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Sunny Days can be just as depressing

I don't know about some of you, but on days like today when it's sunny outside, I often feel just as depressed and anxious. On days when it's cloudy, snowing, or raining, I tell myself I have the perfect excuse to stay inside because of the weather. When it's sunny, I feel obligated to go out, breathe the fresh air and live. By not going outside, I feel more of a failure for not taking the iniatiative to put myself in another frame of mind. Anyone else feel like this?
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Yep. I love it when the weather is bad and gloomy. It actually makes me happy. I was like that ever since I was a child because I had SA since I was a small child. Sometimes the weather was bad enough to where school was canceled and I didn't have to go anywhere. I know exactly what you mean. When the weather is good, there is no excuse.
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YEP, I hate sunny days
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Same here. I prayed for bad weather as a kid. I was happier in the winter time. I find sunny weather initimidating in a sense; I guess because there are more people out. I like to get outside and go for long walks, but I feel way more comfortable when it's just me and the mailman willing to venture out.
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Me too! I've tried to explain this to people and everyone thinks I am crazy. I feel even worse staying inside all day when it's gorgeous out. I heart rain.

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I sort of feel the same. I like going out on Sunny days, but I feel sad because I'm all alone. It would be better if I had someone, like a friend, to share the sunny day with.
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I absolutely know this story. Up here in Northern Canada, nice sunny days with average-high temperatures don't happen often. Today was one of those rare days, so people stay out of the mall, don't shop and help pay my bills (), and the girls dress in less clothing and while it's nice to look at, it also feels like I'm being taunted.

So yes, it can ****ing rain as much as it wants to.
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I only like gloomy cloudy sky. I feel so alive when everything is gray. And just before the rain.
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I love the rain too. It's soothing and makes a lovely background noise as I go about things, or resting in bed with it beating down outside. I also like how it makes the temperature cool, which I enjoy, and not particularly bright either. I'm sensitive to bright light, it blinds me easily, so the reduced brightness that rain brings is something I welcome with both arms.
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I love rainy days, I find everything about them absolutely beautiful, the feel, the sound, the smell, everything. Sunny days do get to me because it's expected you head out to take advantage & I usually don't to avoid sweating or SA symptoms that come from social situations of course. I think for those of us here it's the opposite of seasonal effective disorder that most people get


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sunny days? you mean when everyone who has friends is outside doing things, smiling, laughing, and having fun, and i dont have any part of that?

yeah, i dont care for sunny days much either
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I can totally relate to loving stormy days over bright, sunny days.
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Rainy days and Mondays are great. Karen Carpenter didn't have a clue, did she?
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I'm the opposite to most people on here. I love the rain and despise the sun! The hot weather makes me anxious and give me the feeling that something bad is going to happen when it's all quiet. Cold, rainy weather makes me feel safe and secure.
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Sunny days only serve to remind me how lonely I really am.
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I love sunny days, but I feel guilty and anxious if I stay inside and play The Sims all day when it's nice outside.
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summer has become more depressing than winter for me. at least in winter you have the excuse to stay in because of the weather, although for me winter is the best time to walk on the beach because no one is ever around, but in summer i want to go out because its so nice and it does make me feel better, but not when there are so many people around. a couple of the places i've lived at least had gardens and i could go sit in the corner (which wasn't visble by neighbours), but this year no garden. i hope for rainny days because less people around so can go for walk
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Sunny days do suck. I'd sleep through most of every day if it were possible, but when venturing out it's best to have a little cloudy weather on your side. The sun really brings out the hooligans who think they're having a good time, for some reason. Not to mention it's uncomfortable and hard on the eyes.

On a bright note, I like every day when it's spent in the forest or the mountains. Away from everyone.
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I have always loved overcast, cloudy or foggy days; the cool air on my skin tickles me and makes me happy! Sunny days are downers for me; everything appears so uninteresting and average. This doesn't mean I have a disorder. It always bugs me when I hear people refer to sunny weather as "good" and any other kind of weather as "bad". It depends on what you like. I returned from vacation in San Francisco (I live in San Diego) and someone asked me how the weather was in S.F. I said "beautiful"! They replied "it was sunny"? I said "no, it rained the whole time I was there, I loved it"! Other person: Billy Idol sneer with a question mark added! It seems the consensus is that "normal people like sunny weather and hate gloomy days" and if you don't fall in this category you're strange!
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I don't know about some of you, but on days like today when it's sunny outside, I often feel just as depressed and anxious. On days when it's cloudy, snowing, or raining, I tell myself I have the perfect excuse to stay inside because of the weather. When it's sunny, I feel obligated to go out, breathe the fresh air and live. By not going outside, I feel more of a failure for not taking the iniatiative to put myself in another frame of mind. Anyone else feel like this?
I must say I feel the way you do (except I don't like the rain if I've got to go out-if I can stay in bed it's fantastic!), 'cause I don't have many friends since I was little and seeing other people around not smiling 'cause of the sun and their social life, makes me feel less lonely. I love going around in the winter, 'cause there's less selfishness and people help each others so I can have human contact.
But there's more. Especially in the Spring I feel very very low and I feel physically bothered by the sun (wearing sunglasses is a must, but it doesn't give relief). It bothers me to stay in the sun and in the heat, I stay home in the dark, or if I've to go out, in the shade. I cannot stand the heat, I get anxious, thirsty and sometimes feel like I could pass out.
I wonder, could this be a REAL condition? I'm sick of people laughing at me when I ask it and saying "maybe you're a vampire!" (that would be easier). That doesn't help, I need, we need to know better.
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