I have never kissed! I am a teen, nearly 20.

[nothing to fear]

for some reason i thought i was 17 but given that i made my first post in this thread at age 18, then it must have been a few months later that i had my first kiss.

honestly, before that i always just had the belief that i would never kiss anyone and that certainly no one would actually want to kiss me back.

[Clearly Obscure]

First of all, I just realized how old this thread is...I guess that doesn't matter, though.
Second of all, I suppose it has to do with some people's SA, but I'm truly surprised by how many people on these forums (and I'm not just basing my opinion on this thread alone) seem to think that attraction is based so heavily on looks.
Sure, physical attractiveness is considered by most people-there's nothing strange or abnormal about that. But, thanks in part to the trash-spewing media I'm sure, there's this assumption that it's all about looks...because quite frankly, the people who are depicted in magazines, movies, and television don't appear to actually have enough depth to their personalities for them to matter.

It's taken me quite some time to really understand how much more we all are than our physical selves (and that's my opinion...if you want to challenge it, send me a private message, but don't bring it up here). If people are attracted to each other solely on a physical basis, I feel sorry for them. There's no set age for relationships and such, or at least there shouldn't be (and regardless of this, a lot of people tend to believe that there is a certain age that everyone is dating, kissing, etc., I feel that they're rather misinformed).

I'm almost positive that, to someone who is described as "normal"--to someone who does believe that people should be doing certain things, with certain people, at certain ages--the above would be shrugged off as a rant by someone who has never been in any sort of romantic relationship. I suppose it's a rant in a way, and it's true that I've been single for all of my 21 years...but seriously, is it going to make such a dramatic difference in the long run?

Sorry for babbling.

-Clearly Obscure (feel free to call me Kate...unless I've annoyed you)

[swedeheart]

Originally Posted by Snaefridhur

good morning

I have never kissed anyone - as normal teens kiss - although I am nearly
20 years old. Any total "non-kisser" older than me or at least in the same
age?

When do the normal teens kiss first time? When do they start going
together with a gf/bf? When do they start going to the real discos (not
only school discos)? I do not talk with my peers on this theme, anytime.

It is amazing. Not funny either.

good bye

I was 19. It was a very weird experience. I can't tell if it was the guy that I was kissing, or if it was me (have only kissed one guy), but it was very awkward. But then again, I had just met him, and only did it to actually experience a kiss.

He wanted to meet me a couple of times after wards, but I wasn't interested in pursuing a relationship with him. We were just to different, and he wasn't my type.

[Fuzzy Logic]

Nope, which really embarassing. Being a twenty-something virgin is a little perculiar but not having kissed anyone is just plain strange.

[Larkspur]

I had my first kiss when I was 15 just because the boy kind of "pounced" on me.
I had just met him, I wasn't ready, and I didn't really want to kiss him. Awkward.

I didn't kiss anyone again until I was 19 and started college - which was just a few months ago.

[Fox]

21. I kissed a girl 2 years ago. But she didn't kiss back ):

[Haydsmom2007]

shouldn't the movie "never been kissed" make you feel better?

one of my best friends didn't kiss a boy until she was 19 or 20... she just wasn't ever interested in boys in high school.

[FakeFur]

I'm 18 and still haven't been kissed yet. I don't mind waiting a couple more years, just as long as its with someone I truly like.

[rincewind]

Still waiting for mine

[JMX]

I never really understood why people made a big deal out of this. It's just mouth-to-mouth contact. In fact, I think it's somewhat unsanitary.

[Princesspoopla]

I've never kissed before or been in a relationship but thats not really allowed in my culture even though I've always wondered what it would feel like

[Fuzzy Logic]

This is going to be really embarassing if it ever does happen because I'll probably do it totally wrong and she'll be like "What the hell are you doing?" because it will be inconcievable that someone doesn't know how to kiss. *sigh*

[EagerMinnow84]

Originally Posted by Princesspoopla

I've never kissed before or been in a relationship but thats not really allowed in my culture even though I've always wondered what it would feel like

What is your culture? Do you have to be a certain age?

[pixies]

My friends brother never kissed a girl until he was 25. Then he got a new job and a girl flirted like crazy with him. He started dating her, then he married her. Now a few years later, they have 2 kids.

Stuff happens.

20 is soooo young too. The only thing I would say is that if time keeps flying by, and it's still not happening for you, you can make it happen. You have to be around potential partners for it to happen. In other words, if you are a boy and you like girls, then you have to actually be around girls some times or it will never happen. They aren't going to fall out the sky in to your bedroom when you are sat at home playing Streetfighter 4 all day As much as that would be great... it doesn't happen sadly. So you have to go out and do stuff. Get a job with lots of people, or go to parties or go to school or college or night classes, sit in coffee shops and read, etc. You have to be out there with people to meet people. Or even use internet dating.

It's hard for us if we have social anxiety of course, but the only other alternative is to wait forever for someone to fall from the sky. :/

[quietriverrunsdeep]

There's no rush to get your first kiss. Save it for that special someone that understands you and your SA. People my age are rushing to attract the oppisite sex and get a girlfriend or boyfriend but what's the rush? If you find someone you click with, you do, and if you don't, you don't. Just don't start thinking, "Oh no, I'm old! I need to get married quick or I'll die alone and shrivled." Just be patient, you'll be fine.

[AshCash]

I've never had a good kiss experience,and honestly I think I'd rather have not kissed the person at all so then I could have waited for someone I really actually liked so it would have been more meaningful.I think you having never kissed someone is awesome and not really a big deal at the same time,haha.

[Wehttam]

I'm 21 and still haven't done it...I practiced with my hand but now when I brush my teeth my hand shakes at the sight of my mouth :S lol

[Clearly Obscure]

Originally Posted by Fuzzy Logic

Nope, which really embarassing. Being a twenty-something virgin is a little perculiar but not having kissed anyone is just plain strange.

I don't mean to sound rude, but this proves the point that I made yesterday, on this thread.

What is with the whole "you're a virgin/you've never kissed anyone and you're in your 20s???" attitude that seems to be so prevalent nowadays? Am I the only one who finds this to be rather infuriating?

[Moon Calf]

Originally Posted by Clearly Obscure

I don't mean to sound rude, but this proves the point that I made yesterday, on this thread.

What is with the whole "you're a virgin/you've never kissed anyone and you're in your 20s???" attitude that seems to be so prevalent nowadays? Am I the only one who finds this to be rather infuriating?

It's the culture we live in nowadays, I guess.

[Wehttam]

Originally Posted by Moon Calf

It's the culture we live in nowadays, I guess.

Yep...it's like as if people take pride in getting rid of it lol, everyone seems to value having "experience" in bed but personally...I find it much more romantic finding someone you are really comfortable with and learn together with them than be with someone who has a lot of experience and knows a lot of moves in bed and you keep wonder where and with whom they learned all that stuff