Originally Posted by Zerix
It doesn't have to be an exact thing... You can walk in a room and feel anxious just because you think they're gonna judge you about something. Are you ashamed of your own self is the question.
I think that is the point he is trying to make. If we fear peer judgment, it means there is something we feel is worth judging about ourselves. Because, if you have no shame (nothing to hide) what is there to worry about, right?
It means that anyone with SA has something shameful to hide about themselves. It may not even be rational (feeling fat when you are not), but it feels real.
It may be that you don't feel shame with a particular attribute of yourself. It could just be self doubt. For example, lets say you have a high pitched voice, which doesn't bother you at all and never did. Then, someone comments that it sounds annoying, and now you are doubting your own evaluation of the sound of your voice. Now you've become ashamed of your own voice (even if only temporarily).
I think its always based on shame, whether that is deep rooted (something you always feel that is wrong with your very person (deep shame)),
or situational (something you feel is wrong iwth you in the moment, but not normally (self doubt)).
Either way, the topic creator can't figure out which reason he feels shame. Knowing can be half the battle.