Question about Facebook

[Michael 0]

So in my speech class I have been trying to talk to this girl and I have on several occasions. Today she did her final speech for the class, and as usual I complimented her afterwards and we exchanged a few words. Now I am tempted to ‘friend’ her on Facebook, but we don’t really know each other well and I don’t want to seem like a creeper. So my question is would it seem odd if I did? I just opened an account and have 0 friends on it and really only did it because she is always on it before class starts.

Also she seems to smile a bit and ‘perk up’ whenever I talk to her – does this mean anything, or is she just being nice.

Please understand that I have no experience with this sorta thing so this may seem like a dumb question to some of you.

[JenN2791]

I get that way... I eventually never ask anyone if I can add them lol

BUT there have been a few who would talk to me a lot during the semester, then ask outta nowhere what my FB is.

Just an honest opinion, would you guys have a bit of small talk each class? How often do you guys do some small talk? If it's multiple times a wk, then I think it's ok to ask if you can add her. If not, then... it would be a bit weird. But that's just me.

Even with people I've spoken to every day in class, I still don't have the guts to ask them to add me ha

[Theologic]

o.O I must not understand people at all lol. I don't ever ask to add someone. I'll just type in their name and viola. In MySpace days though, I suppose that's another story. But ignore me..I might just be a creep.

[CrimsonTrigger]

I'd do it. People add others on facebook all the time without asking. People do it to me too, naturally only people that I've had some kind of friendly contact with. I don't even use my facebook or have any information on it, but people add me anyways. I say give it a shot. She probably won't think you are creepy. She'll probably think you're friendly and you want to be her friend.

[diafuryl]

Just add her, it's not weird to add people without asking.

[Michael 0]

The class is only 50 minutes, 3 times a week and we seem to exchange a bit of small talk once a week, but we seem to be the only people in that class that compliment anyone after their speech.

I wasn't going to ask her in person though - just send her a friend request. Also, there are only 2 classes left, and then a final so its not terrible if I seem a little creepy by it because I won't see her again after this class. And for what its worth, she has sat next to me everyday this semester.

[JenN2791]

Originally Posted by Michael 0

The class is only 50 minutes, 3 times a week and we seem to exchange a bit of small talk once a week, but we seem to be the only people in that class that compliment anyone after their speech.

I wasn't going to ask her in person though - just send her a friend request. Also, there are only 2 classes left, and then a final so its not terrible if I seem a little creepy by it because I won't see her again after this class. And for what its worth, she has sat next to me everyday this semester.

Then it seems totally fine to add her. If you had added her in the very beginning of the semester or something, then well.. that'd be weird to her probably. So go right on ahead

[Sabreena]

In general, it's okay to add someone as long as you have interacted with them enough to know their name. From what you've said, it's definitely okay to add her. However, I think you should add a bunch of other people first (maybe other people in your class) so she doesn't think you're singling her out.

[Shadow2009]

add her. Seriously. It's no big deal adding anyone on Facebook these days. It's just a tiny notification at the top left hand side, and she'll probably click "accept" instantly.

[Michael 0]

the only reason why I am hesitating is that I don't have any other friends. I don't know anyone else, and I don't want that to seem weird.

[JenN2791]

Originally Posted by Michael 0

the only reason why I am hesitating is that I don't have any other friends. I don't know anyone else, and I don't want that to seem weird.

Question about your account:

Are you able to *hide* the Friends section on your profile? I know with the Timeline layout (the one where you can add w/e picture you want up top as a banner on your profile) the company rolled out, you can definitely hide it. I forgot if you can do so on the old layout (which I assume you have since new members still start off with that now).

I actually think you can. You can always hide that section (set it to where only YOU can see it, nobody else). That way, if you're that worried that she'll see you have nobody else on there (yet), she won't even realize it. Although, I don'tthink people in general would make a big deal if they saw that. They'd have to be pretty pathetic to make fun of you for that...

[Sabreena]

Originally Posted by JenN2791

Question about your account:

Are you able to *hide* the Friends section on your profile? I know with the Timeline layout (the one where you can add w/e picture you want up top as a banner on your profile) the company rolled out, you can definitely hide it. I forgot if you can do so on the old layout (which I assume you have since new members still start off with that now).

I actually think you can. You can always hide that section (set it to where only YOU can see it, nobody else). That way, if you're that worried that she'll see you have nobody else on there (yet), she won't even realize it. Although, I don'tthink people in general would make a big deal if they saw that. They'd have to be pretty pathetic to make fun of you for that...

You'd be surprised what people make fun of you for. There is an option for hiding your friends list, but if you have no friends, people will be able to tell anyway because no one likes or comments on your posts.

[JenN2791]

Originally Posted by Sabreena

You'd be surprised what people make fun of you for. There is an option for hiding your friends list, but if you have no friends, people will be able to tell anyway because no one likes or comments on your posts.

True :\ This girl he speaks of seems very nice though, so I would hope she isn't that low of a person deep down.

[Michael 0]

Well bugger. I keep going on facebook and am about to do it but I don't lol...I hate this.

[river1]

Same situation happened to my sister and she thought it was creepy.. but shes very into facebook like kind of obsessed and over analyzing everything so i personally think u shouldnt and should try and talk 2 her more in person first

[LaChocolatine]

I say go for it!
I've been added by people on Facebook after only speaking to them once and, while I found that slightly unexpected, I didn't really give it much thought. You've spoken to her a few times and have known her a little while and she knows who you are...I don't see anything wrong with adding her.

I understand your hesitation with regards to having no other Facebook friends but I don't think she'll really pay much attention to the other posts on your page, she might just assume that it's your privacy settings or that you've only just set up your Facebook page.
Maybe you could try adding a few other friends or acquaintances first so that you have a few other friends but I don't think you need to stress about it.
I'm sure she'll be happy to see your request

[Rossy]

Not another FB question.

[missalyssa]

Originally Posted by Michael 0

the only reason why I am hesitating is that I don't have any other friends. I don't know anyone else, and I don't want that to seem weird.

To be honest as a girl it would be weird if a guy added me and he had NO other friends.

Add some other people first (friends fam etc) - then add her.