Social Anxiety Support

Globe_Trekker · 11-06-2009, 12:37 PM

I came across a song just now called 'Desperado' by the Eagles, and I think the lyrics fit me and my situation..I think it's too late for me to be loved again; in fact, beyond my family I'm completely alone in the world. There's noone left...I have completely shunned everyone. I'm not looking for sympathy, but any tips on dealing with the loneliness that's awaiting me in the future? I'm around people allright but not really (if you know what I mean). It's not real love and affection. No one loves me because I'm too odd (I mean even the goddam teachers and uni call me crazy! Not too my face, but I know what they mean).
My little rant. Thanks for any responses.

/Globe_Trekker

Mello · 11-06-2009, 12:58 PM

No one is ever too late to be loved i really believe there is someone for everyone out there maybe you might not meet that person now but sooner or later you will, just stay strong. I know how it can get lonely sometimes but look on the bright side you atleast have a family, there are tuns of people out there who have no one at all. You should probably get a dog or something to keep you company, i would really love to have one but im not allowed. Dont give up hope.

illlaymedown · 11-06-2009, 01:13 PM

I agree with Mello....I don't consider myself to even have a family

I still think someone will love me someday, but I know or am pretty sure it won't be my own parents or family. You should check out my "Have you been abused" thread.
In the meantime, the way I deal with loneliness is my pets, art, doing whatever I can....what I love. I listen to music I love(Desperado is a song I really like btw

)...even write in my journal which helps. But nobody can tell the future so for you to say it'll never happen is beyond your ability to call and mine...that's what I even tell myself when I feel no one will ever care I exist...it's a lie, I care I exist. I believe God cares I exist and all these things help me make it through the todays I come across. A pet is a really good thing to have for loneliness...I love my kitteh cats tons

hopena · 11-06-2009, 09:51 PM

I hope it isn't too late, for you or any of us.

Lovesick Loner · 11-06-2009, 10:37 PM

I felt the exact same way not too long ago. But I've become much more hopeful. Sure life can REALLY suck sometimes, and it seems like nobody even wants to give you a chance, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. I think there's hope for everyone no matter how bleak your situation is.

How old are you, by the way? You're talking like you're some 70-year-old man who's afraid of dying alone.

Neptunus · 11-06-2009, 11:16 PM

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Originally Posted by hopena

I hope it isn't too late, for you or any of us.

I hope so as well.

Globe_Trekker · 11-07-2009, 09:19 AM

Thanks everyone who responded; that really cheered me up

I was a bit down yesterday, but I'm feeling better today. Your idea about getting a pet would be great if it wasn't for my parents not allowing me (also based on the reactions I get from most animals I'm not sure if it would like me??!). Lovesick Loner: I'm only 24 years old (but I feel much older than that)

joejoe · 11-07-2009, 10:20 AM

it's not too late.

millenniumman75 · 11-07-2009, 12:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Globe_Trekker

Thanks everyone who responded; that really cheered me up

I was a bit down yesterday, but I'm feeling better today. Your idea about getting a pet would be great if it wasn't for my parents not allowing me (also based on the reactions I get from most animals I'm not sure if it would like me??!). Lovesick Loner: I'm only 24 years old (but I feel much older than that)

I am 34 and I still have not given up hope - not by a longshot.

shyvr6 · 11-07-2009, 02:12 PM

Maybe you'll find love tomorrow.

freshjive · 11-07-2009, 03:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Globe_Trekker

I came across a song just now called 'Desperado' by the Eagles, and I think the lyrics fit me and my situation..I think it's too late for me to be loved again; in fact, beyond my family I'm completely alone in the world. There's noone left...I have completely shunned everyone. I'm not looking for sympathy, but any tips on dealing with the loneliness that's awaiting me in the future? I'm around people allright but not really (if you know what I mean). It's not real love and affection. No one loves me because I'm too odd (I mean even the goddam teachers and uni call me crazy! Not too my face, but I know what they mean).
My little rant. Thanks for any responses.

/Globe_Trekker

Its never too late.

I strongly suggest checking out "The blueprint decoded". Google it and you should be able to find a torrent and download it.

The truth is THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU. You just need to learn to embrace who you are and care less about what people think. It sound impossible now but it can and will happen if you work at it.

illlaymedown · 11-07-2009, 04:00 PM

Hmm...why won't your parents let you have a pet? Maybe if you explain how you're feeling to them and how it could help, they might....if it's the responsibility, you could explain you'd take care of it, maybe get a pet that can be outside(dog on a leash) or one that can be cozy in a cage(hamster)? Maybe they would listen if you explained your situation and how it'd help

?

Also, try journaling...whatever passes the times when you're feeling the worst besides just sitting there dwelling on it. That's when you get really hopeless, when you give the thoughts free reign. I also clean and it helps to shut my mind from those things. I also hear exercise helps, but I wouldn't be able to tell ya on that one cus I hate exercizing

But I guess in a way when I turn music on and jump around all silly and/or play with my cats, that's what exercising would feel like....and that makes me feel much better.

Kates01 · 11-07-2009, 04:07 PM

Keep your head up, and it always helps me to think about all of the fabulous and beautiful things in life when i'm feeling down. I hope your weekend is fabulous :-)

theuprising · 11-07-2009, 10:04 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by shyvr6

Maybe you'll find love tomorrow.

I hope I don't meet my love tommorow, I'll be so socially awkward I really wouldn't know what to do with it, I'll probably screw it up right away D:

11-06-2009, 12:37 PM	#1 (permalink)
Globe_Trekker Status: Searching for something.. Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Denmark Gender: Male Posts: 235	It's too late, isn't it? I came across a song just now called 'Desperado' by the Eagles, and I think the lyrics fit me and my situation..I think it's too late for me to be loved again; in fact, beyond my family I'm completely alone in the world. There's noone left...I have completely shunned everyone. I'm not looking for sympathy, but any tips on dealing with the loneliness that's awaiting me in the future? I'm around people allright but not really (if you know what I mean). It's not real love and affection. No one loves me because I'm too odd (I mean even the goddam teachers and uni call me crazy! Not too my face, but I know what they mean). My little rant. Thanks for any responses. /Globe_Trekker

11-06-2009, 01:13 PM	#3 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 366	I agree with Mello....I don't consider myself to even have a family I still think someone will love me someday, but I know or am pretty sure it won't be my own parents or family. You should check out my "Have you been abused" thread. In the meantime, the way I deal with loneliness is my pets, art, doing whatever I can....what I love. I listen to music I love(Desperado is a song I really like btw )...even write in my journal which helps. But nobody can tell the future so for you to say it'll never happen is beyond your ability to call and mine...that's what I even tell myself when I feel no one will ever care I exist...it's a lie, I care I exist. I believe God cares I exist and all these things help me make it through the todays I come across. A pet is a really good thing to have for loneliness...I love my kitteh cats tons __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-06-2009, 10:37 PM	#5 (permalink)
Lovesick Loner Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Pennsylvania Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 164	I felt the exact same way not too long ago. But I've become much more hopeful. Sure life can REALLY suck sometimes, and it seems like nobody even wants to give you a chance, but there is always a light at the end of the tunnel. I think there's hope for everyone no matter how bleak your situation is. How old are you, by the way? You're talking like you're some 70-year-old man who's afraid of dying alone. __________________ "Every day is Like Sunday, Every day is silent and gray" - Morrissey

11-07-2009, 10:20 AM	#8 (permalink)
joejoe Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2009 Location: orange county, california Gender: Male Posts: 159	it's not too late. __________________ "When I was a boy, I laid in my twin sized bed wondering where my brother was."-- Mitch Hedberg

11-07-2009, 02:12 PM	#10 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	Maybe you'll find love tomorrow. __________________ Music

11-06-2009, 12:58 PM	#2 (permalink)
Mello Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Rotterdam Gender: Female Age: 18 Posts: 65	No one is ever too late to be loved i really believe there is someone for everyone out there maybe you might not meet that person now but sooner or later you will, just stay strong. I know how it can get lonely sometimes but look on the bright side you atleast have a family, there are tuns of people out there who have no one at all. You should probably get a dog or something to keep you company, i would really love to have one but im not allowed. Dont give up hope.

11-06-2009, 09:51 PM	#4 (permalink)
hopena Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 199	I hope it isn't too late, for you or any of us.

11-07-2009, 09:19 AM	#7 (permalink)
Globe_Trekker Status: Searching for something.. Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Denmark Gender: Male Posts: 235	Thanks everyone who responded; that really cheered me up I was a bit down yesterday, but I'm feeling better today. Your idea about getting a pet would be great if it wasn't for my parents not allowing me (also based on the reactions I get from most animals I'm not sure if it would like me??!). Lovesick Loner: I'm only 24 years old (but I feel much older than that)

11-07-2009, 04:00 PM	#12 (permalink)
illlaymedown Status: Miseria Cantare Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Mississippi Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 366	Hmm...why won't your parents let you have a pet? Maybe if you explain how you're feeling to them and how it could help, they might....if it's the responsibility, you could explain you'd take care of it, maybe get a pet that can be outside(dog on a leash) or one that can be cozy in a cage(hamster)? Maybe they would listen if you explained your situation and how it'd help ? Also, try journaling...whatever passes the times when you're feeling the worst besides just sitting there dwelling on it. That's when you get really hopeless, when you give the thoughts free reign. I also clean and it helps to shut my mind from those things. I also hear exercise helps, but I wouldn't be able to tell ya on that one cus I hate exercizing But I guess in a way when I turn music on and jump around all silly and/or play with my cats, that's what exercising would feel like....and that makes me feel much better. __________________ "I feel like a helpless puppet being manipulated in some major scheme."~ Squall Leonhart My avatar is my art...www.myspace.com/illlaymedown

11-07-2009, 04:07 PM	#13 (permalink)
Kates01 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: England for a few weeks then IL Gender: Female Posts: 6	Keep your head up, and it always helps me to think about all of the fabulous and beautiful things in life when i'm feeling down. I hope your weekend is fabulous :-)