!

lyssado707 · 08-18-2009, 10:52 PM

Maybe this experience brought Norma in touch with her more soft spoken side

malaise · 08-18-2009, 10:56 PM

I used to work at a shoe store, very briefly, and one time I came up behind these two customers saying, "How are you ladies doing?", and they both turned out to be guys. Looking back on it now I can laugh but at the time I wanted to crawl into a hole and die.

Aurora · 08-18-2009, 11:04 PM

Oh my, how embarrassing for her. lol. I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER work in retail ever again. I dont know how you do it!

Yep I do like being quiet too. But it seems everytime I open my mouth to speak, it all comes out wrong or people missunderstand me. So Im working on keeping even more quiet. lol.

bunnie · 08-18-2009, 11:33 PM

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Originally Posted by malaise

I used to work at a shoe store, very briefly, and one time I came up behind these two customers saying, "How are you ladies doing?", and they both turned out to be guys. Looking back on it now I can laugh but at the time I wanted to crawl into a hole and die.

LMAO!
One time at work this lady stopped me in a panic and told me their was a young guy in the ladies restroom. She described him and w/o thinking, I went inside to confront him. Turns out it was a female!!!! It was one of those moments where my brain couldn't catch up to my mouth.
Clearly the suspect had boobs. They could've passed for man boobs/moobs tho'.....

strawberryjulius · 08-18-2009, 11:41 PM

This is why I stay quiet sometimes, I don't want to say the wrong thing.

Some Russian Guy · 08-19-2009, 12:40 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by bunnie

See SAers, its not so bad being quiet.

amen

Dipper · 08-19-2009, 01:13 AM

: That's a pretty funny story.

gaz · 08-19-2009, 02:50 AM

It's better to be quiet and be thought of as a fool than remove all doubt and be known as a fool, o'r something like that.

Well quiet people have tact. I tend to think too much before saying something but it could be a good thing.

StacySkellington · 08-19-2009, 05:54 AM

i always feel like i need to think before i say anything....if i don't have the time, i don't talk..simple as that. i'm constantly worried about saying the wrong thing to anyone...like the mailman...and all i really have to say is "any mail? Thanks" but of course i make it much too complicated and manufactured. i felt this way at a recent interview where i had rehearsed what i was going to say so many times, that when it came out, it sounded so fake. *hates myself*

Olazet91 · 08-19-2009, 10:50 AM

haha thats my reason for not talking too

cavigu · 08-19-2009, 01:14 PM

Whenever, I tell myself "ok, try and be social" and I actually make the effort to be "talkative" or just talk more in a social situation. I ALWAYS ALWAYS without fail will end up saying something embarrassing or out of line. Seriously, I think I am so nervous and I am ignoring my brain telling me I am scared--that I just end up blurting out the wrong thing.

deeds14 · 08-19-2009, 01:16 PM

Wow, that's almost as bad as assuming someone is pregnant when they're not!

N3XT2NON3 · 08-19-2009, 01:30 PM

hahaha funny

08-18-2009, 10:40 PM	#1 (permalink)
bunnie Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Chicago Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 274	This is why I like to be quiet........ I arrived at work in a pretty **ty mood as usual and this older lady (lets call her Norma) I work with was telling me how I got so many compliments earlier: "Where is that sweet, soft spoken girl?" She is always bringing up how soft spoken I am and it annoys me because I know I have a bad side too (which I kinda like). Anyway, she is the type to make friendly banter with the customers while I just give them the traditional "hi", bag up their sh, and say "have a good one". So I'm ringing up my first customer and then the next, when Norma I guess notices they are related. Norma says something like, "Oh, shopping/rackin' up some deals with your mom?" No one says anything and they both have this blank stare. Turns out they are sisters (Oooooohh, awkward), their mother just passed (cringe), and they were buying clothes for the funeral. On the inside, I had this smirk like: "Yea, that's what you get for being so chatty!" Norma apologized and tried to smooth things over and the sisters were pretty calm and nice about it (at least on the outside they were). See SAers, its not so bad being quiet.

08-18-2009, 10:52 PM	#3 (permalink)
lyssado707 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Humboldt County, CA Age: 22 Posts: 3,372	Maybe this experience brought Norma in touch with her more soft spoken side __________________ In Loving Memory, http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g1...6/P1000595.jpg http://i55.photobucket.com/albums/g1...P1000480-1.jpg Marmalade January 1991-February 19, 2007

08-18-2009, 11:04 PM	#5 (permalink)
Aurora Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia. Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 849	Oh my, how embarrassing for her. lol. I would NEVER EVER EVER EVER work in retail ever again. I dont know how you do it! Yep I do like being quiet too. But it seems everytime I open my mouth to speak, it all comes out wrong or people missunderstand me. So Im working on keeping even more quiet. lol. __________________ I tell you everything that is really nothing, and nothing of what is everything, do not be fooled by what I am saying. Please listen carefully and try to hear what I am not saying. ~ Charles C. Finn

08-19-2009, 01:14 PM	#13 (permalink)
cavigu Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: CA Gender: Female Posts: 22	Whenever, I tell myself "ok, try and be social" and I actually make the effort to be "talkative" or just talk more in a social situation. I ALWAYS ALWAYS without fail will end up saying something embarrassing or out of line. Seriously, I think I am so nervous and I am ignoring my brain telling me I am scared--that I just end up blurting out the wrong thing. __________________ *silence is golden*

08-18-2009, 10:49 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alicia2009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: The Dwells of Cali-For-Nia Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 79	LoL, That's what she gets!

08-18-2009, 10:56 PM	#4 (permalink)
malaise Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 32	I used to work at a shoe store, very briefly, and one time I came up behind these two customers saying, "How are you ladies doing?", and they both turned out to be guys. Looking back on it now I can laugh but at the time I wanted to crawl into a hole and die.

08-18-2009, 11:41 PM	#7 (permalink)
strawberryjulius Status: ^_^ Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 3,314	This is why I stay quiet sometimes, I don't want to say the wrong thing.

08-19-2009, 01:13 AM	#9 (permalink)
Dipper Status: PASTAMANIA BROTHER Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: California Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 285	: That's a pretty funny story.

08-19-2009, 02:50 AM	#10 (permalink)
gaz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Wales, Uk Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 1,250	It's better to be quiet and be thought of as a fool than remove all doubt and be known as a fool, o'r something like that. Well quiet people have tact. I tend to think too much before saying something but it could be a good thing.

08-19-2009, 05:54 AM	#11 (permalink)
StacySkellington Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Massachusetts Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 25	i always feel like i need to think before i say anything....if i don't have the time, i don't talk..simple as that. i'm constantly worried about saying the wrong thing to anyone...like the mailman...and all i really have to say is "any mail? Thanks" but of course i make it much too complicated and manufactured. i felt this way at a recent interview where i had rehearsed what i was going to say so many times, that when it came out, it sounded so fake. hates myself

08-19-2009, 10:50 AM	#12 (permalink)
Olazet91 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Screwville, US Gender: Female Posts: 583	haha thats my reason for not talking too

08-19-2009, 01:16 PM	#14 (permalink)
deeds14 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 269	Wow, that's almost as bad as assuming someone is pregnant when they're not!

08-19-2009, 01:30 PM	#15 (permalink)
N3XT2NON3 Status: Waiting 4 The Sky To Fall Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: NJ Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 333	hahaha funny