Social Anxiety Support

tedstein83 · 05-02-2012, 12:15 AM

Just out of curiosity...
Kind of a personal question. But SA is personal.
If it doesn't say in your info whether you're male or female, please indicate.
I have a feeling that it makes a difference in this circumstance.

also--> How many of these people were you attracted to?

SA friggin sucks.

MrGilligan · 05-02-2012, 12:16 AM

Zero!!

It's deliberate. If I wanted to have sex with people, there are at least 3 who would have done it with me.

I'm female.

R91 · 05-02-2012, 12:17 AM

1) There is already a thread about this: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...ou-had-177619/

2) Stating your gender with your number is definitely going to start some sort of war about how men/women have it easier when it comes to dating/sex.

But you're right - SA sucks

komorikun · 05-02-2012, 12:18 AM

http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...ou-had-177619/

http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...kissed-171217/

tedstein83 · 05-02-2012, 12:25 AM

well it definitely is easier for women than men. This has nothing to do with anything innate in the person as who they are, but i think how society has determined us to be at this position. not sexist at all. of course exceptions abound. but as a general rule i think its easier for women to get laid than men. -->

Of course all sorts of factors come into this. Severity of the anxiety, etc. etc. etc. Like if there was a severely shy guy and a severly shy girl and both were fairly attractive and opportunistically horny, then I would expect the girl to get laid more. Severe, full blown social anxiety is different.

Right?

MrGilligan · 05-02-2012, 12:29 AM

It's easier for girls to get laid because a lot of men want sex a lot more than women do, and most people are heterosexual. A woman will get three offers from guys who she wants nothing to do with, while men do not, because the women they want to have sex with will more likely see sex as something more meaningful and won't want to just give it away without thinking about it first.

So isn't that just perfect? Women get all the sex, and they don't even want it, while men don't get any of it and want it more than anything.

(my over-generalization is on purpose. I know not all men / women are like this.)

R91 · 05-02-2012, 12:29 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by tedstein83

well it definitely is easier for women than men. ...... Severe, full blown social anxiety is different.

Right?

I just noticed you only recently joined, and I'm a baby SAS member as well, but there have been SO many threads about this and it never ends well. It's better to find a thread similar to this that has already been locked or whatever rather than starting a new one.

Here is one for you: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...rom-sa-134672/

tedstein83 · 05-02-2012, 12:36 AM

I didn't realize it was a common topic. Thanks for pointing that out. I'll check the other posts.

Anyways... don't delude yourself. There are differences in libido and perceptions of sexuality. But the differences in libido are somewhat slight, and that perceptions of sexuality (e.g. effing rather than making love) are significant, but not to such a large degree.

I think many guys misunderestimate the situation.

fonz · 05-02-2012, 12:38 AM

0

Evo · 05-02-2012, 12:38 AM

Zero.

komorikun · 05-02-2012, 12:43 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrGilligan

It's easier for girls to get laid because a lot of men want sex a lot more than women do, and most people are heterosexual. A woman will get three offers from guys who she wants nothing to do with, while men do not, because the women they want to have sex with will more likely see sex as something more meaningful and won't want to just give it away without thinking about it first.

So isn't that just perfect? Women get all the sex, and they don't even want it, while men don't get any of it and want it more than anything.

(my over-generalization is on purpose. I know not all men / women are like this.)

Yeah, it's easier to get laid as a woman but getting a boyfriend is very hard. Actually I'd say for non-shy men it is easier for them to get a girlfriend than vice versa. I could have sex with a different guy everyday till menopause if I wanted but probably only 1% would want to date me.

MidnightBlu · 05-02-2012, 12:58 AM

Two. Technically it could be three since one guy attempted to have sex with me by *ahem* putting it in me briefly, but we didn't do it all the way. I've done it all the way with two people.

Cerberus · 05-02-2012, 01:05 AM

0

I don't see this changing anytime soon. I'm not sure I want it to change until I fix my emotional problems.

MidnightBlu · 05-02-2012, 01:08 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by komorikun

Yeah, it's easier to get laid as a woman but getting a boyfriend is very hard.

BobtheBest · 05-02-2012, 01:12 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by MrGilligan

It's easier for girls to get laid because a lot of men want sex a lot more than women do, and most people are heterosexual. A woman will get three offers from guys who she wants nothing to do with, while men do not, because the women they want to have sex with will more likely see sex as something more meaningful and won't want to just give it away without thinking about it first.

So isn't that just perfect? Women get all the sex, and they don't even want it, while men don't get any of it and want it more than anything.

(my over-generalization is on purpose. I know not all men / women are like this.)

Unwanted offers pretty much sucks worse than none at all. I'd rather be forever alone than to spend any time with, let alone sleep with, any bad or unwanted company.

tedstein83 · 05-02-2012, 01:17 AM

I think most of the guys here would settle for either one. Getting laid or having a significant other. I'm beginning to think that maybe im not as socially anxious as i thought. Maybe I drink a lot. Alcohol and lack of standards are my boon.

social anxiety sucks

I feel bad for you girls. More to the other sex than sex, people say

Just out of curiosity, what type of guys are you interested in? honestly, if a guy was really shy, and slightly awkward would you be interested in him? Or more interested in a flippant, easy going type? how important are looks?

UgShy · 05-02-2012, 01:29 AM

Counting one night stands? Ug.. A lot. Lets say 10+ for the sake of it. I regret it, but it was all prior to me being in a relationship for a solid 5 years.

Bryan108 · 05-02-2012, 01:33 AM

Absolutely zilch

CoastalSprite · 05-02-2012, 02:31 AM

It'll be zero till I'm married.. Because I'm just old-fashioned that way

Wacky Wednesdays · 05-02-2012, 03:03 AM

8, Female, 7.

Maybe it's easier for women to get sex if they wanted it. It helps being attracted to them but I'd say sex is better in relationships or at the very least, you've gotten to know them on a personal level.

05-02-2012, 12:15 AM	#1 (permalink)
tedstein83 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 72	how many people have you had sex with? Just out of curiosity... Kind of a personal question. But SA is personal. If it doesn't say in your info whether you're male or female, please indicate. I have a feeling that it makes a difference in this circumstance. also--> How many of these people were you attracted to? SA friggin sucks.

05-02-2012, 12:18 AM	#4 (permalink)
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05-02-2012, 12:38 AM	#9 (permalink)
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05-02-2012, 12:38 AM	#10 (permalink)
Evo Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: New Zealand Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 8,889	Zero. __________________ SoundCloud

05-02-2012, 01:05 AM	#13 (permalink)
Cerberus Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 7,136	0 I don't see this changing anytime soon. I'm not sure I want it to change until I fix my emotional problems. __________________ “Where you see a means to destroy, I see a way to control--to dominate and harness the Reapers' power. Imagine how strong humanity would be if we controlled them.”

05-02-2012, 12:16 AM	#2 (permalink)
MrGilligan Status: ^_^ Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: The World. Posts: 952	Zero!! It's deliberate. If I wanted to have sex with people, there are at least 3 who would have done it with me. I'm female.

05-02-2012, 12:17 AM	#3 (permalink)
R91 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2012 Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 960	1) There is already a thread about this: http://www.socialanxietysupport.com/...ou-had-177619/ 2) Stating your gender with your number is definitely going to start some sort of war about how men/women have it easier when it comes to dating/sex. But you're right - SA sucks

05-02-2012, 12:25 AM	#5 (permalink)
tedstein83 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 72	well it definitely is easier for women than men. This has nothing to do with anything innate in the person as who they are, but i think how society has determined us to be at this position. not sexist at all. of course exceptions abound. but as a general rule i think its easier for women to get laid than men. --> Of course all sorts of factors come into this. Severity of the anxiety, etc. etc. etc. Like if there was a severely shy guy and a severly shy girl and both were fairly attractive and opportunistically horny, then I would expect the girl to get laid more. Severe, full blown social anxiety is different. Right?

05-02-2012, 12:29 AM	#6 (permalink)
MrGilligan Status: ^_^ Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: The World. Posts: 952	It's easier for girls to get laid because a lot of men want sex a lot more than women do, and most people are heterosexual. A woman will get three offers from guys who she wants nothing to do with, while men do not, because the women they want to have sex with will more likely see sex as something more meaningful and won't want to just give it away without thinking about it first. So isn't that just perfect? Women get all the sex, and they don't even want it, while men don't get any of it and want it more than anything. (my over-generalization is on purpose. I know not all men / women are like this.)

05-02-2012, 12:36 AM	#8 (permalink)
tedstein83 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 72	I didn't realize it was a common topic. Thanks for pointing that out. I'll check the other posts. Anyways... don't delude yourself. There are differences in libido and perceptions of sexuality. But the differences in libido are somewhat slight, and that perceptions of sexuality (e.g. effing rather than making love) are significant, but not to such a large degree. I think many guys misunderestimate the situation.

05-02-2012, 12:58 AM	#12 (permalink)
MidnightBlu Status: Sofa King Fabulous Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Los Angeles, CA Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 1,989	Two. Technically it could be three since one guy attempted to have sex with me by ahem putting it in me briefly, but we didn't do it all the way. I've done it all the way with two people.

05-02-2012, 01:17 AM	#16 (permalink)
tedstein83 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 72	I think most of the guys here would settle for either one. Getting laid or having a significant other. I'm beginning to think that maybe im not as socially anxious as i thought. Maybe I drink a lot. Alcohol and lack of standards are my boon. social anxiety sucks I feel bad for you girls. More to the other sex than sex, people say Just out of curiosity, what type of guys are you interested in? honestly, if a guy was really shy, and slightly awkward would you be interested in him? Or more interested in a flippant, easy going type? how important are looks?

05-02-2012, 01:29 AM	#17 (permalink)
UgShy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Canada Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 622	Counting one night stands? Ug.. A lot. Lets say 10+ for the sake of it. I regret it, but it was all prior to me being in a relationship for a solid 5 years.

05-02-2012, 01:33 AM	#18 (permalink)
Bryan108 Status: Independent Thinker Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: Santa Cruz, California! Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 1,238	Absolutely zilch __________________ 'This too shall pass.'

05-02-2012, 02:31 AM	#19 (permalink)
CoastalSprite Status: User Requested Temporary Ban Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: British Columbia Gender: Female Posts: 2,492	It'll be zero till I'm married.. Because I'm just old-fashioned that way

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