Social Anxiety Support

Moon Calf · 11-03-2009, 12:12 PM

Anybody else here have trouble putting feeling into their words when they're speaking? I even have this problem when I'm talking to my dog.

rcapo89 · 11-03-2009, 12:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Moon Calf

Anybody else here have trouble putting feeling into their words when they're speaking? I even have this problem when I'm talking to my dog.

I have great difficulty expressing myself openly. My mom says I come across as cold.

However I can be my true self with my dogs. Unlike humans they show unconditional love and don't judge. Your uncomfortable even around animals?

Banzai · 11-03-2009, 12:17 PM

When I'm anxious yes. When I'm not, I can only do it some-what. I can raise my voice a little and emphasise words but that's about it.

And ditto this:

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Originally Posted by rcapo89

I have great difficulty expressing myself openly. My mom says I come across as cold.

Moon Calf · 11-03-2009, 12:20 PM

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Originally Posted by rcapo89

Your uncomfortable even around animals?

Yeah, but it's not really the animals that make me uncomfortable. I get this feeling that I'm being watched even though I know I'm actually all alone.

odd_one_out · 11-03-2009, 01:26 PM

Yes (except when excitedly monologuing on a subject).

Olazet91 · 11-03-2009, 01:28 PM

Yes, when I talk to people I speak in one constant tone and it makes me sound unemotional and cold because I'm usually too nervous to really be myself and show any form of personality when talking. I talk normal around animals though and people that I'm comfortable around.

Indigo Flow · 11-03-2009, 01:50 PM

I show emotion but when i speak to my parents i always speak in an angry way when i'm not even angry, it's weird lol

Prakas · 11-03-2009, 02:02 PM

I'm terrible at showing emotion. I don't want to show too much emotion, so I usually keep a straight face. I've had an older gentleman about a few months ago come to my job and tell me his wife recently past, and the hotel was one of his last good memories of her while on vacation. My heart dropped, but my face didn't show much emotion. I got teary eyed after he went to his room.

Stupid SA

Shadyman · 11-03-2009, 02:06 PM

Yes..I have a extreme lack of emotion and get called cold a lot. I guess this is just the way it is, I am ****ing more focused on my thoughts and my short comings to care about other people anymore, couldn't even cry when I heard my baby brother died a couple years back. Didn't cry till I saw him at the funeral home.

Canadian Brotha · 11-03-2009, 04:07 PM

I'm not in touch with my emotions at all, in fact they terrify me because I can't control them. How they come out in a conversation really depends on how anxious I am as well as how much I'm thinking about what I'm doing/saying as I am doing/saying it. I speak too quietly if I'm anxious for example or not tap into the depth of my voice

Moon Calf · 11-03-2009, 04:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Canadian Brotha

I'm not in touch with my emotions at all, in fact they terrify me because I can't control them.

Yeah, me too.

Ing · 11-03-2009, 04:19 PM

I think many people with SA have just been conditioned to not show emotions along with not talking. I wouldn't call myself completely emotionless, but I think it would help if I could be more expressive. I have been trying to be more aware of myself recently and I think it has helped in showing appropriate emotions at the right times. Hopefully it will soon come naturally.

illlaymedown · 11-03-2009, 04:42 PM

My problem lies more in not feeling emotions like I should. I think it's the depression that makes me feel so numb all the time. When with people I barely know, I come off as though I "hate them" at least that's what people say....I keep thinking..."I barely know you and you think I hate you?...amazing!" But I can tell how I could come off that way

I get too weirded out by most people, that I try to get out of the situation asap....as far as my cats, I am silliest when around them. They make me happy most of the time

wineandcheese · 11-03-2009, 06:17 PM

My voice is pretty monotonous usually. Unless I'm talking to someone I'm really comfortable with.

shadowmask · 11-03-2009, 06:23 PM

I have a very hard time expressing anger, because it often feels unjustified and I have a fear of being rebuked for showing it. But with other emotions, I don't have much of a problem.

11-03-2009, 12:12 PM	#1 (permalink)
Moon Calf Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Age: 29 Posts: 117	Lack of Emotion Anybody else here have trouble putting feeling into their words when they're speaking? I even have this problem when I'm talking to my dog.

11-03-2009, 01:50 PM	#7 (permalink)
Indigo Flow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 258	I show emotion but when i speak to my parents i always speak in an angry way when i'm not even angry, it's weird lol __________________ ...i could not Speak, and my eyes failed, i was neither Living nor dead, and i knew nothing, Looking into the heart of light, the silence. Flickr

11-03-2009, 04:07 PM	#10 (permalink)
Canadian Brotha Status: A Lonely Soul Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,792	I'm not in touch with my emotions at all, in fact they terrify me because I can't control them. How they come out in a conversation really depends on how anxious I am as well as how much I'm thinking about what I'm doing/saying as I am doing/saying it. I speak too quietly if I'm anxious for example or not tap into the depth of my voice __________________ Listen To My Demo Album, "Soul Of A Man" Listen To Live Folkstyle Sculpting Facebook=Become A Fan Blogspot=My Poetry I See What I Want To See, And Read Into It What I Want To Read Depressions Blinding Me, It’s Clouding My Vision Of Positivity Stand Up Live Your Life, As People Do In Society Maturity Is Calling, It’s Time To Find Your Personality Everybody Knows Everything, When It Comes To People Outside Themselves ^^^An Excerpt Of Song Lyrics Of Mine^^^

11-03-2009, 04:42 PM	#13 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 366	My problem lies more in not feeling emotions like I should. I think it's the depression that makes me feel so numb all the time. When with people I barely know, I come off as though I "hate them" at least that's what people say....I keep thinking..."I barely know you and you think I hate you?...amazing!" But I can tell how I could come off that way I get too weirded out by most people, that I try to get out of the situation asap....as far as my cats, I am silliest when around them. They make me happy most of the time __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-03-2009, 06:23 PM	#15 (permalink)
shadowmask Status: Seeing stars Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: TN Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 1,085	I have a very hard time expressing anger, because it often feels unjustified and I have a fear of being rebuked for showing it. But with other emotions, I don't have much of a problem. __________________ Basically, I'm complicated I have a hard time taking the easy way I wouldn't call it schizophrenia But I'll be at least two people today

11-03-2009, 01:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
odd_one_out Status: Active-but-odd Join Date: Aug 2006 Age: 32 Posts: 1,215	Yes (except when excitedly monologuing on a subject).

11-03-2009, 01:28 PM	#6 (permalink)
Olazet91 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Screwville, US Gender: Female Posts: 376	Yes, when I talk to people I speak in one constant tone and it makes me sound unemotional and cold because I'm usually too nervous to really be myself and show any form of personality when talking. I talk normal around animals though and people that I'm comfortable around.

11-03-2009, 02:02 PM	#8 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	I'm terrible at showing emotion. I don't want to show too much emotion, so I usually keep a straight face. I've had an older gentleman about a few months ago come to my job and tell me his wife recently past, and the hotel was one of his last good memories of her while on vacation. My heart dropped, but my face didn't show much emotion. I got teary eyed after he went to his room. Stupid SA

11-03-2009, 02:06 PM	#9 (permalink)
Shadyman Status: The New Guy Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 48	Yes..I have a extreme lack of emotion and get called cold a lot. I guess this is just the way it is, I am ****ing more focused on my thoughts and my short comings to care about other people anymore, couldn't even cry when I heard my baby brother died a couple years back. Didn't cry till I saw him at the funeral home.

11-03-2009, 04:19 PM	#12 (permalink)
Ing Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: United States Gender: Female Age: 19 Posts: 61	I think many people with SA have just been conditioned to not show emotions along with not talking. I wouldn't call myself completely emotionless, but I think it would help if I could be more expressive. I have been trying to be more aware of myself recently and I think it has helped in showing appropriate emotions at the right times. Hopefully it will soon come naturally.

11-03-2009, 06:17 PM	#14 (permalink)
wineandcheese Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Posts: 69	My voice is pretty monotonous usually. Unless I'm talking to someone I'm really comfortable with.