Social Anxiety Support

Catching Fire · 06-06-2009, 05:39 AM

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Originally Posted by RoninDistance

I haven't told them, but they "know".

I doubt they know actually. For example I was at lunch yesterday with my family suffering the whole time from my SA with all the physical tells and nervous twitches I feel give it away. They didn't even know I was in great pain and discomfort until I said I had a terrible headache(really SA) which they acted really suprised about. Alot of the time its just not as aparent as you think it is.

But about the topic I told my dad in an awkward conversation that I felt nervous all the time and thought I had an anxiety disorder. I then got a therapist and I think my parents just thought I was just shy and going through a tough time. I think overtime they realized its not that and I really do have an axiety disorder. It took my dad talking to my therapist for an hour I think to really understand it. I think my mom doesn't really get it still though but I'm hoping to have my therapist talk to her.

monkeymagic86 · 06-06-2009, 05:03 PM

Yes my mother took me to a doctor and i told the doctor.
I was nervous and anxious as hell and my doctor listenned to my heartbeat and she said that's not a normal heartbeat its quite fast.
So i talked and finally opened up about it and i got a referrel and a prescription to zoloft.
I wish i had KNOWN what i had was called socail anxiety and gotten help for it years ago.

millenniumman75 · 06-06-2009, 05:18 PM

Both - I have been to a doctor off an on for the last 9 years. My family knows - it's just anxiety. It's more common than people think and most don't even know they have it!

wintersunx3 · 06-09-2009, 04:20 PM

Definitely too embarrasing, it would only cause more anxiety which i DO NOT need. =/ i don't care who it is, I DO NOT want to be critisized, ridiculed, laughed at, etc.

espearite · 06-13-2009, 12:54 AM

I was terrified of telling anyone during my teen/earlier adult years. I couldn't come out for social gatherings, and all I could think about was what people were wondering about me not being there. My dad didn't have the patience to understand, so his reactions were always demeaning. My mom would ask what was wrong, but I could never tell her. It was too bizarre. Later on as I got older, I just grew tired of the lies and excuses so much so that I felt like I needed to grow up and let those closest to me know what the deal was. As a result, they have become more understanding. It's not easy just because they know, either. It's still a humiliating experience to have someone bring up my phobia just because I can't go somewhere planned. My dad may know through my mom.

hopelesslyshy · 06-13-2009, 01:24 AM

My parents know. I'm sure others suspect it but don't know the degree of my SA.

holdencaulfield · 06-13-2009, 01:28 AM

I'm too embarrasssed to tell even my parents about my SA..

Ospi · 06-13-2009, 01:45 AM

Told my parents but too awhile. Best thing I ever did though as they were very understanding and helped me with seeing doctors and eventually in therapy which has been a god send.

Hypnotoad · 06-13-2009, 02:32 AM

I don't know if they know or not. They definitely know 'something' since they know I see both a psychiatrist and psychologist, plus my mother still picks up my prescriptions for me, pathetic I know. I think at most they know is for generalized anxiety. I could never tell them about my SA. I do everything possible to keep them from knowing that.
I let it out once in elementary school. It was right when paxil came out and they were running commercials for it. I remember telling my mom that I needed that. What they describe is what I feel.
She shook it off as "You're just shy" God I wish I would have pushed harder, but I was only 10, ah regrets

bbarn · 06-14-2009, 02:44 PM

yes i have told my mom about it and i got help and took a 3 month group cbt session.

Toad Licker · 06-14-2009, 03:00 PM

I've been seeing a counselor for many years now and I'm pretty sure everyone in my family knows about my SA, all I had to do was tell my mom about it lol.

lilgreenmouse · 06-14-2009, 04:29 PM

I didn't actually tell my mum and my close friends that I had SA directly, but I let them know that things just weren't looking great at all for me. It was REALLY hard since I tend to keep things to myself: I'm horribly afraid of being judged, pitied, or have my issues dismissed.
Ever opened up to someone and all they say is something along the lines of "I know what you're going through, depression is common for everyone. It'll pass, you'll see." And that's IF they actually listened to you and don't immediately compare your issues to their own.

Mercurochrome · 06-14-2009, 07:16 PM

Yes, depression and s.a., first through actions, and then words (two or four)

06-06-2009, 05:18 PM	#23 (permalink)
millenniumman75 Status: Super Moderator Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Dayton-Cincinnati, OH Gender: Male Age: 34 Posts: 38,628	Both - I have been to a doctor off an on for the last 9 years. My family knows - it's just anxiety. It's more common than people think and most don't even know they have it! __________________ millenniumman75 You are a success story waiting to happen! Live and let live VACUUMS more than a Hoover.... Live and HELP live is better!

06-13-2009, 02:32 AM	#29 (permalink)
Hypnotoad Status: All glory to Hypnotoad Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Murderville, TN Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 124	I don't know if they know or not. They definitely know 'something' since they know I see both a psychiatrist and psychologist, plus my mother still picks up my prescriptions for me, pathetic I know. I think at most they know is for generalized anxiety. I could never tell them about my SA. I do everything possible to keep them from knowing that. I let it out once in elementary school. It was right when paxil came out and they were running commercials for it. I remember telling my mom that I needed that. What they describe is what I feel. She shook it off as "You're just shy" God I wish I would have pushed harder, but I was only 10, ah regrets __________________ Our enemies shall be eaten by squirrels. Zoom-Zoom!

06-14-2009, 02:44 PM	#30 (permalink)
bbarn Status: on my way to recovery Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 25 Posts: 232	yes i have told my mom about it and i got help and took a 3 month group cbt session. __________________ “You can never cross the ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the shore” - Christopher Columbus

06-14-2009, 03:00 PM	#31 (permalink)
Toad Licker Status: Broken Join Date: Nov 2007 Location: A Fruitloop Daydream Gender: Male Age: 44 Posts: 29,616	I've been seeing a counselor for many years now and I'm pretty sure everyone in my family knows about my SA, all I had to do was tell my mom about it lol. __________________ All will wither, go to sleep The ones you love you may not keep All you touch will fall apart The dreams you kill will break your heart There's no mercy, there's no rest The void will scream within your chest No one knows and no one will So leave this place that makes you Ill - Madder Mortem

06-14-2009, 07:16 PM	#33 (permalink)
Mercurochrome Status: see other Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: away Age: 29 Posts: 2,964	Yes, depression and s.a., first through actions, and then words (two or four) __________________ well acquainted with worms and dirt

06-06-2009, 05:03 PM	#22 (permalink)
monkeymagic86 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 23 Posts: 183	Yes my mother took me to a doctor and i told the doctor. I was nervous and anxious as hell and my doctor listenned to my heartbeat and she said that's not a normal heartbeat its quite fast. So i talked and finally opened up about it and i got a referrel and a prescription to zoloft. I wish i had KNOWN what i had was called socail anxiety and gotten help for it years ago.

06-09-2009, 04:20 PM	#24 (permalink)
wintersunx3 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Ohio Gender: Female Posts: 25	Definitely too embarrasing, it would only cause more anxiety which i DO NOT need. =/ i don't care who it is, I DO NOT want to be critisized, ridiculed, laughed at, etc.

06-13-2009, 12:54 AM	#25 (permalink)
espearite Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Northern California Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 160	I was terrified of telling anyone during my teen/earlier adult years. I couldn't come out for social gatherings, and all I could think about was what people were wondering about me not being there. My dad didn't have the patience to understand, so his reactions were always demeaning. My mom would ask what was wrong, but I could never tell her. It was too bizarre. Later on as I got older, I just grew tired of the lies and excuses so much so that I felt like I needed to grow up and let those closest to me know what the deal was. As a result, they have become more understanding. It's not easy just because they know, either. It's still a humiliating experience to have someone bring up my phobia just because I can't go somewhere planned. My dad may know through my mom.

06-13-2009, 01:24 AM	#26 (permalink)
hopelesslyshy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2008 Gender: Female Age: 17 Posts: 53	My parents know. I'm sure others suspect it but don't know the degree of my SA.

06-13-2009, 01:28 AM	#27 (permalink)
holdencaulfield Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Southern California Gender: Male Posts: 23	I'm too embarrasssed to tell even my parents about my SA..

06-13-2009, 01:45 AM	#28 (permalink)
Ospi Status: Swoit Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Brisbane, Australia Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 1,499	Told my parents but too awhile. Best thing I ever did though as they were very understanding and helped me with seeing doctors and eventually in therapy which has been a god send.

06-14-2009, 04:29 PM	#32 (permalink)
lilgreenmouse Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Canada Posts: 32	I didn't actually tell my mum and my close friends that I had SA directly, but I let them know that things just weren't looking great at all for me. It was REALLY hard since I tend to keep things to myself: I'm horribly afraid of being judged, pitied, or have my issues dismissed. Ever opened up to someone and all they say is something along the lines of "I know what you're going through, depression is common for everyone. It'll pass, you'll see." And that's IF they actually listened to you and don't immediately compare your issues to their own.