Social Anxiety Support

liilliiliilllil · 11-03-2009, 10:49 AM

As a shy person, I think I have finally nailed down the reason for my shyness - it's this irrational fear that I'll mess up or people will judge me for everything. I'm always afraid, after talking to someone, that I sounded stupid, rude, weird, etc. and it's embarrassing and horrible at the same time... I'm always fidgeting or averting my eyes... I feel like everyone is looking at me all the time.

For example, 2 of my classmates were talking earlier while we're all waiting for the Prof to arrive. I wanted to say something / jump in on the conversation but I held myself back because I didn't want them to think I was eavesdropping or I wouldn't be able to express myself clearly or I'll screw up what I'm going to say.

Then the class started and I wanted to raise my hand to participate in the class discussion but again, I was afraid I was going to say something stupid or not be able to express my thoughts clearly.

Being shy sucks.

Toad Licker · 11-03-2009, 10:55 AM

Hey liilliiliilllil, welcome to

relyt · 11-03-2009, 12:14 PM

Get counseling, read books about overcoming shyness and social anxiety, learn about what cognitive distortions are and how to think positively, and give it time.

joinmartin · 11-03-2009, 05:26 PM

It's ok and it will be ok. Trust yourself. That is one of the most powerful weapons against anxiety. Because it gives you an answer to those thoughts of "what happens if I come across like this or that..." Trusting yourself gives you the answer to those worries of: "if it happens, I'm strong enough to deal with it". It's not easy but it can be done. And, of course, if you are in any doubt about your mental health, consult your doctor asap.

charlottemellissa · 11-03-2009, 05:48 PM

I totally hea what you say and feel like people are always looking at me, judging , being negative about me... who knows if they are or not, i am awaiting to speak to a professional about this in a few weeks,,,

speak to your doc and ask for some help too.... i wish there was a magic spell quick answer, but getting down to the bottom of it and finding some cures must be the best way ...

good luck with it, but speaking about these feelings and talking to us fellow sa people is bloody reassuring ! just knowing your very much not alone

11-03-2009, 10:49 AM	#1 (permalink)
liilliiliilllil Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Posts: 2	how do i overcome this irrational fear? As a shy person, I think I have finally nailed down the reason for my shyness - it's this irrational fear that I'll mess up or people will judge me for everything. I'm always afraid, after talking to someone, that I sounded stupid, rude, weird, etc. and it's embarrassing and horrible at the same time... I'm always fidgeting or averting my eyes... I feel like everyone is looking at me all the time. For example, 2 of my classmates were talking earlier while we're all waiting for the Prof to arrive. I wanted to say something / jump in on the conversation but I held myself back because I didn't want them to think I was eavesdropping or I wouldn't be able to express myself clearly or I'll screw up what I'm going to say. Then the class started and I wanted to raise my hand to participate in the class discussion but again, I was afraid I was going to say something stupid or not be able to express my thoughts clearly. Being shy sucks.

11-03-2009, 10:55 AM	#2 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,638	Hey liilliiliilllil, welcome to __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

11-03-2009, 05:26 PM	#4 (permalink)
joinmartin Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Posts: 156	Hmm It's ok and it will be ok. Trust yourself. That is one of the most powerful weapons against anxiety. Because it gives you an answer to those thoughts of "what happens if I come across like this or that..." Trusting yourself gives you the answer to those worries of: "if it happens, I'm strong enough to deal with it". It's not easy but it can be done. And, of course, if you are in any doubt about your mental health, consult your doctor asap.

11-03-2009, 12:14 PM	#3 (permalink)
relyt Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 11	Get counseling, read books about overcoming shyness and social anxiety, learn about what cognitive distortions are and how to think positively, and give it time.

11-03-2009, 05:48 PM	#5 (permalink)
charlottemellissa Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Gender: Female Posts: 3	I totally hea what you say and feel like people are always looking at me, judging , being negative about me... who knows if they are or not, i am awaiting to speak to a professional about this in a few weeks,,, speak to your doc and ask for some help too.... i wish there was a magic spell quick answer, but getting down to the bottom of it and finding some cures must be the best way ... good luck with it, but speaking about these feelings and talking to us fellow sa people is bloody reassuring ! just knowing your very much not alone