Girls at the mall

[Some Russian Guy]

Originally Posted by Ov3rcome

I was walking around the mall today when these two girls started talking to me and gave me their numbers. I know this sounds weird, but I feel like they were doing it just to get a laugh out of it later. What do you all think?

apparently they want threesome

[Ov3rcome]

Originally Posted by Some Russian Guy

apparently they want threesome

I'm not going to get my hopes up.

Honestly, I think they were just trying to be friendly when they came up and talked to me.

[Rur]

Think about it from their perspective, why would they give some guy their number if they were not interested in him? If they thought he was awkward or creepy they would run through the future implications of that in their minds and think, "You know I really would not want this guy calling me asking to hang out."

So yeah, they were interested man.

[Pelicanbay]

call them, if that happened to me i would be a nervous wreck because when 1 on 1, im ok

you will be kicking yourself in the *** later on, if they were interested in you and you get to hang out with them, it will change you for sure

[Ov3rcome]

I'll probably call them tomorrow, but what should I say?

[aviationboy]

Originally Posted by Some Russian Guy

apparently they want threesome

anyway.. to the OP, what was discussed in those text messages? Even if they are serious about seeing you again (even both of them), that means you will have to show your true colours. Can YOU handle it?

[Just Lurking]

Originally Posted by Ov3rcome

I'll probably call them tomorrow, but what should I say?

Yes, call them tomorrow. You don't want to wait long (the longer the wait, the more the risk they lose whatever interest they may have had).

As for what to say, keep it short. Come up with something to do and ask them if they want to join you. "Wanna meet up at ___ for ___?" ...something along those lines (make it a public place - you don't know them yet). And be specific. Don't be indecisive. Once you set up a meeting/date - unless you're a really smooth phone talker - come up with an excuse to get off the phone ("oh my cat's on fire, gotta go").

If you start having "those thoughts" that we with SA so often get, think back: They gave you their numbers for a reason. Do you think they'd do that to someone they weren't at least SOMEWHAT interested in? At the very least they think you're interesting enough to say "yeah, I'll give this guy my number". Build from there.

IF they flake out on you, brush it off. Don't give them ANY indication it bothers you. Just "Oh, OK. Well, talk to you later." You can try again in a couple days if that happens, same deal: "wanna meet up at ___ for ___?"

Oh and you never answered a question asked earlier in this thread. How did this come up? What were you doing in the mall? Where did they come from? etc. More details!

[mrfixit]

I'll probably call them tomorrow, but what should I say?

just be yourself. either way if you screw it up, you will never see them again.

a similar situation happened to me years ago. the outgoing girl gave me her number and i called her but she soon found out that i had SA (wuss) so she said you are more my friends type. she gave me her number and we clicked. didn't worked out though. she had way to many issues. i didn't had time for that since i could barely handle mine *sigh*

[Ununderstood]

What you should say depends on what you and her/them where texting about. What did yall text about?

[Ov3rcome]

I talked to them today and they want to hang out with me, but they said to be "not so uptight and talk more"

[Futures]

That's awesome man!

If you're not going to be doing any driving, then maybe have a couple beers to loosen up.

[nothing to fear]

Originally Posted by Ov3rcome

I talked to them today and they want to hang out with me, but they said to be "not so uptight and talk more"

yikes :/ thatd make me nervous if they already pointed out your shyness after one meeting.
if i were you right now i'd either get really really smashed and/or take drugs beforehand or call it off.

um, good luck

[Ov3rcome]

Originally Posted by Futures

That's awesome man!

If you're not going to be doing any driving, then maybe have a couple beers to loosen up.

Too bad I'm only 17

[aviationboy]

Originally Posted by nothing to fear

yikes :/ thatd make me nervous if they already pointed out your shyness after one meeting.
if i were you right now i'd either get really really smashed and/or take drugs beforehand or call it off.

um, good luck

christ dude what kind of advice is that. get lost if that is the best answer you can give.
If you can't handle the pressure, have a beer or two but even that is temporary so it depends how long you will be hanging out with them. if you really expect this to go anywhere, you will probably have to spend a long time with them (i don't know what your intentions are), so you will be knocking back beers all afternoon lol

but hey at 17 that might impress them, bad boy

[SourD]

Relax, guy. Go out with them, have fun. They're girls. We're not as horrible or evil as people seem to think, in fact a lot of us are very nice and aren't going to laugh in your face the minute we get the chance as you (guys in general) seem to think. They are trying to make you feel comfortable around them by pointing out that they want you to talk more and come out of your shell. They're not going to judge you harshly.

But really, all 3 of you? that's weird

& hey, I'm 17 too. Just wanted to point that out because you're the first 17 year old I've seen on here

[Ununderstood]

Originally Posted by nothing to fear

yikes :/ thatd make me nervous if they already pointed out your shyness after one meeting.
if i were you right now i'd either get really really smashed and/or take drugs beforehand or call it off.

um, good luck

Lol thats what I would of done too.

[mrfixit]

nice job that you called ..here's a little tip - when females are in their . they like masculine guys. when they are not they like sensitive guys. to be on the safe side pretend to be gay, you can't loose with that.

[cowboysfan14]

Hey, I seem to be kind of in the same situation as you. I got a girl's number yesterday and still deciding whether to call or not. But after reading all of the posts on this thread, I will definitely call tomorrow. This is how I see it now...
1. If you call and screw up, then you will never see that other person again. So you don't have to worry about how you came off because you won't have to deal with them. But the best part is, you got to practice a phone conversation and you will know what not to do for the next time the chance comes around.
2. If you end up getting to hang out with them, than whatever happens during the hang out is fine. Again, if you screw up, then you won't see them again. If you are successful, then that's cool. It will be a great experience and you can definitely have learn from you mistakes and successes. Plus, you have a great story for a next conversation.
3. Finally, if in the end they just want to be friends, then cool. It would be great practice with talking to girls. How many friends that are girls can you say that you actually have? Aren't even just friends what a lot of SAers are looking for anyway.

Now, being that I have SA also, I know that all of this is easier said than done. But I guess the only way to really get over calling and hanging out is to actually call and hang out. The first time might be extremely hard but it should get easier just like everything else does with practice. Anyway, hopes this helps not just the poster but anyone that is contemplating making a move on something, anything. I hope this post makes sense. I think I just convinced myself to call the girl...

[Daxter]

You will call them. Maybe I'm sounding kind of authoritive here, but seriously. You will, you must, you shall, I'm telling you.

If you don't, you'll just think back at the opportunity and feel bad about not taking the chance.

Sure it might end up bad, but on the other hand, it might end up really, really well. At this point there are no all too negative signs. They weren't laughing were they? And hell if they are playing a prank, so what. What kind of lame prank is that? And why do it to a complete stranger? A classmate I could sort of understand. No man, they're 99% likely to be interested. Be flattered.

[nothing to fear]

Originally Posted by aviationboy

christ dude what kind of advice is that. get lost if that is the best answer you can give.
If you can't handle the pressure, have a beer or two but even that is temporary so it depends how long you will be hanging out with them. if you really expect this to go anywhere, you will probably have to spend a long time with them (i don't know what your intentions are), so you will be knocking back beers all afternoon lol

but hey at 17 that might impress them, bad boy

i know. sorry. it's hard to give "good" advice sometimes when i can't imagine doing anything differently in a scary situation like that. ignore me, Ov3rcome.