Social Anxiety Support

MissLuxorEminor · 11-03-2009, 12:59 PM

I can say that throughout my teenage years I have broken my shell with SA. When I moved to apple valley California I told myself that I would be loud like I always wanted. I always had a weird sense of humor along with well a big taste in the metal scene. When I started my first year of high school I made friends that seemed to be alot like me. The ones that would stay away from the big crowds. Now Im happy to say that all those people are some of my best friends now. Those days were some of the best of my life. Unfornetly things change my parents lost the house we lived in and everyone got laid off and we were forced to move somewhere more affordable. We moved to lake Havasu arizona. Not so bad but the sad part was that it was my senior year and I was not able to graduate with alot of my peers that I miss so much.
Luckily with the time I had to myself I proceeded to get really good at guitar, and I have a boyfriend of 3 years now. I moved out with him when I turned 18 to northern california. Which was a big difference. There I begin to experiment with alot of drugs and play shows with some other great musicians. But yet again I had to move back here because the drug use was way out of control, my boyfriend started doing cocaine and drinking all the time with his friends.Always out late at the bars (which i was not able to go to at the time) and I couldnt handle it anymore. We moved back to Arizona.
Things are not all to bad right now I have a great job as well as him. But now we are both coping with not having real friends or things to do which is making things really difficult both our relationship and our quality of life. I do have friends but they are not my type, they are not loud and obnoxious when they are drunk instead they are all boy crazy. And instead of wanting to goto a show and mosh they want to rub up on some frat boy. I can honestly say I hate it and It makes me stay home more often (also the fact that I have already gotten kicked out of their favorite club hehe..). I can honestly say that it makes me go on and off into depression mode. Because I feel that at this point and being so young that I can be having so much more quality fun with real friends. Although I make enough money to live on and I am learning how to tattoo, and record decent music. It still does not feel like enough. Well I need to get to work now so Ill check on this post later tonight!

Hopefully I can have some one on here that can relate!If not thanks for reading!

Toad Licker · 11-03-2009, 01:37 PM

Hey MissLuxorEminor, welcome to

MissLuxorEminor · 11-03-2009, 10:05 PM

Well I guess you can call this my past couple of years in a nutshell.Ha

CrashMedicate · 11-04-2009, 05:44 AM

I'm in a similar situation myself.

A year ago my ex-girlfriend and I moved from NY to FL together so she could be closer to family. Well, after almost 4 years together, the relationship ended. Here I am right now, alone, with no friends and no life whatsoever, my family is up in NY, and I'm stuck working at a retail store because the job market down here is weak. I'm seriously debating whether or not to go back to NY right now because I have 1 good friend up there, and 2 or 3 other old friendships that I'm confident I can piece together again. I'm 99.9% positive I can once again have a social life if I go back home. I really had a good life in NY and I want it back in the worst way. Good salaried office job, nice apartment in a great area, etc. Right now I'm really trying hard to weigh and balance the positives/negatives of staying here in Florida or going back to New York so I can make a decision.

What I'm doing is making a list of all the positives/negatives, printing them out and highlighting what's most important to me. Hopefully I can make the right decision.

I definitely can relate to your situation. There's no better way to put it than to say it stinks! I hope everything works out for you.

11-03-2009, 12:59 PM	#1 (permalink)
MissLuxorEminor Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	My life with SA I can say that throughout my teenage years I have broken my shell with SA. When I moved to apple valley California I told myself that I would be loud like I always wanted. I always had a weird sense of humor along with well a big taste in the metal scene. When I started my first year of high school I made friends that seemed to be alot like me. The ones that would stay away from the big crowds. Now Im happy to say that all those people are some of my best friends now. Those days were some of the best of my life. Unfornetly things change my parents lost the house we lived in and everyone got laid off and we were forced to move somewhere more affordable. We moved to lake Havasu arizona. Not so bad but the sad part was that it was my senior year and I was not able to graduate with alot of my peers that I miss so much. Luckily with the time I had to myself I proceeded to get really good at guitar, and I have a boyfriend of 3 years now. I moved out with him when I turned 18 to northern california. Which was a big difference. There I begin to experiment with alot of drugs and play shows with some other great musicians. But yet again I had to move back here because the drug use was way out of control, my boyfriend started doing cocaine and drinking all the time with his friends.Always out late at the bars (which i was not able to go to at the time) and I couldnt handle it anymore. We moved back to Arizona. Things are not all to bad right now I have a great job as well as him. But now we are both coping with not having real friends or things to do which is making things really difficult both our relationship and our quality of life. I do have friends but they are not my type, they are not loud and obnoxious when they are drunk instead they are all boy crazy. And instead of wanting to goto a show and mosh they want to rub up on some frat boy. I can honestly say I hate it and It makes me stay home more often (also the fact that I have already gotten kicked out of their favorite club hehe..). I can honestly say that it makes me go on and off into depression mode. Because I feel that at this point and being so young that I can be having so much more quality fun with real friends. Although I make enough money to live on and I am learning how to tattoo, and record decent music. It still does not feel like enough. Well I need to get to work now so Ill check on this post later tonight! Hopefully I can have some one on here that can relate!If not thanks for reading!

11-03-2009, 01:37 PM	#2 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,638	Hey MissLuxorEminor, welcome to __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

11-04-2009, 05:44 AM	#4 (permalink)
CrashMedicate Status: Racing through life Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Riiiight here. Gender: Male Age: 24 Posts: 205	I'm in a similar situation myself. A year ago my ex-girlfriend and I moved from NY to FL together so she could be closer to family. Well, after almost 4 years together, the relationship ended. Here I am right now, alone, with no friends and no life whatsoever, my family is up in NY, and I'm stuck working at a retail store because the job market down here is weak. I'm seriously debating whether or not to go back to NY right now because I have 1 good friend up there, and 2 or 3 other old friendships that I'm confident I can piece together again. I'm 99.9% positive I can once again have a social life if I go back home. I really had a good life in NY and I want it back in the worst way. Good salaried office job, nice apartment in a great area, etc. Right now I'm really trying hard to weigh and balance the positives/negatives of staying here in Florida or going back to New York so I can make a decision. What I'm doing is making a list of all the positives/negatives, printing them out and highlighting what's most important to me. Hopefully I can make the right decision. I definitely can relate to your situation. There's no better way to put it than to say it stinks! I hope everything works out for you. __________________ A man has to have goals. A man without goals is like a car without steering. You're going to crash.

11-03-2009, 10:05 PM	#3 (permalink)
MissLuxorEminor Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	Well I guess you can call this my past couple of years in a nutshell.Ha