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Old 08-10-2013, 01:27 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Default How do you deal with real intense people?

Now for the most part I can control my SA around others and family members to the point where people don't see how weird I am. LOL. Intense people though bring out the SA demons in me. It's like I lose whatever confidence I have and hear myself getting all wishy-washy. Anyone have any advise
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Old 08-10-2013, 01:34 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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What do you mean by intense? What makes someone intense? Like this:



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You mean like really outgoing and loud people?
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I usually avoid intense people if possible. They make me feel pressured plus they take life way too seriously. I like people that go with the flow and don't make everyone pay attention to them.
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I know an intense person who is also very kind. Extremely talkative but quite helpful, at least regarding practical matters.
In my interactions with her, i just let her do all the talking, answer questions as honestly as possible (not too honest, that would make her think i'm crazy).
A single hour with her makes me feel exhausted, even though what she has to say is usually of some interest to me. It's just too fast-paced and laden with expectations to make me comfortable. So i try to keep the encounters brief and meaningful.
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I just stay calm, eventually my aura of boringness starts affecting the person, which loses its intensity.

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Depends on the context. But I usually just exit the room, if there's no need to put up with them.
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You mean like really outgoing and loud people?
Possibly, I had more in my mind though people who are just too serious and think their s@*t doesn't stink.
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I tend to shut down/freeze around intense people. Not really sure what else to do besides avoiding them!
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Possibly, I had more in my mind though people who are just too serious and think their s@*t doesn't stink.
Are they quiet too? That sounds like the impression that SA symptoms could be giving off to other people. Or depression.

I'm not into those who are truly over-serious (I think I know the types). Show me some humour, please.
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I'm so laid back that i suck the intensity out of intense people... It's a bit of a talent really :l
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