Social Anxiety Support

KurtG85 · 12-16-2009, 02:22 AM

Heres a random thread I stumbled upon which does a great job of summarizing what I perceive to essentially be the same thing as some basic buddhist principles for controlling negative thoughts; ones which I have used for a long time to help with my social anxiety. The post is purely secular by the way.

I think the kind of thinking described in this post is a massive root of social anxiety and an important state of mind to overcome if you want to improve your social anxiety substantially.

NOTE: For some reason the site censors the letters in stars which are: "o-fear", without the quotation marks and without the dash.
http://www.*****.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4823

mind_games · 12-16-2009, 03:01 AM

Hmm I'm yet to read the whole thing, but that SickJoke guy used to be here too, and this whole idea sounds familiar.

DreamyDove · 12-16-2009, 12:20 PM

I read in a book about a therapist suggesting to his patient that she shift her focus from internal to external. Negative thinking, one's own body and physical symptoms that can take place in a moment of anxiety can be the point of focus to some1 and cause a disoriented feeling and make everything else seem like a blur. focusing on more aspects of sound n visual detail may help some ppl with this problem maybe

Stargirl09 · 12-16-2009, 12:23 PM

I focus too much on the internal, all I ever think about is if people can hear me swallow. It drives me crazy, so external thought is more effective as is thinking positively cos when I say to myself 'RELAX' then it gives me some control.

redtogo72 · 12-16-2009, 04:27 PM

Thanks for the link! I do this all the time. The only thing that seems to make me feel a little better is to start talking. I can't help notice what's going on around me, and trying to ignore it would just cause me to be even more withdrawn.

endtroducing · 12-18-2009, 02:42 AM

Thanks for posting that. Interesting idea...I definitely have more of an ESFR when feeling socially anxious

12-16-2009, 02:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
KurtG85 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Missouri Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 544	Moving your frame of reference from external to internal to improve your SAD Heres a random thread I stumbled upon which does a great job of summarizing what I perceive to essentially be the same thing as some basic buddhist principles for controlling negative thoughts; ones which I have used for a long time to help with my social anxiety. The post is purely secular by the way. I think the kind of thinking described in this post is a massive root of social anxiety and an important state of mind to overcome if you want to improve your social anxiety substantially. NOTE: For some reason the site censors the letters in stars which are: "o-fear", without the quotation marks and without the dash. http://www.*****.com/viewtopic.php?f=5&t=4823 __________________ Rule #1 for people new to psych meds: http://www.depressionforums.org/foru...hp?act=SR&f=55 Meds I have experience with: Celexa, Lexapro, Paxil, Prozac, Luvox, Zoloft, Desipramine, Nortriptyline, Imipramine, Remeron, Wellbutrin, Cymbalta, Pristiq, Effexor, Trazodone, Risperdal, Geodon, Abilify, Buspar, Dexedrine, Focalin, Adderall, Concerta, Ritalin, Ativan, Klonopin, Neurontin, Guanfacine, Lamictal, Lithium, Provigil, Strattera, Most all the herbal stuff.

12-16-2009, 03:01 AM	#2 (permalink)
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12-16-2009, 12:20 PM	#3 (permalink)
DreamyDove Status: Perv Ranger #9 Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Neptune Gender: Female Posts: 72	I read in a book about a therapist suggesting to his patient that she shift her focus from internal to external. Negative thinking, one's own body and physical symptoms that can take place in a moment of anxiety can be the point of focus to some1 and cause a disoriented feeling and make everything else seem like a blur. focusing on more aspects of sound n visual detail may help some ppl with this problem maybe

12-16-2009, 12:23 PM	#4 (permalink)
Stargirl09 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Wyke, Bradford Gender: Female Posts: 697	I focus too much on the internal, all I ever think about is if people can hear me swallow. It drives me crazy, so external thought is more effective as is thinking positively cos when I say to myself 'RELAX' then it gives me some control.

12-16-2009, 04:27 PM	#5 (permalink)
redtogo72 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Posts: 419	Thanks for the link! I do this all the time. The only thing that seems to make me feel a little better is to start talking. I can't help notice what's going on around me, and trying to ignore it would just cause me to be even more withdrawn.

12-18-2009, 02:42 AM	#6 (permalink)
endtroducing Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: cali Gender: Female Posts: 297	Thanks for posting that. Interesting idea...I definitely have more of an ESFR when feeling socially anxious