Social Anxiety Support

GCedrik · 11-22-2009, 09:54 AM

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STKinTHEmud · 11-22-2009, 07:46 PM

Good post! I never thought of personifying that negative voice as someone other than the person I want to be. I like this idea; I think it might be easier to ward off those negative thoughts if we think of them as belonging to someone else within us than it is if we think of it as simply ourselves. It's very Satan-esque really (though I'm not religious) in the sense that it personifies qualities within ourselves and ascribes them to an invisible enemy. I'm going to give it a shot.

gozinsky · 11-23-2009, 11:59 AM

Great post. Sort of reminds me of this book I read called "Taming your Gremlin." In the book, the negative voice is personified as a gremlin and it says to simply notice it without reacting and it will dissipate. It didn't work for me, but I think your advice on how to actively counteract it sounds promising. I'm gonna try it. Thanks.

evrchngn · 11-23-2009, 01:46 PM

Great post.
My analogy is a little different but I think it's similar. You are right, these suggestions/thoughts ARE NEVER PLEASANT!!

It's like if there was another person in your life who as soon as you entered a room whispered in your ear "man, they are all laughing at you, their gonna hate you, what about that pimple LOL, etc". How long would you stick around this person. If there were an actual person who followed you around going "remember that time you fell in front of all those people!," and other hurtful memories, how long would you put up with it. This is for real.

And the only time it tries to come off your friend is when it is attacking others because according to it, they deserve it because they've done you so wrong. Have they? I mean sure, people can be mean, but they too are captive sometimes. it wants people going after each other. We can rise above battling each other.

You can have someone insulting you and see that they are captive and lost and just let it go and not be hurt.

I don't want to seem all epic about this and come off weird but there is something to this. A heckofalot actually.

I'm not religious either but, yes, the descriptions of satan do kinda fit. I feel that he is more a fable, an analogy for something that can't be described/grasped otherwise. Not to take anything from those who take it literally. It is pretty fascinating.

gozinsky · 11-24-2009, 07:54 AM

That's great. I think you are doing fantastic from how it sounds. I'm really working on this now and I can already see it helping me. Thanks.

caithiggs · 11-24-2009, 08:01 AM

Nice!

11-22-2009, 09:54 AM	#1 (permalink)
GCedrik Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: . Posts: 8	. .

11-22-2009, 07:46 PM	#2 (permalink)
STKinTHEmud Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: CA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 582	Good post! I never thought of personifying that negative voice as someone other than the person I want to be. I like this idea; I think it might be easier to ward off those negative thoughts if we think of them as belonging to someone else within us than it is if we think of it as simply ourselves. It's very Satan-esque really (though I'm not religious) in the sense that it personifies qualities within ourselves and ascribes them to an invisible enemy. I'm going to give it a shot.

11-23-2009, 11:59 AM	#3 (permalink)
gozinsky Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: arizona Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 594	Great post. Sort of reminds me of this book I read called "Taming your Gremlin." In the book, the negative voice is personified as a gremlin and it says to simply notice it without reacting and it will dissipate. It didn't work for me, but I think your advice on how to actively counteract it sounds promising. I'm gonna try it. Thanks.

11-23-2009, 01:46 PM	#4 (permalink)
evrchngn Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Posts: 51	Great post. My analogy is a little different but I think it's similar. You are right, these suggestions/thoughts ARE NEVER PLEASANT!! It's like if there was another person in your life who as soon as you entered a room whispered in your ear "man, they are all laughing at you, their gonna hate you, what about that pimple LOL, etc". How long would you stick around this person. If there were an actual person who followed you around going "remember that time you fell in front of all those people!," and other hurtful memories, how long would you put up with it. This is for real. And the only time it tries to come off your friend is when it is attacking others because according to it, they deserve it because they've done you so wrong. Have they? I mean sure, people can be mean, but they too are captive sometimes. it wants people going after each other. We can rise above battling each other. You can have someone insulting you and see that they are captive and lost and just let it go and not be hurt. I don't want to seem all epic about this and come off weird but there is something to this. A heckofalot actually. I'm not religious either but, yes, the descriptions of satan do kinda fit. I feel that he is more a fable, an analogy for something that can't be described/grasped otherwise. Not to take anything from those who take it literally. It is pretty fascinating.

11-24-2009, 07:54 AM	#5 (permalink)
gozinsky Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: arizona Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 594	That's great. I think you are doing fantastic from how it sounds. I'm really working on this now and I can already see it helping me. Thanks.

11-24-2009, 08:01 AM	#6 (permalink)
caithiggs Status: n00b Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: no trace Gender: Female Posts: 250	Nice!