I wondered if anyone can relate. I've always been very good at 'keeping up apperances' and not appearing anxious in public. When I was anxious, upset or overwhelmed, I'd just make polite excuses and leave.
However, past few months, I've turned into a crier! Last night I went to the GP (for a sicknote as I'm appealling against a benefit rejection, so without the appointment I'm stuck with no money) and they computer had my appointment wrong (honest, I'd had a telephone reminder that day! Another guy had the same issue). So I cried. And I mean really cried, uncontrollably, I just couldn't pull it together.
Crying over a mis-scheduled appointment is indeed quite dramatic. I'm not a therapist, but it seems there is a larger issue bothering you. Anyhow, when such things happens, take a deep breath or close your eyes and think that these are all irrelevant and minor obstacles. Forget about it.
I've been working with my therapist on the Parent>Adult>Child model, because it seems a lot of my reaction are stuck in 'child' mode. I'm quite cognative usually, and I know the feelings are completely irrelevant, but I just can't get feelings and thoughts to match up :|
Now I'm trying not to let it make me withdraw, as that usually happens with these sorts of things.
I wondered if anyone can relate. I've always been very good at 'keeping up apperances' and not appearing anxious in public. When I was anxious, upset or overwhelmed, I'd just make polite excuses and leave.
However, past few months, I've turned into a crier! Last night I went to the GP (for a sicknote as I'm appealling against a benefit rejection, so without the appointment I'm stuck with no money) and they computer had my appointment wrong (honest, I'd had a telephone reminder that day! Another guy had the same issue). So I cried. And I mean really cried, uncontrollably, I just couldn't pull it together.
I don't know if you should make some kind purposeful effort to stop it. I would suggest paying attention to your feelings while you're crying, though - what kinds of things make you cry, what you feel like before, during, and after you cry. Sometimes odd behaviors or patterns like this come up out of nowhere, and the only thing you can do is treat it as a kind of story and find out what happens.
The health service and benefits situation by itself is enough to increase anyone's stress levels to make their crying threshold lower. I'm in tears myself, right now, after a bad appointment and long term lack of support. I'm not much of a crier but that's just what life does when crap builds up.
I cry at least once a year, but I find that when I usually cry, it's because the stress have accumulated over time and it has become too difficult to manage. Do you find that a lot of stressful things, even if they are minor, have happened to you over the past few months? Has anything changed in your life? I remember my high school drama teacher told us about a time when he cried because he saw a commercial on tv with puppies in it. Quite a ridiculous reaction on his part, but he did it because of how stressed he was. Crying is a really good way to let stress out I've found.
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