Social Anxiety Support

ellektra · 07-09-2009, 12:39 AM

In between classes, I pretend like I am texting friends just so people think I am busy and think I actually have friends I talk to (I would really be texting people if I had friends, but I dont). Am I the only one that has stooped to the level of fake text messaging? people with SA do the darndest things.

aviationboy · 07-09-2009, 12:56 AM

nope, i do it sometimes at work if I'm sitting around and everyone is ignoring me (which is usually the case). i also do it if I'm waiting somewhere in public so I don't look too weird. the truth is though, i don't really have anyone to text LOL

so.. welcome to the club

*hands over gift basket*

Pelicanbay · 07-09-2009, 01:55 AM

i dont do it but its to the point where its like "why do i even have a cell phone" and to think i was planning on buying a new one lol tho i really do need a new one

aviationboy · 07-09-2009, 02:04 AM

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Originally Posted by Pelicanbay

but its to the point where its like "why do i even have a cell phone" and to think i was planning on buying a new one lol tho i really do need a new one

likewise, mine is basically used for communication between myself and work. i send maybe a few texts a month lol. i also looked at new phones (i have a 2 year old nokia, which works fine btw), heaven forbid i even looked at the new iphone. then i decided that i'll drop dead long before i ever spend $1000 on a phone i basically would never use

Pelicanbay · 07-09-2009, 02:13 AM

yeah im not talkin to very many ppl at all right now, i have a friend but she's with some guy 10 years older than her and she's 18, i hate hearing about him so i have kept my distance because she would call all the time and if i let her know how i feel about it the whole time, i will push her away so im just going to keep a bit of a distance until im involved with someone so i wont care as much

since being around women is considerably easier in the last few months, shouldnt take long

Jurexic5 · 07-09-2009, 02:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Pelicanbay

i dont do it but its to the point where its like "why do i even have a cell phone" and to think i was planning on buying a new one lol tho i really do need a new one

Same here. I still have a moto razr.. The first gen, LOL.

I might have pretended to text someone once or twice before to avoid looking at someone I didn't want to say 'hi' to probably.

I ended my cell phone plan not too long ago, and I was surprised how out of touch I was with everyone.

mind_games · 07-09-2009, 02:26 AM

People have asked me whether I'm texting my girlfriend?? I'm just playin tetris on my phone

aviationboy · 07-09-2009, 02:31 AM

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Originally Posted by Pelicanbay

yeah im not talkin to very many ppl at all right now, i have a friend but she's with some guy 10 years older than her and she's 18,

bah don't you just hate that crap? what is with women and dating men who are so much older? that's seen as fine by society, but i bet an 18 year old male dating a 28 year old female would be frowned upon by almost everyone. what a joke.
maybe when im 30 girls will notice me... NOT LIKELY

lovinlea · 07-09-2009, 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by mind_games

People have asked me whether I'm texting my girlfriend?? I'm just playin tetris on my phone

i'm playing bubble breaker lol

the people i text the most are my brothers or mom

gaz · 07-09-2009, 05:18 AM

No i don't fake text. The thing i hate is when i recieve a message and i think ''Yeah great!''...Then i open it and it's from Vodafone telling me about a ''great'' offer they have...Just when i thought someone cared :-(

mind_games · 07-09-2009, 05:25 AM

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Originally Posted by gaz

No i don't fake text. The thing i hate is when i recieve a message and i think ''Yeah great!''...Then i open it and it's from Vodafone telling me about a ''great'' offer they have...Just when i thought someone cared :-(

lol I hate that too! Cool, another human being sent me a txt.... No! Just an automated message letting me know my prepay plan is about to expire

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Aleforge · 07-09-2009, 05:30 AM

Hehe, I get the same thing, Verizon always sends me information and I get excited. I have actually been texting more, just out of trying to stay hip. I know my daughter blows her phone up she uses it so much. You guys should text each other for support. I was in the doc's office a few days ago and started to get really freaked out by this crazy kid staring at me running around. So I texted a few people about him and it make me feel better. Although I got some weird responses on how to scare him off.

pita · 07-09-2009, 05:34 AM

I've done that a couple of times. Most of the time I'm just playing bejeweled, though.

xXSadiXx · 07-09-2009, 06:15 AM

Bejeweled, Bubble Buster..you guys got the good stuff. Half the time I'm just playing the ****ty bowling demo that came with my phone. :P

deeds14 · 07-09-2009, 06:20 AM

I definately play with my phone while I'm waiting for class to start. It probably makes me look like I'm not interested in talking to anyone.

Tangent · 07-09-2009, 06:48 AM

I have never done this.

Over the past 2 years I have sent precisely 8 texts, and held less calls. I never use my phone...even when I had friends I communicated with them primarily by IM/Email.

Crystalline · 07-09-2009, 06:59 AM

I've had a love-hate affair with text messaging. I first started using text extensively in second year high school when Nokia first started becoming widely used here...I guess that was in 1994-95 (damn...that feels so long ago). It's an established and integral part of our culture and most of Asia and it's practically impossible not to use it. Banks, stores/malls, your dentist, your hairdresser/salon will all ask for your mobile number so they can contact you if you're using their services. I'm stubborn and tend to buck prevailing trends...it's very common here to resort to using text/playing with your phone when you're by yourself in public, most people appear to have a fear of looking alone and friendless in our society - so I make a point of not doing it (though I do prefer being texted to being called if it's a stranger). Mining of #s is a common thing for marketers, so practically the only texts I get are from my family members and offers from various banks etc. Sad.

I also need a new phone, but I hate the prevailing attitude here that everyone has to have the newest model.

JS86 · 07-09-2009, 07:26 AM

When I'm just standing around waiting for a class with no-one to talk to I will play around with the mobile phone, but not necessarily texting. It is not terribly exciting since it is a very old model of phone, with just basic phone calls and SMS and little else, but I can't justify a new mobile phone if I rarely use it. I only do it because I am either being ignored, or there is no-one to approach since everyone seems to be locked into conversation with other people, so I do it to stave off anxiety from being the "odd one out".

anomalous · 07-09-2009, 08:34 AM

lol...I've been known to play with my phone in order to "look busy" if I don't want to be bothered in a particular situation.

TaniaN · 07-09-2009, 09:46 AM

No but I find myself texting the most random people when I'm desperate. And this is why you all need email and internet on your phone, then you can really have something to look at. It's what I do lol

I've also wondered why I have a phone though, I use it to call exactly two people: mom and fiance. My best friend randomly texts me but not on a regular basis or anything.

07-09-2009, 12:39 AM	#1 (permalink)
ellektra Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Phx, AZ Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 106	Since text messaging is the cool new thing.. In between classes, I pretend like I am texting friends just so people think I am busy and think I actually have friends I talk to (I would really be texting people if I had friends, but I dont). Am I the only one that has stooped to the level of fake text messaging? people with SA do the darndest things.

07-09-2009, 02:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
mind_games Status: chasing shadows Join Date: Nov 2008 Age: 23 Posts: 1,412	People have asked me whether I'm texting my girlfriend?? I'm just playin tetris on my phone __________________ I too can love; But with only half a heart; And that I offer you. Accept what I am able to give; For were I to give you all; I could not bear your inevitable treachery.

07-09-2009, 06:15 AM	#14 (permalink)
xXSadiXx Status: MightyMorphin'PowerRanger Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Over there somewhere. Gender: Female Posts: 201	Bejeweled, Bubble Buster..you guys got the good stuff. Half the time I'm just playing the ****ty bowling demo that came with my phone. :P __________________ Take my soul, consume me whole. I'm no part of this world.

07-09-2009, 06:48 AM	#16 (permalink)
Tangent Status: Cynical Misanthrope Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: N.E. England Gender: Male Age: 18 Posts: 297	I have never done this. Over the past 2 years I have sent precisely 8 texts, and held less calls. I never use my phone...even when I had friends I communicated with them primarily by IM/Email. __________________ http://journalofasadact.blogspot.com/ - The daily goings on of a socially anxious dyspraxic pariah. http://asininerants.blogspot.com/ - The social, political, religious and miscellaneous musings of the above. Facebook - Add me!

07-09-2009, 12:56 AM	#2 (permalink)
aviationboy Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 374	nope, i do it sometimes at work if I'm sitting around and everyone is ignoring me (which is usually the case). i also do it if I'm waiting somewhere in public so I don't look too weird. the truth is though, i don't really have anyone to text LOL so.. welcome to the club hands over gift basket

07-09-2009, 01:55 AM	#3 (permalink)
Pelicanbay Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 153	i dont do it but its to the point where its like "why do i even have a cell phone" and to think i was planning on buying a new one lol tho i really do need a new one

07-09-2009, 02:13 AM	#5 (permalink)
Pelicanbay Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 153	yeah im not talkin to very many ppl at all right now, i have a friend but she's with some guy 10 years older than her and she's 18, i hate hearing about him so i have kept my distance because she would call all the time and if i let her know how i feel about it the whole time, i will push her away so im just going to keep a bit of a distance until im involved with someone so i wont care as much since being around women is considerably easier in the last few months, shouldnt take long

07-09-2009, 05:18 AM	#10 (permalink)
gaz Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Wales, Uk Gender: Male Age: 28 Posts: 905	No i don't fake text. The thing i hate is when i recieve a message and i think ''Yeah great!''...Then i open it and it's from Vodafone telling me about a ''great'' offer they have...Just when i thought someone cared :-(

07-09-2009, 05:30 AM	#12 (permalink)
Aleforge Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Missouri Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 127	Hehe, I get the same thing, Verizon always sends me information and I get excited. I have actually been texting more, just out of trying to stay hip. I know my daughter blows her phone up she uses it so much. You guys should text each other for support. I was in the doc's office a few days ago and started to get really freaked out by this crazy kid staring at me running around. So I texted a few people about him and it make me feel better. Although I got some weird responses on how to scare him off.

07-09-2009, 05:34 AM	#13 (permalink)
pita Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Gender: Female Posts: 2,121	I've done that a couple of times. Most of the time I'm just playing bejeweled, though.

07-09-2009, 06:20 AM	#15 (permalink)
deeds14 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Posts: 255	I definately play with my phone while I'm waiting for class to start. It probably makes me look like I'm not interested in talking to anyone.

07-09-2009, 06:59 AM	#17 (permalink)
Crystalline Status: Tempestade Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Manila, Philippines Gender: Female Posts: 130	I've had a love-hate affair with text messaging. I first started using text extensively in second year high school when Nokia first started becoming widely used here...I guess that was in 1994-95 (damn...that feels so long ago). It's an established and integral part of our culture and most of Asia and it's practically impossible not to use it. Banks, stores/malls, your dentist, your hairdresser/salon will all ask for your mobile number so they can contact you if you're using their services. I'm stubborn and tend to buck prevailing trends...it's very common here to resort to using text/playing with your phone when you're by yourself in public, most people appear to have a fear of looking alone and friendless in our society - so I make a point of not doing it (though I do prefer being texted to being called if it's a stranger). Mining of #s is a common thing for marketers, so practically the only texts I get are from my family members and offers from various banks etc. Sad. I also need a new phone, but I hate the prevailing attitude here that everyone has to have the newest model.

07-09-2009, 07:26 AM	#18 (permalink)
JS86 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Melbourne, Australia Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 310	When I'm just standing around waiting for a class with no-one to talk to I will play around with the mobile phone, but not necessarily texting. It is not terribly exciting since it is a very old model of phone, with just basic phone calls and SMS and little else, but I can't justify a new mobile phone if I rarely use it. I only do it because I am either being ignored, or there is no-one to approach since everyone seems to be locked into conversation with other people, so I do it to stave off anxiety from being the "odd one out".

07-09-2009, 08:34 AM	#19 (permalink)
anomalous Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2004 Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 415	lol...I've been known to play with my phone in order to "look busy" if I don't want to be bothered in a particular situation.

07-09-2009, 09:46 AM	#20 (permalink)
TaniaN Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: NYC Gender: Female Age: 30 Posts: 234	No but I find myself texting the most random people when I'm desperate. And this is why you all need email and internet on your phone, then you can really have something to look at. It's what I do lol I've also wondered why I have a phone though, I use it to call exactly two people: mom and fiance. My best friend randomly texts me but not on a regular basis or anything.