Social Anxiety Support

alohomora · 11-18-2009, 04:49 PM

Anyone else like this?

Sometimes I almost feel like throwing up after being in certain social situations...especially if I feel like I've revealed too much private information about myself...

Why does it happen? I can't explain it...am I just mistrustful of some people?

JayDontCareEh · 11-18-2009, 05:06 PM

O M G.

I can sooo relate to this.

Catching Fire · 11-18-2009, 05:36 PM

Yeah if things don't go well or I've had to face a lot of social situations I'll normally need to lie down or something. Dissaociation doesn't help either. If that's what you mean by diturbed though.

quietriverrunsdeep · 11-18-2009, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by alohomora

Anyone else like this?

Sometimes I almost feel like throwing up after being in certain social situations...especially if I feel like I've revealed too much private information about myself...

Why does it happen? I can't explain it...am I just mistrustful of some people?

Holy crap! I thought I was the only one who thought this! This is really wierd. Well, from what I can guess from my experiences is that since we have SA, we normally don't deviate from our normal level of social activity (which if you're like me is close to none). Once that deviation occurs, it's a shock because it's such a big change and we feel a sense of vulnerablilty and exposure and makes us want to climb back into our shells once again. Part of it is also mistrust because as sufferers of SA we are always conscious of what others are thinking. Once we talk and start expressing our feelings, we start to feel wary and think others are judging us negatively. Anyway, I agree the feeling is horrible and it's one of the reasons of avoiding social contact. I wish I could dissect it more.

alohomora · 11-18-2009, 06:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Catching Fire

Yeah if things don't go well or I've had to face a lot of social situations I'll normally need to lie down or something. Dissaociation doesn't help either. If that's what you mean by diturbed though.

When I said disturbed, I meant: disquieted, anxious uneasiness, troubled, agitated, something that intrudes upon my psyche in an a way that doesn't feel right.

When you first mentioned "dissociation" I was thinking no way, that's not what I'm talking about at all. I looked it up on wikipedia and it says that dissociation, "severs a connection to a person's thoughts, memories, feelings, actions, or sense of identity". I didn't think this applied to me but then I read that they "are typically experienced as startling, autonomous intrusions into the person's usual ways of responding or functioning. Due to their unexpected and largely inexplicable nature, they tend to be quite unsettling". This sounds like it may apply to me but this may also be caused by other things. I have had times in my life when I felt like I wasn't present- probably due to extreme anxiety making me almost feel like I was outside my body. I think sometimes I get a feeling like, "wow, I can't believe that just happened" because something didn't match my mental conception of what it was supposed to look like or be. So maybe I have had mild dissociative experiences (albeit clinically insignificant). This wouldn't be too unrealistic to say because wikipedia states that 60 to 65% of people in the "normal" population have had dissociative experiences that are not clinically significant.

alohomora · 11-18-2009, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by quietriverrunsdeep

Holy crap! I thought I was the only one who thought this! This is really wierd. Well, from what I can guess from my experiences is that since we have SA, we normally don't deviate from our normal level of social activity (which if you're like me is close to none). Once that deviation occurs, it's a shock because it's such a big change and we feel a sense of vulnerablilty and exposure and makes us want to climb back into our shells once again. Part of it is also mistrust because as sufferers of SA we are always conscious of what others are thinking. Once we talk and start expressing our feelings, we start to feel wary and think others are judging us negatively. Anyway, I agree the feeling is horrible and it's one of the reasons of avoiding social contact. I wish I could dissect it more.

I was actually thinking the same thing. I wonder if me revealing information about myself is so out of the norm for me that my psyche feels completely jarred. It just doesn't feel right. I'm wondering if it's something I should get over though. Maybe feeling disturbed is a normal part of human living? Maybe I won't get that feeling anymore if I socialize more...idk.

This reminds me of things I've seen on TV. I remember watching this show where a girl goes out with a guy but they are having an "open relationship". Even though she feels troubled by it, she still goes along with it anyway. Then she sees her guy with another girl and even though she originally agreed to the "open relationship" she still has to go to the bathroom and throw up. Do people get hurt like this as a part of normal living? I mean, in the case of relationships, even if both people are faithful, if they break up, is it normal to feel like throwing up? I don't know if us SA people are more sensitive than most or if we are just less willing to take the risk of getting hurt so badly.

ursula · 01-05-2010, 01:02 PM

I know where you're coming from- I always feel extremely uneasy after talking to someone I don't know well even if I haven't said anything 'personal'. I have to go into hiding for a few days to recover from the most trivial conversations. I don't think I ever do reveal anything personal either- I don't know if I'm capable. I wouldn't have thought most people experience unease in quite the same intense way or they just wouldn't be able to cope with everything the world throws at them.

ohpewp · 01-05-2010, 02:05 PM

I feel a lot of pressure and stress to do well when i talk to them next time. And that seems too overwhelming. So i tend to avoid talking to them for a while and get really discouraged.

shyvr6 · 01-05-2010, 02:23 PM

I'm not really sure why you would feel that way. Maybe the queasy feeling is because it's a panic symptom when you think you said too much info.

Stargirl09 · 01-05-2010, 03:00 PM

I'm always scared I'm going to choke but I'm also scared to let go of that fear incase thats what will make it happen so I try control it and get a dry mouth as a result. My throat is always sore looking and I have to brush my teeth often just to make it feel less dry, my mind revolves around that one fear and eclipses everything else.

I can keep up a chat only for so long and if I say what I consider to be 'too many words' then I start panicking that I've exceeded that verbal limit and that now something bad is about to happen-so I usually leave.

I used to feel sick, I'd gip in the car if we went out of town like a saddo and always be worried that I'd throw up in the middle of nowhere. That was ages ago, I've had stomach bugs and food poisoning since then and now I don't think about vomit anymore than the next person.

Nausea in social situations is listed as one of the key symptoms of S.A.

tutliputli · 01-05-2010, 03:22 PM

I can relate. Sometimes I feel sick just being around people, due to a general sense of not belonging and not knowing how to behave/what to do. This tends to happen mostly around people I'm not that familiar with, e.g., at work. It's a horrible feeling.

Roberto · 01-05-2010, 05:29 PM

I used to feel like personal things were dear and sacred, and to share them with just anyone was like having them **** on or raped or something. Now I feel like I have to see someone as a potential friend before I spend a lot of energy communicating with them. Its just how I feel. I used to feel like personal things were dear and sacred, and to share them with just anyone was like having them **** on or raped or something. Now I feel like I have to see someone as a potential friend before I spend a lot of energy communicating with them. Its weird but its just how I feel.

11-18-2009, 04:49 PM	#1 (permalink)
alohomora Status: undecided Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 348	I feel disturbed sometimes Anyone else like this? Sometimes I almost feel like throwing up after being in certain social situations...especially if I feel like I've revealed too much private information about myself... Why does it happen? I can't explain it...am I just mistrustful of some people? __________________ life is one big social game

11-18-2009, 05:06 PM	#2 (permalink)
JayDontCareEh Status: SAS member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Posts: 453	O M G. I can sooo relate to this. __________________ Lost in translation

11-18-2009, 05:36 PM	#3 (permalink)
Catching Fire Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Gender: Male Posts: 664	Yeah if things don't go well or I've had to face a lot of social situations I'll normally need to lie down or something. Dissaociation doesn't help either. If that's what you mean by diturbed though. __________________ No chains on my feet but Im not free- Bob Marley

01-05-2010, 02:05 PM	#8 (permalink)
ohpewp Status: Somewhat Human Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Arkansas Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 510	I feel a lot of pressure and stress to do well when i talk to them next time. And that seems too overwhelming. So i tend to avoid talking to them for a while and get really discouraged. __________________ I'm good to go, and I''m going nowhere fast.

01-05-2010, 02:23 PM	#9 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 10,718	I'm not really sure why you would feel that way. Maybe the queasy feeling is because it's a panic symptom when you think you said too much info. __________________ Music

01-05-2010, 01:02 PM	#7 (permalink)
ursula Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Posts: 7	I know where you're coming from- I always feel extremely uneasy after talking to someone I don't know well even if I haven't said anything 'personal'. I have to go into hiding for a few days to recover from the most trivial conversations. I don't think I ever do reveal anything personal either- I don't know if I'm capable. I wouldn't have thought most people experience unease in quite the same intense way or they just wouldn't be able to cope with everything the world throws at them.

01-05-2010, 03:00 PM	#10 (permalink)
Stargirl09 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Wyke, Bradford Gender: Female Posts: 557	I'm always scared I'm going to choke but I'm also scared to let go of that fear incase thats what will make it happen so I try control it and get a dry mouth as a result. My throat is always sore looking and I have to brush my teeth often just to make it feel less dry, my mind revolves around that one fear and eclipses everything else. I can keep up a chat only for so long and if I say what I consider to be 'too many words' then I start panicking that I've exceeded that verbal limit and that now something bad is about to happen-so I usually leave. I used to feel sick, I'd gip in the car if we went out of town like a saddo and always be worried that I'd throw up in the middle of nowhere. That was ages ago, I've had stomach bugs and food poisoning since then and now I don't think about vomit anymore than the next person. Nausea in social situations is listed as one of the key symptoms of S.A. __________________ The biggest mistake you can make in life is to be continually afraid of making one-Elbert Hubbard

01-05-2010, 03:22 PM	#11 (permalink)
tutliputli Status: twisterella Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Flumpbase Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 1,693	I can relate. Sometimes I feel sick just being around people, due to a general sense of not belonging and not knowing how to behave/what to do. This tends to happen mostly around people I'm not that familiar with, e.g., at work. It's a horrible feeling. __________________ Listen to the girl As she takes on half the world Moving up and so alive In her honey dripping beehive.

01-05-2010, 05:29 PM	#12 (permalink)
Roberto Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: The folk of nor virginia Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 2,878	I used to feel like personal things were dear and sacred, and to share them with just anyone was like having them ** on or raped or something. Now I feel like I have to see someone as a potential friend before I spend a lot of energy communicating with them. Its just how I feel. I used to feel like personal things were dear and sacred, and to share them with just anyone was like having them ** on or raped or something. Now I feel like I have to see someone as a potential friend before I spend a lot of energy communicating with them. Its weird but its just how I feel.