Join Date: Apr 2006
Location: Orange County, CA
Accepting yourself is an important part of overcoming social anxiety, because when you accept, you're not fighting or struggling with yourself. Calm, peaceful, acceptance has great power. But I think the kind of "acceptance" you're talking about isn't necessarily healthy. Its ok to accept that you have social anxiety right now, but you also have to realize that deep down, its not who you really are, and you have to decide to move in a more positive direction. The mind is more powerful than you think. If you calmly refute those negative thoughts and feelings and deliberately focus on good, positive, beautiful things, then you can start to literally change your mind and have a whole new outlook on life.
Accept all the different parts of your personality. Accept the way you act and the things you say, and accept people's reactions to you. That is healthy acceptance. And I don't mean to make light of the way you're feeling at all, but, you're only 18. You are still young and still have so much of your life to live, so don't just resign yourself to being miserable for the rest of your life. I am 22, and am amazed at how much i've grown and how much i've learned in the last four years. I think high school sucked for the good majority of people on this board. It was definitely the worst period of my life, and I didn't have one real friend to show for those whole 4 years of high school. But then I went to college, moved out of my house, got a boyfriend, and became stronger in believing in myself and my abilities. I'm doing better now, but I still have a long ways to go. And I accept where I am in my life right now, knowing that if I keep moving forward and don't give up, I will continue to make progress.