I just got done watching "Lars and The Real Girl"

[SOME]

I can really relate to lars he reminds me of myself alot, he is depressed and lonley but doesn't seem to have SA but there are some red flags that would make me think otherwise. So in the movie lars buy a Realdoll to cope with his loneliness and i got an idea , real women are not my cup of tea, i suck with them period. Don't think i hate real women Don't get me wrong i love them, i love everything about them! It is just that i can't really connected with them. So my idea is TO GET A REALDOLL for my self! Not just for sex i want the companionship and love someone to be there with me at night.

I did some googleing and found out alot of people live with Realdolls and i found this really cool documentary

I just want to share this development with you all i gotta tell someone i am so happy!
You all can bag on me and say im a sad and what not i don't care. yahooo! i can't wait to get one! This is my all time goal!

[zomgz]

i'm watching that whole thing it's super interesting!! i felt really bad for the guy who's mom died =[

i'm excited that your excited! =]

idk why people are like wow that's weird, your weird.. they're just silly xD

honestly, i couldn't ever do it just because dolls soooo creep me out lmao! but that's totally just me (:

[drealm]

First, I'd like to say you have balls for bringing up a taboo subject.

I actually saw this same documentary a couple months ago. I think it's very relevant to SAD.

After watching this documentary I actually poked around the internet and found a couple large doll owner communities. I've kept a distant eye on many of these places because I find there's a close similarity between some doll owners and sufferers of SAD.

Feel free to PM me and I'll give you a run down of links.

[Peter Attis]

I think you missed the point of that movie. Lars wasn't depressed OR lonely.

[SOME]

Originally Posted by Peter Attis

I think you missed the point of that movie. Lars wasn't depressed OR lonely.

It dose not matter either way i still got my idea

[Iced Soul]

Well, it was nice, watching the videos, but the comments on the videos... wow. They do not like women or they have very closed minds.

I wish you luck in getting your doll. If it doesn't creep you out (it creeps me out a good bit, the doll, not you, lol), I say go for it and have fun.

[inna sense]

i watched that documentary on youtube this morning...the guy with the guns was very disturbing...someone needs to take them away from him...

[Logan X]

You should wait 10 years. By then your doll might walk and talk back

[mixolydian]

While I don't judge your decision I would hope that you havn't just given up on women all together because thats a very destructive road to go down. As the documentary says, the real dolls are just a "high form of masturbation" and its no substitute for a reciprocal, loving relationship.

[Moon Calf]

This is NOT a good idea.

[ostorozhno]

lol Wow, that documentary was really sad and pathetic. It's one thing to buy one purely for sex, but to treat it as a human being is just wrong.

[pixies]

Maybe I should just keep this to myself, but getting one of those dolls is SO SO wrong. It's horrifying to see people doing that. It's like they are making out and having sex with a dead body. It's sick. There is no 'relationship' at all. Sheshan or whatever he called his doll, does NOT appreciate him, and is not "there for him", it's there because it can't ****ing move. It's an inanimate object with no thoughts whatsoever.

I really feel sorry for people who are that lonely that they need to get something like this, but I think it's extremely unhealthy to even consider getting something like that. If you are that lonely, then you need to get out there and change your life. If you get a doll and start talking to it, then you have lost it. You are gone. I can't even imagine how difficult it would be to come back from that. I have been extremely lonely in my life, but at least I have my sanity. Getting one those dolls is like giving up. If they feel better with a doll, then it's the ultimate delusion. It's one thing to want it as a sex toy, but to want it for companionship is dangerous. Most people in the world NEED human contact in our lives. It's not a weakness, it's the way humans are built. If you are craving that, then you need to use that as your motivation to get well, and get out there and meet people and talk to people. Talk to your doctor and get referred to a therapist or something, talk through your problems and try to confront them. Being awkward with the sex and with the opposite sex is no excuse. You can learn skills like that really fast. Watch couples that are in love and see what they do. All they do is chat to each other and occasionally kiss, it's not a big deal, you can do the same. Watch porn and see how people have sex, you can do the same. If you feel like you can't do that, then that's just a self esteem issue which you can address.

I don't like to judge people and I VERY rarely do it. People like all kinds of weird stuff, drugs, sexual fetishes, but that's their business and it's natural. But this is different. There are solutions to all your problems, getting a doll is not a solution to anything, it's a freakish placebo, and it won't make you better.

Social Anxiety is not an incurable disability. It's just a phobia, it's an irrational fear or something that should not be feared. You can cure it by confronting it, just like people who are scared of heights or spiders can be conditioned to not be paralysed by fear any more and they can cope with it. Buying that freaky doll is like running away from your problems, and if you run away, it will never get better.

[Meli24R]

Lars and The Real Girl is a good movie.
The documentary was interesting. I can't believe that one guy had 8 of them must've cost a fortune. I gotta be honest..if I was that guy's girlfriend and I came over for his birthday party and he put those dolls at the dinner table I'd be creeped out.
I thought it was funny when the guy who fixed up the dolls said, "ugh I'm running out of vaginas" lol
I can kind of understand people using them for sex, but some of the men were so emotionally attached to them. How do you have companionship with an inanimate object?

[rincewind]

Originally Posted by SOME

So my idea is TO GET A REALDOLL for my self! Not just for sex i want the companionship and love someone to be there with me at night.

You're really not going to get much companionship from the doll, and I think obsessing over one will just make it more difficult for you to interact with real people. If you want some company, get yourself a pet instead - a dog would be ideal!

[alipaige]

Good movie.

Oh, and as far as the real girl is concerned, whatever floats your boat.

But I don't see how an inanimate object could ever bring you the happiness that a real walking, talking companion would.

Like someone else said previously, it's just a higher form of masturbation.

[Fuzzy Logic]

I already have a long and well established relationship with my laptop... Sure, she can be a tempermental, but overall she is pretty low mantainance and easy to turn on.

[gozinsky]

Wow. Never heard of this. You sure you have SA? If I had conceived of doing this, I would never have been able to share it with other humans due to SA. Conversely, if I had been able to share something like this, I don't think I would have SA anymore. In any case this seems like a wonderful way to make masturbation a lot more exciting, but as far as companionship, it seems like you may as well make friends with a broomstick or something. Although in extreme cases, I guess maybe it could be helpful. Like in that movie Castaway where Tom Hanks paints a face on that soccer ball and talks to it and it sort of helps him keep his sanity. I guess when you think about it it could be sort of like a journal or a diary where in talking to it, you're just using the thing as a means to get out your inner thoughts and feelings. But as for companionship, I think some kind of pet would be much better.

[shadowmask]

Hey, at least a doll won't tell you to take out the garbage while you're watching the game.

[pixies]

Lol perfect use of that smiley

[delirium]

Originally Posted by ostorozhno

lol Wow, that documentary was really sad and pathetic. It's one thing to buy one purely for sex, but to treat it as a human being is just wrong.

I just had to point out that I dislike your judgmental tone, and I doubt there is anything "wrong" with treating a doll as a human being. Sure, it's delusional, but it's not different from having an imaginary friend. It might not even be much different from treating your dog as if it were human.

I didn't watch the documentary, but I'm guessing it's comprised of a bunch of sad and lonely men. I guess they're the male analogue of the old spinster cat lady. So what? Why is this "pathetic"? How about, instead of judging these people we empathize with them and try to understand what would drive them to such bizarre behavior?