For me it depends on the person.
I personally like to have fun, explore, laugh, and just fall into good feelings.
I've been with people who, well for example... One girl wouldn't make any moves, and basically hinted that she wanted me to "rape" her. I was actually kind of offended, and definitely turned off. I really don't understand some women in the bedroom, can't even comprehend.
So if they aren't openly wanting to play around and have fun... My anxiety kicks in, I don't enjoy being with them, and I want outta there.