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Old 05-04-2011, 10:37 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Do u ever feel like this? I feel like this day in day out, everyone is in there cliques while I have always been the lone ranger, I never seem to fit in at any job I've had, even when you do try and make an effort with people they talk down to you like your a child or something, its a long day with no one to talk to.
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I feel like this when I take my son to school. He started in the middle of a term so all the mums already knew each other and had forms groups. When he first started I tried smiling at them, making eye contact and saying hi as I walked past, but none of them have ever spoken to me other than to say hi back and I daren't talk to them. And now I feel like its too late to do much about it now because they've already decided that I'm weird/quiet or something.

And when I had a job it was the same for me too. It does make a long day even longer.
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I feel like this when I take my son to school. He started in the middle of a term so all the mums already knew each other and had forms groups. When he first started I tried smiling at them, making eye contact and saying hi as I walked past, but none of them have ever spoken to me other than to say hi back and I daren't talk to them. And now I feel like its too late to do much about it now because they've already decided that I'm weird/quiet or something.

And when I had a job it was the same for me too. It does make a long day even longer.
Exactly, Once people have made up there mind about you its hard if not impossible to change it.
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Exactly, Once people have made up there mind about you its hard if not impossible to change it.
First impressions count. That makes me nervous. I never leave a good first impression.
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Old 05-04-2011, 12:59 PM   #5 (permalink)
 
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This speaks the truth about me at work. I hate being shy cuz even when I do make an effort to talk, they never really talk to me, i have to do the small talk. And I never get asked out for lunch or anything. No matter what job I have, I'm always have to be the shy one, seems like I'm the only one that's shy everywhere I go. I am so nice and I have such a huge heart and I would do anything for anyone, but yet no one wants to talk to me or give me a chance.

I am just so depressed, if anyone wants to talk while there at work, pm me.
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This speaks the truth about me at work. I hate being shy cuz even when I do make an effort to talk, they never really talk to me, i have to do the small talk. And I never get asked out for lunch or anything. No matter what job I have, I'm always have to be the shy one, seems like I'm the only one that's shy everywhere I go. I am so nice and I have such a huge heart and I would do anything for anyone, but yet no one wants to talk to me or give me a chance.

I am just so depressed, if anyone wants to talk while there at work, pm me.
Oh I can relate about being left out of lunch, I've lost time the amount of times i've gone into the canteen to get my lunch to discover everyone else has went out for lunch without inviting me.

And yes its also me making the small talk but its like trying to get blood out a stone, one word responses and not really getting anywhere.
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All the time, I get the feeling people there hate me.
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yep. i don't think anyone really likes me at work lol.
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I am an outcast everywhere I go. It has been like this my whole life.
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Fortunately everyone at my job is really nice & accepting. But I do know exactly what you mean. If you are yourself & atleast make an attempt to start a conversation with them, then it may not have anything to do with you. Maybe they are just immature adults who haven't grown up yet. I know that if I see someone who is shyer than me, I will always try to reach out to them. If they have already established their own cliques then they could atleast be a little bit more accpeting and inviting to you. My point is, you shouldn't beat yourself up to much about it if they aren't being very welcoming to you either.
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This speaks the truth about me at work. I hate being shy cuz even when I do make an effort to talk, they never really talk to me, i have to do the small talk. And I never get asked out for lunch or anything. No matter what job I have, I'm always have to be the shy one, seems like I'm the only one that's shy everywhere I go. I am so nice and I have such a huge heart and I would do anything for anyone, but yet no one wants to talk to me or give me a chance.

I am just so depressed, if anyone wants to talk while there at work, pm me.
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Old 05-04-2011, 02:52 PM   #12 (permalink)
 
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the reason I am unemployed is because I dont last in the workplace longer than 2/3 months, I can't do small talk or getting to know people so i feel left out, and i get progressively more anxious the longer I stay there; the more the people 'get to know me' the more terrified i get.

I would love to have money dont get me wrong but for now being unemployed and poor is way better than being anxious and still poor at work!
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This is one of my big problems in the workplace. I actually get on well with, and am accepted by the few I work directly with, but all the managers and the rest of the company either dislike me or don't care to know me... mainly because I'm quiet, shy and seemingly avoidant of them.

Yeah, work is the source of most of my depression/despair in life. I know I have to move on from this workplace soon (menial job I can't believe I'm still doing), but I can't stomach going through the process again.
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This is one of my big problems in the workplace. I actually get on well with, and am accepted by the few I work directly with, but all the managers and the rest of the company either dislike me or don't care to know me... mainly because I'm quiet, shy and seemingly avoidant of them.

Yeah, work is the source of most of my depression/despair in life. I know I have to move on from this workplace soon (menial job I can't believe I'm still doing), but I can't stomach going through the process again
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I am exactly the same. Work is the major cause of my anxiety and depression, people can be so horrible, I never had any issues at school only when I went into the work place. I also have a menial job which I dislike, I never planed on staying but 5 years later I am still here, I really need to do something but its all to much effort. Even if I did in the UK the job situation is dire.
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I am exactly the same. Work is the major cause of my anxiety and depression, people can be so horrible, I never had any issues at school only when I went into the work place. I also have a menial job which I dislike, I never planed on staying but 5 years later I am still here, I really need to do something but its all to much effort. Even if I did in the UK the job situation is dire.
Aha, I just clocked up my 5 years here too. Sounds like we are leading similar lives.
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i've never been able to find real friends from work, and yeah generally i feel like an outcast when there are colleagues involved.
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I feel when I'm at work, I'm always being judged. I find it difficult at best to talk to people, and when I do it's like there's an anxiety countdown clock, the longer the coversation lasts, the more the anxiety builds. Eye contact is really difficult I always look at the person first for a split second and then usually down and tithe right. I don't understand it and it's quite frustrating. The people I work with are really friendly, not sure why I feel as if I'm being judged all the time.
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Put me on the list... i'm exactly the same.
no matter how hard I try.. can't fit in with anyone. people always say.."be yourself". but being myself only get me nowhere. I have to act like one of them by studying what their interests are and add commands here and there. I did this but it didn't like very long.
all I wish is my life can be donated to someone who really need it.
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I feel like this.. ESPECIALLY AT CHURCH. People just refuse to let new people into their clique. I understand. I don't really care honestly. I'm just there to work and make money.
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I have been in situations like that quite a lot. If you're quiet then even when you make the effort people still ignore you or look down on you. I guess when you have social problems it stands out a mile. Not every situation has been that bad but in general i have felt like an outsider, frozen out by the others and even persecuted to the point of wanting to leave.
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