I fight with this issue every day of my life. Although, I've made a lot of progress in that, I realize that, a lot of times, I perceive other people's behavior as anger towards me when it's really not the case at all.
When I was a kid, my father wouldn't talk to me for days, even weeks and when he did, he was, more often than not, gruff and irritable. I always figured that I had done something to anger him and that pattern of thinking spread to include everyone else. It's taken me most of my life to figure out that what could be taken for anger is usually concern or other people's own anxiety/depression making them seem angry. As far as my father was concerned, I learned well after his death that he suffered from anxiety so, that can easily explain his behavior.
It's hard to tell with people that I don't know but the people that are closest to me, when they're quiet/withdrawn, it's tempting to think that I've done something wrong but in reality, there's something going on with them that has absolutely nothing to do with me at all. Outside of coming out and asking if I've done something wrong, I just ask them if something is wrong and trust that, if I have done wrong, that they'll just tell me
Originally Posted by Perfectionist
I just naturally assume people are mad or annoyed at me when I interact with them.
I will say that I know that I'm bound to annoy some people... that's a fact of life. Once I really took this thought to heart, it sort of made it easier to deal with.