I used to be close to this one person before and we work at the same place along with some of our friends. Anyway, she really does have a very bad work ethic (being late, not finishing tasks, etc.) so she was let go. After that, she became really depressed and I tried to be with her as much as I could - and she does the same thing to me when I'm sad or just in need of company. It was nice for some time, but then I caught her posting passive aggressive comments about me and other of our friends on facebook - I am a patient person and I tried to just ignore it, but sometimes it just hurts too much when a person whom you really treated as a friend is somewhat backstabbing you with these passive aggressive posts.
So just a few weeks ago, I confronted her about all of her passive aggressive posts on facebook, which I really think was for me - Yes, I may sound paranoid, but really, the coincidences on timing and other resemblances to me are just too close to let it pass - and a bit of woman's intuition there. So I emailed her and asked her that if she has any problems with me, she should just tell it to my face. Because really, I have a lot of other friends and I don't want to waste my time with someone who doesn't like me. As a passive aggressive person, she denied all of my "accusations" and said that it was for another person.
Now this is where I don't know if what was right:
if there's one thing I can't tolerate, it's making me look like I'm stupid right to my face. I asked some trusted friends if they think those passive aggressive posts were for me and all of them thought that they were - so I'm not alone here. So I just replied that I don't believe her and I'm tired of being patient with her about all the mocking she does to me - she also often makes me a butt of her "jokes" - which I just try to ignore. (Note that her jokes often involve belittling people around her whom she thinks are of no importance - or the people who can't defend themselves)
So the next day, on facebook again, I found her putting out more passive aggressive posts for me - which are now more obvious than her first ones. I tried to ignore it, but she also posts on the walls of our common friends and even made a facebook page mocking me (note that she is not doing this alone, and has found a friend who would also do the same things on FB.) - I'm just grateful that our common friends are just ignoring this whole fiasco, and as for me, I'm just trying all my best to be quiet and just go on with my life.
Now, I'm just ignoring all of these, but it's just super frustrating! I know I shouldn't be affected, but I really am hurt and appalled by this situation.
Just one question: was I correct in confronting this "friend" about her behavior?
Sorry for the long story/rant. I really just had to vent out this frustration.