Social Anxiety Support

iranair777 · 05-16-2009, 02:22 AM

Well, where do I start? This really beautiful girl added me on facebook about 3 weeks ago. I didn't think much of it then, but a week later everything changed. She messaged me when she saw me on facebook and our relationship has grown since then. I still have my regret about not taking the first move, and still will, but all I have to say that I haven't been so happy for a very long time.
We talked, especially last night for over 2 hours, and on the first day it felt, and still does, like I've known her for all my life. I still feel shy sometimes and do find that occasionally a tumbleweed goes past, but it picks up afterwards. What [s]I[/s] we really hate is that we are 300 miles apart.
One thing that I have found when e-mailing her (before the internet was connected at my new house) is that I always feel they seem too pushy. I have consulted my other friend (who is also a girl) and she says it isn't but I still feel it is.
I just have to still think of things to talk about cause I personally dont like it when everything becomes too repetitive. I'll keep you updated on any developments when they happen, but I got to give some advice and say fight it and go for it. Although she made the first move, and I still regret it, i've found that once your in it its easy to carry on with someone (as long as you've watched enough love films and read 'A walk to remember'

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Ospi · 05-16-2009, 04:10 AM

Grats mate. Hopefully your anxiety won't completely destroy yours like it did mine.

Encore · 05-16-2009, 06:12 AM

Don't hold back and if it doesnt work out its not the end of the world. Just keep in mind that shes not the only girl in the world and in the big scheme of things it doesnt matter what you do.

iranair777 · 05-17-2009, 04:05 AM

Thanks guys

I'm actually talking to her on msn now and have the webcam running. I was nervous at first, but now i'm quite calm. We have so many things in common and I never thought that this will ever happen.

Ospi · 05-17-2009, 04:08 AM

Well don't talk to us then lol<!!

iranair777 · 05-17-2009, 04:22 AM

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Originally Posted by Ospi

Well don't talk to us then lol<!!

lol; she actually was busy then

Pathetic · 05-17-2009, 04:27 AM

I'm happy for you. But keep in mind that it's still internet... I hope it will get on well for you in real life.

valley_girl1919 · 05-17-2009, 12:57 PM

Thats great...dont let anyone discourage you from this...online relationships maybe hard but they can work.I met a wonderful girl online about three years ago an I dont regret it one bit. Girls always make life better

aviationboy · 05-17-2009, 05:48 PM

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Originally Posted by valley_girl1919

Girls always make life better

lol you cannot be serious

hiimnotcool · 05-17-2009, 06:59 PM

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Originally Posted by aviationboy

lol you cannot be serious

LOL! isn't that the truth. i've been in 2 long term relationships (over 1 year for one and over 2 years for another) and i'm not exaggerating when I say that some of the most miserable moments in my life was when I was with them. I constantly thought of breaking up with them just to be alone.

On the flip side, some of my happiest moments were with them too. Relationships are no different then anything else in life-there's the good and there's the bad. It's all worth it in the end I think.

nubly · 05-18-2009, 07:44 AM

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Originally Posted by aviationboy

lol you cannot be serious

i think he meant a sexual relationship makes things better

iranair777 · 05-18-2009, 08:02 AM

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Originally Posted by nubly

i think he meant a sexual relationship makes things better

obviously, but you dont always need sex to make you happy.

05-16-2009, 02:22 AM	#1 (permalink)
iranair777 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: West London Gender: Male Posts: 62	Met a girl - relationship talk Well, where do I start? This really beautiful girl added me on facebook about 3 weeks ago. I didn't think much of it then, but a week later everything changed. She messaged me when she saw me on facebook and our relationship has grown since then. I still have my regret about not taking the first move, and still will, but all I have to say that I haven't been so happy for a very long time. We talked, especially last night for over 2 hours, and on the first day it felt, and still does, like I've known her for all my life. I still feel shy sometimes and do find that occasionally a tumbleweed goes past, but it picks up afterwards. What [s]I[/s] we really hate is that we are 300 miles apart. One thing that I have found when e-mailing her (before the internet was connected at my new house) is that I always feel they seem too pushy. I have consulted my other friend (who is also a girl) and she says it isn't but I still feel it is. I just have to still think of things to talk about cause I personally dont like it when everything becomes too repetitive. I'll keep you updated on any developments when they happen, but I got to give some advice and say fight it and go for it. Although she made the first move, and I still regret it, i've found that once your in it its easy to carry on with someone (as long as you've watched enough love films and read 'A walk to remember' )

05-16-2009, 04:10 AM	#2 (permalink)
Ospi Status: Swoit Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,499	Grats mate. Hopefully your anxiety won't completely destroy yours like it did mine.

05-16-2009, 06:12 AM	#3 (permalink)
Encore Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: New Jersey Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 207	Don't hold back and if it doesnt work out its not the end of the world. Just keep in mind that shes not the only girl in the world and in the big scheme of things it doesnt matter what you do.

05-17-2009, 04:05 AM	#4 (permalink)
iranair777 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: West London Gender: Male Posts: 62	Thanks guys I'm actually talking to her on msn now and have the webcam running. I was nervous at first, but now i'm quite calm. We have so many things in common and I never thought that this will ever happen.

05-17-2009, 04:08 AM	#5 (permalink)
Ospi Status: Swoit Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,499	Well don't talk to us then lol<!!

05-17-2009, 04:27 AM	#7 (permalink)
Pathetic Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Nowhere Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 95	I'm happy for you. But keep in mind that it's still internet... I hope it will get on well for you in real life.

05-17-2009, 12:57 PM	#8 (permalink)
valley_girl1919 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: alabama Gender: Female Posts: 360	Thats great...dont let anyone discourage you from this...online relationships maybe hard but they can work.I met a wonderful girl online about three years ago an I dont regret it one bit. Girls always make life better