Social Anxiety Support

hmf22 · 11-05-2009, 12:53 AM

So I stayed up till like 3 am talking to my roommates tonight- I'm usually, though not always, the one in my room while everyone else is hanging out. So I pushed myself to hang out with them tonight, and it was pretty fun- we laughed a lot and told stories and stuff. But now I feel stupid- I'm going back and scrutinizing every word I said and their reaction to the things I said, wondering if I said too much or didn't say enough. I told a really embarrassing story (which was hard to do) and they laughed and everything, but IDK. Whenever I talk, I study everyone's faces to see their reactions, and I feel like they were kinda looking at me like I'm weird or crazy or something, even though they had a good laugh at it and it reminded them of other stories they could tell, so it wasn't like a conversation killer or anything. IDK, I just feel kinda dumb right now =/ sometimes, it feels like even my "progress"s are failures

mind_games · 11-05-2009, 01:36 AM

Isn't SA great? It can even use our triumphs against us.

Meee · 11-05-2009, 01:47 AM

Yeah i do this a lot too, going back and over analyzing stuff, but try not to think about it so much. It's difficult when you open up more than you're used to, i know it makes me feel vulnerable and really weird, but it's still a good thing

You pushed yourself to do something, which is awesome

hopena · 11-05-2009, 09:52 AM

That tends to happen to me after I've done well in that way; I've tried to explain to others how the anxiety hits afterwards, instead of beforehand, and how it can be just as depressing... good for you for trying again, and "bonding" a little bit with your roommates, though.

veron · 11-05-2009, 11:12 AM

I think that if you made them laugh, you did great

shyvr6 · 11-05-2009, 02:25 PM

Opening up to people especially with an embarrassing story is a good way to bond with them. I'd say it was a success.

pixies · 11-05-2009, 05:15 PM

Yeah you did great

Pat yourself on the back and don't analyse it, that's the Social Anxiety monster fighting for it's survival

Just look forward to doing it again and next time the SA monster will have an even harder time when it tries to force you to analyse.

Iced Soul · 11-05-2009, 05:26 PM

I do that, too, thinking back on all the things I said and everything, but I also realize I did something that I find hard to do, so I congratulate myself and try not to think about what I said or did.
I think it's great you pushed yourself to do it, though. Making people laugh is always a good sign, I think. Great job!

11-05-2009, 12:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
hmf22 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Utah Gender: Female Posts: 115	So I made some progress tonight, but still.... So I stayed up till like 3 am talking to my roommates tonight- I'm usually, though not always, the one in my room while everyone else is hanging out. So I pushed myself to hang out with them tonight, and it was pretty fun- we laughed a lot and told stories and stuff. But now I feel stupid- I'm going back and scrutinizing every word I said and their reaction to the things I said, wondering if I said too much or didn't say enough. I told a really embarrassing story (which was hard to do) and they laughed and everything, but IDK. Whenever I talk, I study everyone's faces to see their reactions, and I feel like they were kinda looking at me like I'm weird or crazy or something, even though they had a good laugh at it and it reminded them of other stories they could tell, so it wasn't like a conversation killer or anything. IDK, I just feel kinda dumb right now =/ sometimes, it feels like even my "progress"s are failures

11-05-2009, 01:36 AM	#2 (permalink)
mind_games Status: dances, like a fridge Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,569	Isn't SA great? It can even use our triumphs against us. __________________ "this is not me, this is me reacting to your perception of me"

11-05-2009, 01:47 AM	#3 (permalink)
Meee Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: England Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 1,422	Yeah i do this a lot too, going back and over analyzing stuff, but try not to think about it so much. It's difficult when you open up more than you're used to, i know it makes me feel vulnerable and really weird, but it's still a good thing You pushed yourself to do something, which is awesome __________________ [Last.FM] [AnimeList]

11-05-2009, 02:25 PM	#6 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	Opening up to people especially with an embarrassing story is a good way to bond with them. I'd say it was a success. __________________ Music

11-05-2009, 05:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
Iced Soul Status: Dancing on Rainbows Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Calilalaland Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 1,775	I do that, too, thinking back on all the things I said and everything, but I also realize I did something that I find hard to do, so I congratulate myself and try not to think about what I said or did. I think it's great you pushed yourself to do it, though. Making people laugh is always a good sign, I think. Great job! __________________ I scraped my knees while I was praying And found a demon in my safest haven. Seems like, it's getting harder to believe in anything Than just to get lost in all my selfish thoughts. I wanna know what it'd be like To find perfection in my pride To see nothing in the light Just turn it off In all my spite, in all my spite, I'll turn it off. - Turn It Off - Paramore http://twitter.com/MissEerie

11-05-2009, 09:52 AM	#4 (permalink)
hopena Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 199	That tends to happen to me after I've done well in that way; I've tried to explain to others how the anxiety hits afterwards, instead of beforehand, and how it can be just as depressing... good for you for trying again, and "bonding" a little bit with your roommates, though.

11-05-2009, 11:12 AM	#5 (permalink)
veron Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Belgrade Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 488	I think that if you made them laugh, you did great

11-05-2009, 05:15 PM	#7 (permalink)
pixies Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: England, UK Gender: Male Posts: 144	Yeah you did great Pat yourself on the back and don't analyse it, that's the Social Anxiety monster fighting for it's survival Just look forward to doing it again and next time the SA monster will have an even harder time when it tries to force you to analyse.