i hate that people assume im smart

[jaydee7780]

hello


i really really hate that people within meeting me assume im really smart like i went to university and have degress becasue i look smart wear glasses ,and i don,t talk like an idiot and know some things
specially girls think this its really anoying

i actually did pretty pooryl in school becaseu of my dyslexia
did not know i was dyslexic till i was 23 really

and also people assume i can do everything with easy
i try to tell them im dumb but they don,t believe me

im not actually smart i wish i was i have dyslexia
and having sa makes everything 100 times worse

[LALoner]

Your from England. So that means your smart and gay. People can tell from the way you talk.

[Jennifer Clayton]

lol @ LALoner.

Well, that sucks. I think some people probably assume I'm smart because I wear glasses, and yeah, I don't act like an idiot like a lot of people do. It's okay, I just don't want them to assume that that's all I am.

[kiirby]

Just feign intelligence, then. It's what I do. By using words like 'feign'. It's easier to fit into a stereotype than attempt to break it.

Warning: this may be awful, awful advice.

Oh, and you're smart and gay too? Wanna... maybe... talk about middle eastern diplomatic relations in latin over a cup of tea sometime?

[sarafinanickelbocker]

Hmm yeah I don't hate that so much, but it was pretty weird that people assumed that I was this school girl who got good grades, just for being quiet. That was even BEFORE I started wearing glasses on a regular bases. People are so weird.

[toolrepair125]

i here you, I found out I was dyslexic when I was 41.

[Links]

Your way of thinking is interesting. I think I'm the opposite to you. I would like to be assumed as smart as I worry that people assume that I'm not smart.

[BKrakow]

wish I had that problem! I'm pretty sure most people assume I'm an idiot because I rarely open my mouth and, when I do, I always end up sounding like a bumbling fool.

[dust3000]

Yeah, I hate that assumption. People assume that because I studied maths at university I am smart. Then why did I only just have passing grades? Why was that six years ago and I have only had one unrelated job (held for a year) with minimum wage? And then they think I am a snob because I don't talk much. My english skills are crap, my social skills are crap, I have forgotten all the school stuff I ever learnt. I can't be that smart.

[rambo]

So what if they call you smart? Do you prefer to be called dumb? If you want to be called dumb. ACT DUMB. Dress dumb. And you'll see how more unhappy you'll feel when everybody call you dumb.

[JupiterStarr]

People tend to assume I'm smart too, but I'd rather them think of me as smart than not so smart.

[Recipe For Disaster]

This is one of the most common assumptions people make about me. It irritates me like hell because then I feel pressure to always act smart. And I'm average so that's not possible.

i've had that happen to me too. people tend to think i'm smart because i am somewhat intellectual and like to read about the things that interest me. but in terms of ability in math/logic and verbally, i consider myself just a little above average and i have no other real talents or abilities. i am quite stupid at times too.

[Unloveable]

I've had people think I'm smarter than I am and I have had people think I'm not as smart as I think I am. I think I prefer being thought of as smarter than I really am because I can rationalize any negative comments that they make by thinking they are only saying these things because they aren't as smart as they think I am and they are only trying to feed their own egos by belittling me. I have a harder time when people treat me like an idiot. There's just something about it that makes me think... maybe I am as stupid as they think I am. Maybe I do need a 5 minute lesson on how to use a highlighter (that really happened btw). Anyway~ I would play along if I were you. It's better to be looked up to than looked down on.

[ont6]

i don't want people thinking i know stuff they'll just want you to fix things for them.

[Kon]

People think I'm an idiot because I was and am socially inept. They assume because you don't know how to do everyday stuff and talk about "normal" stuff that you're also lacking in the brain department. They think you're good in school because you spend so much time at it because you have no other interests. That's partially correct, I think. The other group of people (university friends) assume that you're way more intelligent than you really are. They base intelligence on academic success/marks. The two aren't completely related, in my opinion.

[Man Is An Island]

People assume that because I write proper sentences (or at least attempt to do so), that I am also smart. Unfortunately, this trait has no practical bearing in the real world when not coupled with originality, quick-thinking, social charisma and the ability to problem-solve. The prison-educational complex deluded me into believing I was intelligent because I was a quiet, obedient student who did what he was told. Life in the real world hit me like a punch in the face, and I quickly realized that not only was I not special intellectually, I was downright stupid.

Most of those 'problem children' teachers identified as 'going nowhere in life' (in contrast to what they believed about me) have eclipsed my achievements in the real world tenfold. They learned to specialize in a particular skill while I wasted my time at university. When I dropped out, realizing the futility of it all, and attempted to acquire supposedly "low-minded" skills myself, I was shocked to discover that such specialties are remarkably challenging, well beyond my extremely limited mental capacity. Yet, despite my being a 24 year old failure with a dead end, low-wage job, certain misguided and foolish individuals still insist that I am legitimately smart. Hilarious. I guess it must be the glasses.

[IllusionOfHappiness]

Originally Posted by kiirby

Just feign intelligence, then. It's what I do. By using words like 'feign'. It's easier to fit into a stereotype than attempt to break it.

Warning: this may be awful, awful advice.

Oh, and you're smart and gay too? Wanna... maybe... talk about middle eastern diplomatic relations in latin over a cup of tea sometime?

Haha. I approve. I don't always hate that people assume I'm smart. I'd LOVE to be smart. Intelligent, if you will. So just go with it.

Wait, waaaiiit I take that back. As they say, the more you know the more depressed you are. Whoever "they" are. So yes, square one again (did we ever leave for square 2?) act the part!

Personally, I'd like to hide Wikipedia wherever I go and try to impress people with random facts about things. Chyeaa.

[aerisan]

Oh you blessed fellow. I have the opposite problem. I am smart (ok, booksmart, not street smart and for some the latter is what truly counts but I'm assuming you talk about the former). Academics have always been a breeze for me except for trig & physics. My hair color apparently makes it difficult for ppl to believe I can communicate anything other than "Oh like..totally awesome!" or "I know, right". Maybe I should go brunette and get some fake glasses.

[Cerberus]

Originally Posted by Kon

People think I'm an idiot because I was and am socially inept. They assume because you don't know how to do everyday stuff and talk about "normal" stuff that you're also lacking in the brain department. They think you're good in school because you spend so much time at it because you have no other interests. That's partially correct, I think. The other group of people (university friends) assume that you're way more intelligent than you really are. They base intelligence on academic success/marks. The two aren't completely related, in my opinion.

I get the same thing. I just want consistency. It's annoying to, within the span of one day, go from being called smart to being told I should go back to moping floors. This is why I don't take insults or compliments seriously unless the person really knows me. People just judge me based on their impressions. I hate how people think they can sum me up or some attribute of mine within a minute.

[fez]

Originally Posted by rombow

So what if they call you smart? Do you prefer to be called dumb? If you want to be called dumb. ACT DUMB. Dress dumb. And you'll see how more unhappy you'll feel when everybody call you dumb.

Because it probably makes the person who everyone assumes is a genius feel even more inadeqete and pressured then they already are if they do poorly or average.