Having children?

[WithMyFaithx]

Do any of you (who remain childless) plan to adopt/give birth to a child considering your mental illness?

I worry that my depression and anxiety and extreme stress issues are going to affect me when/if I plan to have a child, and that's one of the reasons I fear to even have a child (okay, well that and I'm only 17 )

Apparently, too much depression/stress can cause major birth defects.

[shyvr6]

I hope to have kids someday. I know there are plenty of people on here with children, so maybe they can give you an opinion about their experiences.

[xTaylor]

I plan to have one someday. As of right now I think having a child would make me feel that I have something to live for, and to motivate me to be a better person and stop being a wuss with SA. But, that's probably a bad way of thinking. No kids for me anytime soon!

[Silentious]

I don't care if I have children or not, I could live with either decision. It depends on if I get married and if my husband would want kids

[Grapefruits]

I've considered adopting. I don't want a biological baby because I don't want to gain weight.

[FoundAndLost]

I don't think I can handle having kids. But hearing a little voice call me daddy would be nice.

[Borophyll]

Yes I plan on having kids.

[She]

I think I would like to have children, but at the same time I am somewhat terrified of passing on my mental health issues to them. :/ I'm not really worried so much about how it would affect my mental health though, I do think it would probably make my life more fulfilling. I suppose adopting could solve the first problem to an extent.

[CoastalSprite]

Yes, I've been wanting a baby for a few years now Hopefully within the decade for me, once I'm done school and am more settled in life.

The thought of passing down mental illness does cross my mind, but my depression and anxieties aren't severe. I'm hoping that if I provide a good enough environment for her, she'll grow to be a healthy and happy child. And if she doesn't.. Well another reason to hate myself, for giving my kid a bad life.. Ugh actually now I don't know

[tehuti88]

Never going to have kids. Not only is no guy ever going to be interested in me that way, but I'm not confident enough for a relationship, myself, plus I could not handle a kid (couldn't handle the crying and the cleaning and the stress), and couldn't afford one, and kids terrify me, and I'd just be a horrible parent all around. And many other reasons. It's just a good idea for me not to have one.

All of this goes without mentioning any possibility of passing on bad genes; my social anxiety was learned anyway.

[lyric]

I love kids so I think I'd be a great parent. I may have a couple of my own and then adopt one. I hate it when people have kids they can't afford so I will have to make sure I'm financially stable.

[SomebodyWakeME]

I wouldn't mind taking in a kid who is old enough to wipe his/her own a**. But i don't think felons can adopt can they? It would be nice to be a role model to a young person, but i guess they don't have to live with me in order to do that. No plans as of now i guess.

[Wohwoh]

Making and/or adopting a few kids would be pretty cool but I would have to get my crap together first before I have any...So far it doesn't look like I'm about to have any.

[sas111]

That would be one selfish, cruel mistake to bring a child into this profoundly sick society, forget my mental history, this world is only going downhill, It's insanity. Everything will collapse soon, we are not evolving, we are rapidly devolving. No, I couldn't do that to my own blood. What if my child becomes as lonely as myself, though the population is grossly increasing, people at heart are becoming more distant. I would feel so, so sad seeing my child broken down & lonely throughout life.

[theseventhkey]

Originally Posted by WithMyFaithx

Do any of you (who remain childless) plan to adopt/give birth to a child considering your mental illness?

I worry that my depression and anxiety and extreme stress issues are going to affect me when/if I plan to have a child, and that's one of the reasons I fear to even have a child (okay, well that and I'm only 17 )

Apparently, too much depression/stress can cause major birth defects.

That's one of the reasons I don't want "spawn", the top 2 reasons though is my blood line, I want to end no more pain, I'm the last one. To know someone else will be walking around with my sperm donor's blood makes me sick to my stomach, I would hate the kid because he has my donors blood and my blood. The 2nd main reason is I don't want to lie to the kid about "life", I'm protecting my "would be" kids from this thing. I'm being "merciful".

[THEuTASTEsOFeINKd]

To me, having kids is as selfish as taking a life. I really want to be a father but there'd be too much guilt. Who knows, maybe one day I'll give in to my selfish thoughts.

[catcharay]

Kids are so sweet and cute but for me, my energy levels wouldn't be able to cope with crying babies day and night. Right now, kids are not on the cards - but I just know one day I'll yearn for a little baby of my own.

[G i r l]

Originally Posted by xTaylor

I plan to have one someday. As of right now I think having a child would make me feel that I have something to live for, and to motivate me to be a better person and stop being a wuss with SA. But, that's probably a bad way of thinking. No kids for me anytime soon!

This is what I think too, but I definitely know it's not a good reason to have children.

Originally Posted by CoastalSprite

The thought of passing down mental illness does cross my mind, but my depression and anxieties aren't severe. I'm hoping that if I provide a good enough environment for her, she'll grow to be a healthy and happy child.

Agreed, I think my problems came about because of my environment, not genetics. I'd do everything I could to make sure my future kids wouldn't suffer like I have.

I have a long way to go before seriously considering a child. I think having a partner might help

[94MPH]

I plan on having a kid in the future. Hopefully it's a boy, I don't think I'll be able to handle raising a girl.

[paulyD]

Originally Posted by WithMyFaithx

Do any of you (who remain childless) plan to adopt/give birth to a child considering your mental illness?

I worry that my depression and anxiety and extreme stress issues are going to affect me when/if I plan to have a child, and that's one of the reasons I fear to even have a child (okay, well that and I'm only 17 )

Apparently, too much depression/stress can cause major birth defects.

no chance whilst i have social anxiety disorder. absolutely no chance what so ever. i wouldnt do that to someone as its not fair

bad parenting is the root cause of low self esteem. and low self esteem is the root cause of all problems in life. you only get one life and life is too short so why would i bring a kid into this world and ruin their one shot in all eternity ?

nay chance !!