Social Anxiety Support

applekiwi · 06-20-2012, 06:45 PM

It seems like I make every new person I meet one on one feel uncomfortable. I start thinking too much about my actions and words and about what they are thinking. I begin to not be able to say what I really want to say, and start talking in this weird babyish voice when I do say something. When I do say something that I want to say, I usually blush a lot. This makes it EXTREMELY hard to make new friends. I don't think I've made a new friend in a very long time.

Silverella · 06-20-2012, 06:56 PM

I do the same - but my advice would be to just keep trying and keep talking anyway. The chances are no-one's judging you as harshly as you're judging yourself

and eventually as you get used to the other person, you'll start to sound more natural. Even if it takes years

!

PickleNose · 06-20-2012, 07:01 PM

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Originally Posted by applekiwi

It seems like I make every new person I meet one on one feel uncomfortable. I start thinking too much about my actions and words and about what they are thinking. I begin to not be able to say what I really want to say, and start talking in this weird babyish voice when I do say something. When I do say something that I want to say, I usually blush a lot. This makes it EXTREMELY hard to make new friends. I don't think I've made a new friend in a very long time.

Ehhh. Everything makes people uncomfortable these days. You can't even breathe anymore. It's probably not even your fault.

applesauce5482 · 06-20-2012, 07:05 PM

Yeah I feel the same way. I even made some of my teachers feel uncomfortable when I was in high school. They looked terrified of me. haaha. It hurt my feelings back then but now I am used to it

applekiwi · 06-20-2012, 07:07 PM

Yeah, I understand. Its just the worst feeling to know that your the reason someone feels that way. And I feel so strongly that its not even the real me thats making them feel this way, which makes it so much more frustrating.

applekiwi · 06-20-2012, 07:08 PM

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Originally Posted by 321kyle

Yeah I feel the same way. I even made some of my teachers feel uncomfortable when I was in high school. They looked terrified of me. haaha. It hurt my feelings back then but now I am used to it

This happens to me too!!!

SydneyCarton · 06-20-2012, 09:03 PM

I hardly ever talk, and when I do it feels totally awkward. So, yeah, I'm with you.

kilgoretrout · 06-21-2012, 12:08 AM

I honestly think people are scared of me. From past experience, it seems as if people try anything to avoid talking to me.

jg43i9jghy0t4555 · 06-21-2012, 12:26 AM

ugh today i have a cold & blocked nose so I'm going to be talking to my support worker feeling like a zombie, not even able to keep my eyes open..

yeah, I probably avoid people because interaction is difficult and stressful. I don't like talking, even.

I wouldn't worry about how bad you are at social interaction. There was a mentally disabled guy at a bus stop once, in front of a store before they opened, with his carer (I guess to avoid people in general when it's busy).. and I was just worrying about the general uncomfortable-ness of the situation and kept worrying what I'd do if he started to talk to me. He eventually looked over at me and was absent enough from caring about the sort of thing like social anxiety, depression, stress.. that he just openly asked me name. And I just gave it to him. It wasn't difficult or anything. The carer woman scalded him after, and then he was worried about being a nuisance for her to take care of.

yeah anyway the point is it really doesn't matter. Even if you are disfigured from a house fire you still have to work I think. So, for the many millions of people in the world there's got to be quite a few with things that bother them about their physical/verbal appearance which other people accept.

jg43i9jghy0t4555 · 06-21-2012, 12:29 AM

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Originally Posted by kilgoretrout

I honestly think people are scared of me. From past experience, it seems as if people try anything to avoid talking to me.

And I wish people wouldn't try to be friendly with me.. I wish I could live in space or something. Or a floating island, with my own plants and my own solar power. I should totally do it. And then when the zombies come I'll be safe.. added bonus.

06-20-2012, 06:45 PM	#1 (permalink)
applekiwi Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 7	Making people uncomfortable It seems like I make every new person I meet one on one feel uncomfortable. I start thinking too much about my actions and words and about what they are thinking. I begin to not be able to say what I really want to say, and start talking in this weird babyish voice when I do say something. When I do say something that I want to say, I usually blush a lot. This makes it EXTREMELY hard to make new friends. I don't think I've made a new friend in a very long time.

06-20-2012, 06:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
Silverella Status: Meek Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Northern VA Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 447	I do the same - but my advice would be to just keep trying and keep talking anyway. The chances are no-one's judging you as harshly as you're judging yourself and eventually as you get used to the other person, you'll start to sound more natural. Even if it takes years ! __________________ Turning to poison while the bee-mouth sips...

06-20-2012, 07:05 PM	#4 (permalink)
applesauce5482 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Uganda Posts: 1,613	Yeah I feel the same way. I even made some of my teachers feel uncomfortable when I was in high school. They looked terrified of me. haaha. It hurt my feelings back then but now I am used to it __________________ "Too much applesause is good for you" - Appleham Lincoln

06-21-2012, 12:26 AM	#9 (permalink)
jg43i9jghy0t4555 Status: Trying to want to live Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,660	ugh today i have a cold & blocked nose so I'm going to be talking to my support worker feeling like a zombie, not even able to keep my eyes open.. yeah, I probably avoid people because interaction is difficult and stressful. I don't like talking, even. I wouldn't worry about how bad you are at social interaction. There was a mentally disabled guy at a bus stop once, in front of a store before they opened, with his carer (I guess to avoid people in general when it's busy).. and I was just worrying about the general uncomfortable-ness of the situation and kept worrying what I'd do if he started to talk to me. He eventually looked over at me and was absent enough from caring about the sort of thing like social anxiety, depression, stress.. that he just openly asked me name. And I just gave it to him. It wasn't difficult or anything. The carer woman scalded him after, and then he was worried about being a nuisance for her to take care of. yeah anyway the point is it really doesn't matter. Even if you are disfigured from a house fire you still have to work I think. So, for the many millions of people in the world there's got to be quite a few with things that bother them about their physical/verbal appearance which other people accept. __________________ Each day it's a hypothalamus that wakes up and a sex organ that gets horny, but a man that thinks it's himself.

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06-20-2012, 07:07 PM	#5 (permalink)
applekiwi Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Posts: 7	Yeah, I understand. Its just the worst feeling to know that your the reason someone feels that way. And I feel so strongly that its not even the real me thats making them feel this way, which makes it so much more frustrating.

06-20-2012, 09:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
SydneyCarton Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 296	I hardly ever talk, and when I do it feels totally awkward. So, yeah, I'm with you.

06-21-2012, 12:08 AM	#8 (permalink)
kilgoretrout Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: Canada Gender: Female Age: 25 Posts: 1,515	I honestly think people are scared of me. From past experience, it seems as if people try anything to avoid talking to me.