10-18-2006, 09:31 AM
Status: SAS Member
Join Date: Sep 2006
Re: making eye contact with professors during their lectures
Originally Posted by Dove
I find it uncomfortable to make eye contact with my professors while they're lecturing because a lot of mine look at me a lot, and I don't know why. I want to hold the eye contact so I don't seem so awkward and nervous, but then I can't concentrate on what they're saying. I usually just end up looking away, and probably not so casually.
I feel like they notice. I'm either worrying about that or I'm afraid my face expression looks unfriendly so I have to make an effort to appear normal. It's just all so distracting.
I don't like going to a certain class just because of this problem. I always come home feeling negative about myself because I think that professor notices. He always looks at me and it's uncomfortable so I'm always looking down at my stuff. I feel so.. not confident in that class.
I also look around to see how other people react to it. Some seem to hold eye contact well (looks natural and casual) while there are a few who aren't but only because they're sleepy or bored. I don't think there's anyone else like me. : /
Does anyone here go through this eye contact problem during lectures, or is it just me?
they could be looking at you because you look uncomfortable,
or they could fancy you
or you could be the only person actually watching and not gazing into space bored
or just communicating normally
From my few years in academia most profs are a**es anyway and can be quite full of themselves and intimidating. One in our lab blanks you when you say hi, even if it is Saturday and you are the only people there and he is passing you
I tend to hide behind people, I hate being in an aisle or on the front row where people can look right at you. I always feel uncomfortable at the theatre (plays not films to the americans) as sometimes actors interact with the audience. When I was a kid there were people who pulled kids out of the audience and put them on stage in front of 100s of people and make them assist in their act. I still worry about winning something now and having to go to the front on stage.
I feel that I would be scared in front of an audience and feel the fear for them, and feel uncomfortable watching them. At the same time it is intimidating to be singled out and makes them seem scary, not scared.
I hate eye contact.