Social Anxiety Support

njodis · 07-31-2007, 07:34 AM

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Originally Posted by ardrum

I had a female friend in college who told me she wanted to "teach" me to kiss while we were hanging out in my dorm room. I turned down the offer politely, saying how that might be helpful if I had to learn in the immediate future, but that I had no dates/prospects in sight.

ardrum · 07-31-2007, 07:40 AM

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Originally Posted by njodis

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Originally Posted by ardrum

I had a female friend in college who told me she wanted to "teach" me to kiss while we were hanging out in my dorm room. I turned down the offer politely, saying how that might be helpful if I had to learn in the immediate future, but that I had no dates/prospects in sight.

Hahah, I know.

I actually don't regret it though. I'm still very good friends with her.

Airick10 · 07-31-2007, 08:01 AM

The one thing I have had was a kiss. Go figure, I'm at a bar and this real drunk girl came up to me and asked me if I wanted to make out.

So I went for it and she smiled afterwards and walked away. Gotta love it! lol

ardrum · 07-31-2007, 08:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Airick10

The one thing I have had was a kiss. Go figure, I'm at a bar and this real drunk girl came up to me and asked me if I wanted to make out.

So I went for it and she smiled afterwards and walked away. Gotta love it! lol

I've had two drunk girls flash me, point blank.

The first drunkie came up to me on the street and asked me if I wanted to know the biggest secret in the world. I was rather naive, and said "sure." Little did I know what the secret, or should I say secrets, were. Needless to say, they were no longer secrets after that. I don't remember how I reacted, but I bet it was minimal (while being uncomfortable).

The second drunkie approached me at a Halloween party, wanting my beer cup for herself. I didn't want to give up my cup, and she said she'd flash me in exchange. Well, this was overheard, and I couldn't refuse with a billion guys demanding I give up my cup for some visuals. You know the rest of the story.

korey · 07-31-2007, 08:34 AM

I'm 19 (turn 20 in October), and I have yet to kiss anyone.

Chameleon · 07-31-2007, 03:46 PM

I've kissed a lot, but honestly, it's not a big deal. Even after all I have done, I still feel like I am missing something big in my life.

ardrum · 07-31-2007, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Chameleon

I've kissed a lot, but honestly, it's not a big deal. Even after all I have done, I still feel like I am missing something big in my life.

Yeah, I don't think the act alone would do it for a lot of people who THINK it would solve their problems. There are underlying psychological issues that would need to be resolved as well. These quick fix attempts are always ultimately disappointing if they immediately put you right where you were before.

eagleheart · 07-31-2007, 07:24 PM

Discos: Maybe it just refers to dances or something like that.

Well, I have kissed. First kiss was when I was fifteen going on sixteen; if not for that guy, it would have been when I was 21 (still am). But the thing is... it is not something that I could just up and do with anyone -- not many would want to kiss the likes of me. And I honestly figured I would never kiss anyone again before I met the second (last) guy I kissed.

Oh, yeah, wait. This man, uh, tried to kiss me a month ago. It was kind of abortive since I didn't respond in kind. But lips made contact so make of that what you will...

So that was not very special. It was interesting, I guess, but really weird. The first kiss from my last boyfriend... is a universe apart... So okay, anyway, a kiss itself is a kiss, and not the be-all and end-all. Also I think if you haven't done such things, you won't have any possible regrets of such things.. you can just look forward to someday-

gracie07 · 07-31-2007, 07:59 PM

I was 19 when I first kissed a guy. I remember thinking there was something wrong with me because I had never kissed a guy before. But now as I have grown older, finding guys to kiss is a dime a dozen.

IMO People are much nicer and mature as they grow older and I have matured as well.

beatlegeuce · 07-31-2007, 08:24 PM

I like shy guys

SilentProphet · 07-31-2007, 09:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Lonelyguy

I've never kissed or even touched a woman other than shaking hands at formal events. Never even been hugged.

I'm so shy around women I can barely manage eye contact with them.

^ same here, well i've been hugged a few times and i'm sure i turned beat red every time. I wish girls weren't so pretty and could just be ugly so i wouldn't be so intimidated by them.

eagleheart · 07-31-2007, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by beatlegeuce

I like shy guys

yes yes yes yes!!!

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Originally Posted by SilentProphet

^ same here, well i've been hugged a few times and i'm sure i turned beat red every time. I wish girls weren't so pretty and could just be ugly so i wouldn't be so intimidated by them.

Well, fortunately I'm not about to intimidate anyone!!

Well... unless they're scared by my appearance itself...

Tonic · 07-31-2007, 09:56 PM

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RainOfTerror · 08-01-2007, 05:47 AM

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Originally Posted by SilentProphet

^ same here, well i've been hugged a few times and i'm sure i turned beat red every time. I wish girls weren't so pretty and could just be ugly so i wouldn't be so intimidated by them.

There's plenty of us ugly women out there. Feel free to approach.

No-Name Jello · 08-01-2007, 01:03 PM

My first kiss was only 2 years ago (with a girl I didn't like very much). I consider it a personal victory that I left behind my teenage years with some kind of intimate contact. Sadly though, still a virgin

nothing_to_say · 08-01-2007, 01:13 PM

Time for a "Shy Guys" dating site

Is there such a thing ?

Chameleon · 08-01-2007, 04:52 PM

How about on here?

ardrum · 08-01-2007, 05:37 PM

Let's start pairing up, by proximity, and make out with each other. An SA make-out orgy!!

It's.... a clinical exercise.

In practice, we'd all just think we'd reject each other, and we'd all stand around sheepishly, thinking every tiny action is awkward and a disaster. Wow.

nothing to fear · 08-01-2007, 07:02 PM

i don't really care about kissing, honestly. i just want some human contact.. a hug would be nice.

Avilos · 08-01-2007, 07:18 PM

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Originally Posted by beatlegeuce

I like shy guys

Really? Will you kiss me.

By the way John Lennon is one of my heroes too.

Just seeing this thread makes me uncomfortable and sad. I am 29 and have never kissed a girl. While I certainly want to have sex, a simple kiss is what I really long for. It really depresses me to see tv shows or movies about first dates. Or listening to songs about teenage love... because none of that stuff ever happened to me...

07-31-2007, 08:01 AM	#43 (permalink)
Airick10 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Orange County, CA Posts: 451	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. The one thing I have had was a kiss. Go figure, I'm at a bar and this real drunk girl came up to me and asked me if I wanted to make out. So I went for it and she smiled afterwards and walked away. Gotta love it! lol __________________ http://www.myspace.com/jokerem

07-31-2007, 08:34 AM	#45 (permalink)
korey Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Mississippi, USA Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,844	I'm 19 (turn 20 in October), and I have yet to kiss anyone. __________________ Rx: Wellbutrin SR 300mg, Eskalith CR 900mg, Luvox 100mg, Somnote 500-1000mg prn Things I have tried: Lexapro, Zoloft, Celexa, Prozac, Paxil, Effexor XR, Remeron, Wellbutrin SR, Eskalith CR, Topamax, Valium, Xanax, Ativan, Ambien, Desyrel, Ritalin, Adderall, Dexedrine, Inderal, Lopressor, Thorazine, Lamictal, Abilify, Depakote, Geodon, Seroquel, doxepin, chloral hydrate

07-31-2007, 03:46 PM	#46 (permalink)
Chameleon Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 108	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. I've kissed a lot, but honestly, it's not a big deal. Even after all I have done, I still feel like I am missing something big in my life.

07-31-2007, 07:24 PM	#48 (permalink)
eagleheart Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 870	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. Discos: Maybe it just refers to dances or something like that. Well, I have kissed. First kiss was when I was fifteen going on sixteen; if not for that guy, it would have been when I was 21 (still am). But the thing is... it is not something that I could just up and do with anyone -- not many would want to kiss the likes of me. And I honestly figured I would never kiss anyone again before I met the second (last) guy I kissed. Oh, yeah, wait. This man, uh, tried to kiss me a month ago. It was kind of abortive since I didn't respond in kind. But lips made contact so make of that what you will... So that was not very special. It was interesting, I guess, but really weird. The first kiss from my last boyfriend... is a universe apart... So okay, anyway, a kiss itself is a kiss, and not the be-all and end-all. Also I think if you haven't done such things, you won't have any possible regrets of such things.. you can just look forward to someday- __________________ "You think BUGS are cute!"

07-31-2007, 07:59 PM	#49 (permalink)
gracie07 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: California Posts: 354	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. I was 19 when I first kissed a guy. I remember thinking there was something wrong with me because I had never kissed a guy before. But now as I have grown older, finding guys to kiss is a dime a dozen. IMO People are much nicer and mature as they grow older and I have matured as well. __________________ It's OK to swing and miss, as long as you learn from it. - Jack Welch http://tickers.TickerFactory.com/ezt...app/weight.png

07-31-2007, 08:24 PM	#50 (permalink)
beatlegeuce Status: AWESOME Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: New Jersey Posts: 271	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. I like shy guys __________________ pm or im if you want to be friends!

07-31-2007, 09:56 PM	#53 (permalink)
Tonic Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 118	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. removed

08-01-2007, 01:03 PM	#55 (permalink)
No-Name Jello Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Posts: 124	My first kiss was only 2 years ago (with a girl I didn't like very much). I consider it a personal victory that I left behind my teenage years with some kind of intimate contact. Sadly though, still a virgin

08-01-2007, 01:13 PM	#56 (permalink)
nothing_to_say Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Posts: 333	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. Time for a "Shy Guys" dating site Is there such a thing ? __________________ SASIAPOS

08-01-2007, 04:52 PM	#57 (permalink)
Chameleon Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Posts: 108	re: I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20. How about on here?

08-01-2007, 05:37 PM	#58 (permalink)
ardrum Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2007 Location: Cleveland, Ohio Age: 26 Posts: 9,097	Let's start pairing up, by proximity, and make out with each other. An SA make-out orgy!! It's.... a clinical exercise. In practice, we'd all just think we'd reject each other, and we'd all stand around sheepishly, thinking every tiny action is awkward and a disaster. Wow. __________________ I'm just a little person One person in a sea Of many little people Who are not aware of me

08-01-2007, 07:02 PM	#59 (permalink)
nothing to fear Status: silence is sexy Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: Toronto, Canada Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 4,842	i don't really care about kissing, honestly. i just want some human contact.. a hug would be nice. __________________ everything was beautiful, and nothing hurt. ~ i really like music. and photography, though i'm nothing special.