Have other people thought you were gay because of being shy, timid?

[Lincolnradiocat]

I had a conversation with my sister one time about this(not because I think I am perceived as timid, but as a 30's single dude who never dates) and she thinks it's a small town thing, and even then, doesn't think that people wonder that much about my sexuality when they find out that I am still not married with any kids at 31. She says if people wonder, then "it's a small town thing" and that is why she wants me to move to the bigger city where she lives.

I admit, if I knew somebody in this town (and I don't) that was my age, half way decent looking dude, was in his 30's and single with no kids and never (at least in the last ten years) has never been seen with a female companion, I would wonder at little bit I guess. But I don't know anyone else that fits that description other than myself.

But in my case, SA is probably only a small part of the reason. I have other reasons for being single. Mostly, it's because everybody around here is already married with kids. No real opportunities. Plus I still haven't decided if the family life is really something I want.

[fences]

*long drawn out sigh*
Too much for me to not notice it :/.

[dax]

Yeah I get that from time to time. I always have gay guys after me too. It's annoying. I get hit on by gay men all the time- I got a love note from one once and I've also had others go out of their way to do things for me or make it known they liked me. It's makes me really uncomfortable when it happens, I haven't really figured out how to deal with it yet. I just wish I got hit on by girls as much as guys.

[STKinTHEmud]

I've been asked if I was gay seriously only once when I was a teenager over 10 years ago. Of course, the guy was a complete douche, and the people that overheard laughed it off. I'm very outspoken about gay rights, but I don't think anyone I know thinks I'm gay. Of course, I rarely hang out with total douche bags these days.

[JS86]

Originally Posted by JS86

I was labelled as gay by a couple of women quite a few years ago now. At the time I was very timid and really kept to myself. We were put into a random group for a class task (they were from another class, so I hadn't before or since had any more interaction with them and couldn't possibly remember what they looked like) and under one of their breaths they called me gay. They never said it to me, but it was clear to me what they said.

Oh, I just thought of another situation from high school, which is seven or eight years ago now. A friend of mine had a girlfriend and while we were conversing in class she told him under her breath - designed for me not to hear, but I did - that I was gay. She was quite hostile to me all the time too and never spoke a word to me.

Gay for just having a conversation with someone? That makes me angry on two levels. One it suggests there is actually something wrong with being homosexual. Secondly it attaches a stigma which can limit social possibilities.

[UKPhobe]

Oh yes!!