This is my story...
What is it when a man is ONLY scared to be around one girl, he can talk to everyone else comfortably in the room/building (including attractive women) talk, laugh, be silly, etc. but when he gets around this ONE girl he becomes, jittery, extremely anxious, can't look at her (unless its from across a room which he always does) and looks completely frightened and looks like he has tunnel vision when i get close to him physically
. Deer in head lights type of thing!
But yet he will make sure he is in the office or cafeteria at lunch time when i am in there (we work at a school we are both adults) he won't eat or order food..he just stands acrosss the room directly in front of me (feet away) talking to whomever walks by but looking at me the entire time until i am done or he can't do it anymore.
But yet he always stares when i walk away (i have been told he checks me out when i walk) i can feel his eyes on me when i walk by him...or if he sees me talking to someone else he always stares.
I also caught him looking at me intensely through a window once..like he was in a trance or something
when i was in the parking lot with a parent talking and when i looked up and saw him..he literally jumped and practically ran away!!!!!!!LOL!!!!! This has gone on for a very long time..its as if he wants something but then just can't bring himself to get it.
He has even been caught driving by my house (by me) as well,
in my car pulling out of my driveway 3 weeks ago--and was mortified when we got back to work on Monday. I DID say hello to him bcuz he wouldn't even look at me the next morning when we were back at work after i caught him doing the drive-by! I wanted him to know that i was ok with it and that he didn't have to worry.
I also want to add he has had issues in the past with eating in front of me, wearing his glasses--this i has improved greatly though
and when i have asked him in the past if he's feeling ok (bcuz i do care about him a lot) he'll always say he is ''perfectly fine'' BUT will make sure the very next day
he shows me how ''ok'' he really is..laughing with coworkers, joking around..loudly, right in front of me as to say..look at me I'M FINE!!!!
Bcuz i do care and i am interested i have even baked cookies for him-twice, givin him Christmas & Valentines cards, also gave him my email address and cell phone number--which he never uses..but in both instances seemed happy to have them?!? I don't know what to think???
He does do the ''hiding'' voident thing with me sometimes but then makes sure he comes around to say ''hello'' to me and initiate some kind of interaction that way later in the day or sometimes the next day ESPECIALLY IF I GET DISTANT WITH HIM
he will make sure he plants himself somewhere he knows i will be to say ''good morning'' or ''hello'' its a roller coaster ride and i just don't know anymore what to do!!!
I could see if he did this with other women but he doesn't. I have worked with him for years and i have never seen hum act like this with any other coworker before!!! He actually seems very calm and at ease with everyone else--even the really attractive school teachers
in the building--so why me?
I'm just a Preschool teacher.
He's maentenance/custodial by the way and i run the Daycare.
What do you think? Thank you for reading.