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For those who hate themselves

How do you cope with it?

Any answer please, it doesn't matter if it's ridiculous as long as it works for you.
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Why hate yourself? It's all their fault.
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It's hard. I have very few positive opinions of myself and by now I am certain that many people here also don't think very highly.

I cope with it by watching a lot of TV and fill up my days with distractions. I also have two cats I saved from the streets I look after, so I just tell myself that at least I've done something worthwhile.

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I used to starve and self-mutilate. Now I just get lost in my self-deprecating thoughts.
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You should never hate yourself. Ever. But I can't really preach what I don't practice as I self loathe too.

Watching my favorite tv shows, surfing the net, playing video games, working out and listening to music. These seem to take my mind off things the best. I just take things one day at a time because I know miracles can't happen overnight.
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I used to hate myself. But then I realized that a lot of what has happened in my life was beyond my control, and often due to ignorance and immaturity on my part. As they say "to err is human" - there's no way that you can be prepared for everything life throws at you -- especially given the nature of our condition, which makes us hypersensitive and messes with our perception of the world.

The first step on the path to liking... to loving yourself... is to forgive yourself for past mistakes. Acknowledge those mistakes, make amends with those you've hurt if need be, and, most importantly, learn from them. The past is unchangeable, the future isn't. Sure, you're bound to trip over the same mistakes and bloody your knees time and time again -- but one day you'll find your balance.
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I try not to think about it.
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Really what's personally really started to help me with low self esteem recently is reading some of the concepts in David Burns Feeling Good book for dealing with depression. I'd already learned CBT techniques and tried to use them in relation to this before. But in particular I found reading his insights really interesting and helpful - such as with the chapters on dealing with low self esteem, guilt and approval addiction. Plus it felt to me like the author really understood what he was talking about and had alot of empathy toward readers which in itself helped me to feel better. At some point planning on having another read through, as it's been some time since I last have. When I'm feeling down on myself flipping through it usually makes me feel more positive - at least to some extent!
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I am dealing with this and a relatively new friend. I hate myself so much that I cannot figure out why this cool guy wants to be my friend or hang out with me. I know I should try to tell myself I am worthy, but that's pretty difficult for me.
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I try to use my imagination to escape life for a while. I can be anything I want, whenever I want, where I want.

Don't get me wrong, I know real from fake, but it just helps me get away from my negative thoughts about pretty much anything.

"You must be more than a man in the eyes of your opponent"- Ra's Al Ghul
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i don't hate myself. i hate the person i'm turning into because of other people. if you don't do anything wrong and you treat everyone with respect and they treat you like crap then it's their fault.

why do you hate yourself?
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I used to starve and self-mutilate. Now I just get lost in my self-deprecating thoughts.
That's progress.
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How do you cope with it?

Any answer please, it doesn't matter if it's ridiculous as long as it works for you.
I just keep those not-to-be-named thoughts handy.
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I don't hate myself all the time. When I do, I either distract myself by watching TV shows I enjoy or play a video game that I'm good at... or one I can't lose at (like The Sims).

But if I'm at school or something and I can't do either, I just try to zone out and talk to myself in my head about stupid stuff. It's still distracting.
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I usually try to stay busy. Free time is hard on the mind.

"I have found the Iron to be my greatest friend. It never freaks out on me, never runs. Friends may come and go. But two hundred pounds is always two hundred pounds." - Henry Rollins
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Uh, alcohol?
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Staying busy enough so you have no time to think about yourself.
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I wait for it to go away. I always oscillate between self hate and feeling okay about myself.


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Uh, alcohol?

good answer
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I don't really hate myself, I just hate my predicament that prevents me from being myself. Perhaps you can try and shift your focus to this. The end result is the same though: depression etc.

I'm certainly better when I keep busy.
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