Re: Stupid little things, eating away at you?
You've not let it go. You need to learn to let go.
Maybe you never processed it properly and so repressed it.
Whatever happened, it's still a causing you pain, therefore, accept and forgive yourself. How?
In your heart, tell yourself a thousand times and do this everyday, that whatever happened, whatever was said, is no more, it has gone.
Doing that with meditation is useful. But logically you know it has gone, so you can either repeat yourself as above or cut down how much time you give your thoughts to this obssession. Then ween yourself out of this bad habit.
Your thoughts are torturing you. You should keep a worry journal or worry diary or something like that aswell, that helps.
1. Anxiety is an ALARM SYSTEM that believes a threat is imminent.
2. Our body & mind freak out, a strong sense of self needs protection.
3. 'What others think' - is a key concept in our mind which can be deconstructed so that it doesn't seem so threatening to our self, hence we need less protection, hence less anxiety alarm.