Social Anxiety Support

Lioninthenight · 04-28-2007, 02:01 PM

Hey guys n girls. While I don't have alot of friends there are a couple that are some of the best quality friends you could find anywhere, however they both live a good distance away from me so on average I end up trying to go out and be sociable on my own. I have really mixed feelings about even trying to make new friends because of my desire to avoid people and just be at ease, yet if I would just step out of my comfort zone a little bit(alot actually) I might not feel lonely or inadequet so much. I know people who would probably be happy to be more friends than just co-workers, or workout partners but I just think that more friends might mean more anxiety, more people to please, more useless conversation to have to think up. It's like it's not worth the effort either way. Or maybe im just crazy. What do you all crazy errr fine people think?

inna sense · 04-28-2007, 03:55 PM

my best friend lives in delaware...she has SA as well...gimme your email address...ill hook you two up

Lioninthenight · 04-28-2007, 04:22 PM

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Originally Posted by erkenne

my best friend lives in delaware...she has SA as well...gimme your email address...ill hook you two up

LOL.. It would be funny if I ended up knowing her. What part of delaware is she from? I'm willing to take a gamble. lionhart72779@yahoo.com

inna sense · 04-28-2007, 06:37 PM

edit: never mind...ill give her your email address

Normal With SA · 04-28-2007, 11:02 PM

It would be awesome to meet others with SA in person! As for meeting people, work and the bars are the best spots. Its easy to meet people in work b/c you are kinda FORCED to speak with them. And as far as bars, everyone gets drunk, so if you mess up in conversation during the night, usually no one remembers LOL.

Lioninthenight · 04-29-2007, 07:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Normal With SA

It would be awesome to meet others with SA in person! As for meeting people, work and the bars are the best spots. Its easy to meet people in work b/c you are kinda FORCED to speak with them. And as far as bars, everyone gets drunk, so if you mess up in conversation during the night, usually no one remembers LOL.

True normal w SA. Personally though as much as drinking does take away my inhibitions I have never felt that meeting anyone in a bar/club setting unless it was a friend of a friend ever led to any meaningful or lasting friendship. Oh the paradimes.

lol

Softy785 · 05-02-2007, 06:05 PM

Social anxiety is a paradox: the thing that we want the most is also the thing that we fear the most. None of us wants to be lonely, and everybody NEEDS friends. I don't think happiness is possible without having people to talk to and be friends with, us humans are just wired that way. So even though it takes a lot of effort and work to start friendships with people, and sometimes it doesn't feel like its worth all the hassle and anxiety, but you should just make the effort, because it pay off for you in big ways later on. That's advice I need to take as well.

04-28-2007, 02:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
Lioninthenight Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: East Tennessee Gender: Male Age: 33 Posts: 42	Friendships Hey guys n girls. While I don't have alot of friends there are a couple that are some of the best quality friends you could find anywhere, however they both live a good distance away from me so on average I end up trying to go out and be sociable on my own. I have really mixed feelings about even trying to make new friends because of my desire to avoid people and just be at ease, yet if I would just step out of my comfort zone a little bit(alot actually) I might not feel lonely or inadequet so much. I know people who would probably be happy to be more friends than just co-workers, or workout partners but I just think that more friends might mean more anxiety, more people to please, more useless conversation to have to think up. It's like it's not worth the effort either way. Or maybe im just crazy. What do you all crazy errr fine people think? __________________ Nuff Said..

04-28-2007, 03:55 PM	#2 (permalink)
inna sense Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Germany Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 4,873	re: Friendships my best friend lives in delaware...she has SA as well...gimme your email address...ill hook you two up __________________ i was born to be a beautiful man but the ugliness is powerful i do what i can is everyday in this place a curse or should i pray on my knees and embrace its dirt

04-28-2007, 06:37 PM	#4 (permalink)
inna sense Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Germany Gender: Male Age: 29 Posts: 4,873	re: Friendships edit: never mind...ill give her your email address __________________ i was born to be a beautiful man but the ugliness is powerful i do what i can is everyday in this place a curse or should i pray on my knees and embrace its dirt

04-28-2007, 11:02 PM	#5 (permalink)
Normal With SA Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Posts: 97	re: Friendships It would be awesome to meet others with SA in person! As for meeting people, work and the bars are the best spots. Its easy to meet people in work b/c you are kinda FORCED to speak with them. And as far as bars, everyone gets drunk, so if you mess up in conversation during the night, usually no one remembers LOL.

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05-02-2007, 06:05 PM	#7 (permalink)
Softy785 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Orange County, CA Gender: Female Age: 28 Posts: 587	Social anxiety is a paradox: the thing that we want the most is also the thing that we fear the most. None of us wants to be lonely, and everybody NEEDS friends. I don't think happiness is possible without having people to talk to and be friends with, us humans are just wired that way. So even though it takes a lot of effort and work to start friendships with people, and sometimes it doesn't feel like its worth all the hassle and anxiety, but you should just make the effort, because it pay off for you in big ways later on. That's advice I need to take as well.