so sad i went to see harry potter alone

[jaydee7780]

hello


i actually went to see harry potter all alone its very depressin when you see people all around you having a good time and your there all alone

i felt so depressed after the films i think its not a good idea anymore going cinema alone sitting in a dark place all byyour self for two hours lol

reminds of me home lol

[Railroad Cancellation]

It's fine!

I actually enjoy going alone.. I went to see that movie by myself. The greatest aspect is that you don't have to talk **** to anyone. Whereas seeing the movie with someone else you are kind of aware of their presence and a need for conversation which can get cumbersome at times.

There's nothing wrong with being alone.

[sweetsweetcandy]

It's daunting the first time you see a film alone, but it gets so much easier after that. I do it all the time, since I live so close to the cinema. In fact, I went to see "Devil" alone today (horrible movie...there's one and a half hours of my life I'll never get back).

You don't talk during a movie anyway, so it doesn't make much difference if you go alone. I often see people sitting alone anyway. Although I will say it's less intimidating if you avoid Fri/Sat nights.

I think eating alone in a restaurant is much harder. I'm dying to go to this cafe again that serves the best breakfast, but I'm terrified of asking for "a table for one". I walk past every morning, and never end up going in. Maybe tomorrow

Point is, there should be no shame in enjoying your own company. I feel like we've been wired to believe that we have to be socialising all the time or we're total losers. And while I absolutely don't mind seeing a film with friends or family, I also have a great time going on my own.

[BetaBoy90]

Yes indeed, I guess the first few times it was nerve wracking for me. After a while it became no big deal though, it's nothing to fret after you get used to it.

[sarafinanickelbocker]

Hmm I was quite proud of myself the first time I went to a movie alone, but I suppose it isn't for everyone. Congrats for going, and I'm sorry it wasn't as enjoyable as you would have liked.

[Music Man]

I went to see it with my family but once the film started, it was just like I was there on my own.

I still feel on my own wether I'm with people or not

As of yet, I couldn't go to the cinema or eat out on my own, just because of negative thoughts saying 'What are people thinking if they see me on my own?'
I still need to get past those thoughts and relax more.

[jblazer]

Originally Posted by Music Man

I went to see it with my family but once the film started, it was just like I was there on my own.

I still feel on my own wether I'm with people or not

As of yet, I couldn't go to the cinema or eat out on my own, just because of negative thoughts saying 'What are people thinking if they see me on my own?'
I still need to get past those thoughts and relax more.

Lol

Nobody cares man, and so what if they do..? it's not the end of the world cause some guy saw you spill a drink, "OMG DID YOU SEE THAT? I'm gonna think about that 24/7 from now on!"

Also going to movies alone is the best way, because going with others is annoying since I payed $12 to see the damn thing. May as well watch it.

[Music Man]

Originally Posted by jblazer

Lol

Nobody cares man, and so what if they do..? it's not the end of the world cause some guy saw you spill a drink, "OMG DID YOU SEE THAT? I'm gonna think about that 24/7 from now on!"

Also going to movies alone is the best way, because going with others is annoying since I payed $12 to see the damn thing. May as well watch it.

I know, this is what I think after the situation but when I'm in the situation, my mind switches to negative mode. It annoys the hell out of me!

[Delicate]

Originally Posted by Music Man

As of yet, I couldn't go to the cinema or eat out on my own, just because of negative thoughts saying 'What are people thinking if they see me on my own?'
I still need to get past those thoughts and relax more.

Yeah I know the feeling. I've eaten out alone several times now but it was while I was on breaks at work and just in a cafe with a book or magazine. I guess that's exposure to a point so I'm happy with that, but to leave my house and walk into a restaurant alone would make me very uncomfortable.

I think it's cool when people go to the cinema alone I don't think it's sad at all. I guess it's annoying if you're too worried about everyone else to even enjoy the film. But hey at least you went through with it and sat through the movie even though you felt awkward. And it's better than sitting at home at least you got out.

[solasum]

Well, at least you gave it a shot.

I'm forcing myself to catch a movie this afternoon, but it's difficult when no one's counting on me. Plus, I'll have to get out in the cold and spend money.

[confidencelost]

I think you're brave to even go to the cinema alone.

Maybe you could use your cinema visits as a chance to meet people? You could look for other people who are alone and sit near to them. Then when the movie is finished you could try and start a conversation about it? I know it's really hard to do that kind of thing with SA, but it could work, right?

[Tristeza]

I went alone to the cinema most of the times (including this HP)... it's not a big deal for me. I go there to watch the movie (and I don't need others to do this). The only drawback is that I don't have anyone to discuss the movie afterwards. I'm (usually) not feeling excited enough to keep talking about it, anyway...

[Resonance]

I don't get why people feel the need to go and see films with other people. I have been to the cinema with my friends and my flatmates on various occasions, it was exactly the same as going on my own but with fighting over the popcorn - I mean, you just sit in a dark room and watch the film, you aren't having a conversation (and if you are, you should be shot) - what is the need for other people? I much prefer going to see films on my own.

[JimmyDeansRetartedCousin]

If you can learn to appreciate being by yourself, then you can appreciate the company of others.

Don't feel bad.

I must download that film, everybody's raving about it.

[cubanscorpio]

thats why i dont think its a good idea to go to the movies alone and why i dont do it. im a very observant person and going there seeing people hangin out with friends and having a good time its just gonna remind me of a school-type scenerio and it's gonna be depressing

[millenniumman75]

Harry Potter uses witchcraft to gain friends - he cheats. He is also too old for that Hogwarts school. He must have failed due to not doing his schoolwork or something. His friend Hormone is going to dump him in the next installment.

[SlyCooper]

The first few times it can feel awkward but after a while you get used to it. A lot of people go to the movies alone. You're pretty much just sitting there in the dark for two hours anyway, and you don't want to talk during a movie without being told to "shhh", so I don't see the big deal.

If you really think about it I don't even know why going to the movies became a social thing. Going grocery shopping is more social.

[bmwfan07]

I had this same concern when I first decided to go to the movies myself when I was around 16 or 17. But I decided I'd rather enjoy myself and the movie than worry about what everyone else thought. I still had some anxiety but it all but disappeared when the movie began and I was drawn in. It's still a little intimidating on weekend nights, when everyone's there with their SOs, friends, or family, but I'm somewhat used to it. It also helps that it's pretty dark in the theater so I'm able to feel more anonymous.

[SlyCooper]

Think about the times you have been to the movies with someone else. Do you remember looking around for people walking by themselves? No one does. No one notices or cares that you're at the movies alone.

[bmwfan07]

Originally Posted by SlyCooper

Think about the times you have been to the movies with someone else. Do you remember looking around for people walking by themselves? No one does. No one notices or cares that you're at the movies alone.

That's kind of the central theme in social anxiety, isn't it: that no one really cares about what you're doing, at least beyond a superficial level, or one that might affect them. Everyone's so preoccupied with themselves that you really don't matter. The fundamental problem is we overestimate our own importance, relevance, and impact on those with whom we interact. I think it's more of an ego problem than anything else. Yet while many of us realize that intellectually, it seems well-nigh impossible to actually internalize that fact and reconcile it with our own actions--and our conditioned anxiety responses.