Social Anxiety Support

swedeheart · 11-03-2009, 12:41 PM

I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have.

Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

Moon Calf · 11-03-2009, 12:51 PM

I don't have one because I'm actually trying to spend less time at the computer and more time in the company of living, breathing people. Also, I can't be bothered to check it.

Indigo Flow · 11-03-2009, 12:54 PM

I don't think you are missing out on anything, lots of people i know don't have and most of the people i know (and like) that do have it only use it to send messages. It's not that great but i do find it addictive.

shadowguy · 11-03-2009, 12:56 PM

I feel this way as well. I have an account with no pictures, no updates, barely any info, and only added my cousin. I thought about adding a once very close friend I knew from elementary school and barely kept in touch after. But he has so many friends...and he must think I'm a loser. Every time I've tried to get back in touch it's been awkward. Maybe one day I'll upload pictures and try to get back in touch with people...I keep thinking they'll be like "Wow, what are you doing here you anti-social guy from 5 years ago?"

Haydsmom2007 · 11-03-2009, 12:56 PM

If you don't have very many facebook friends, then people will probably think that you are too busy to sit around on facebook adding people to your friends list. But in reality, no one cares.

I have a facebook and it's a huge waste of time, lol. I like it kinda because I can keep in touch with some people. But eh.

Abi0x · 11-03-2009, 12:58 PM

facebook is good (cus i get to play FARMVILLE!! lol) but it really depresses me sometimes. i see how everyone has good times, as in all there photos, like this halloween at parties or in there outfits while i sat at home.. that kinda made me feel sad inside. and for the friends bit, i just add everyone from my year in school, its not like there gonna turn around and say dont add me on fb? besides, you can add some people off here lol

fun times.

TorLin · 11-03-2009, 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeheart

I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have.

Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

i have account at facebook.
i feel fine about having an account

Abi0x · 11-03-2009, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Haydsmom2007

If you don't have very many facebook friends, then people will probably think that you are too busy to sit around on facebook adding people to your friends list. But in reality, no one cares.

yeah thats so true, even loads of the popular people from my school, they barely have any, no one takes notice or cares. but its only good for playing farmville, mafia wars and other games lol (Very addicting)

Prakas · 11-03-2009, 01:02 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeheart

I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have.

Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

Tell you what. I've had my account for almost a year and not 1 friend is on it. No one likes me. If you make an account, we can be friends 4 ever

gold132 · 11-03-2009, 01:12 PM

I'm sure this time next year we'll be talking about some other site (Facebook will be sooo 2009

)

swedeheart · 11-03-2009, 01:26 PM

Thanks for all the replies! You have given me courage, and I think that Im just going to get it, and try to stop worrying so much about it.

mooncake · 11-03-2009, 02:00 PM

I was hesitant at first about making an account, but I figure that if I perhaps can't socialise in real life all that great with people then maybe being able to keep in touch online may become easier for me. I'll admit that I was at first a little embarassed about having so far fewer friends than a lot of people, but really if anyone judges you for the number you have, it's a bit silly.

If you do sign up there, send me a link to your profile and I'll be happy to add you as a friend

I'm new to the site myself and have barely added any people yet, but although I don't see myself using it all that often I think I'll keep it. You could also check out the facebook thread in the connections forum on here. It'll be nice to get to know some more people and it would boost up your friend count, if that will make you feel more comfortable.

tutliputli · 11-03-2009, 02:13 PM

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Originally Posted by mooncake

I was hesitant at first about making an account, but I figure that if I perhaps can't socialise in real life all that great with people then maybe being able to keep in touch online may become easier for me.

This is very true. If you set up an account, I'll be your friend.

KyleThomas · 11-03-2009, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeheart

I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have.

Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

I have one, but my profile is private and I hardly ever use it. I have one friend on there, but she is an actual friend, not one of those "I found a link to your page on a web forum and added you even though I don't know you but it'll make me look more popular" friends.

fluch · 11-03-2009, 02:25 PM

I set up an account ages ago. Back when it was a site just for students & based on college networks. It was a much much different thing back then, I probably preferred it that way to how it is now. I really think that having an account is so innocuous and commonplace there isn't much to fear.

Despite having an account for so long I still have far fewer friends than most, but it doesn't really bother me & I don't think people judge me on it either. In a way it's always kind of cool to be indifferent. I'm sure it's getting to the point where collecting friends is seen as something bad rather than the other way round. I'm sure I could have loads if I wanted to, but I'm happy to just add people that I actually know. I like to make out that I just don't really care about it, which is a kind of half-truth...sometimes I really wish that somebody would write to me

I don't mind having it though. It doesn't make me feel uneasy at all. I've managed to speak to people through it that I never would have been able to talk to otherwise.

Rixy · 11-03-2009, 02:32 PM

Facebook is kind of cool. It seems like more of a network for keeping in touch with old friends, but all my friends go to the same 6th Form I do. It's kind of pointless for someone like me, but I still find myself going back to it. I say go for it, there's no harm in trying, right? :P

charlottemellissa · 11-03-2009, 05:32 PM

Facebook is great for talking to old friends or family across the world for free.... and with sa it helps to be behind a computer screen sometimes.... if its good for you use it, if not , dont. Dont feel you are missing out or bullied into because its what u should do.

I wouldnt feel bad about amount of friends, people with 500plus friends you know can have that many people in their lives.

xx

Deathinmusic · 11-03-2009, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeheart

I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have.

Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

I have an account but I never use it because of the same reason you mentioned.

rockst4r · 11-03-2009, 06:07 PM

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Originally Posted by swedeheart

I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have.

Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

just because you have few friends on facebook doesn't mean you have few friends.. ... whose cares what they think anyway..i delete people i don't communicate with anyway...i think the less the better...easier to find people who you are really trying to get in contact with... And i think some people just add a lot of people to make themselves look popular....

Grixxly · 11-03-2009, 06:30 PM

I have a face book account but I've been thinking about deleting it. I've had no much information leeked about myself on facebook that one day may come back to haunt me. I'm a "tin foil hat" person and I don't like my information kept on file.

11-03-2009, 12:41 PM	#1 (permalink)
swedeheart Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Sweden Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 28	Facebook I have been thinking about opening an account for several months, and people have been asking me why I don't have it. The thing is that Im scared about other people seeing how few friends I really have. Do you guys have accounts? What do you feel about it?

11-03-2009, 12:54 PM	#3 (permalink)
Indigo Flow Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: London, England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 258	I don't think you are missing out on anything, lots of people i know don't have and most of the people i know (and like) that do have it only use it to send messages. It's not that great but i do find it addictive. __________________ ...i could not Speak, and my eyes failed, i was neither Living nor dead, and i knew nothing, Looking into the heart of light, the silence. Flickr

11-03-2009, 12:51 PM	#2 (permalink)
Moon Calf Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Age: 29 Posts: 117	I don't have one because I'm actually trying to spend less time at the computer and more time in the company of living, breathing people. Also, I can't be bothered to check it.

11-03-2009, 12:56 PM	#4 (permalink)
shadowguy Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2008 Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 30	I feel this way as well. I have an account with no pictures, no updates, barely any info, and only added my cousin. I thought about adding a once very close friend I knew from elementary school and barely kept in touch after. But he has so many friends...and he must think I'm a loser. Every time I've tried to get back in touch it's been awkward. Maybe one day I'll upload pictures and try to get back in touch with people...I keep thinking they'll be like "Wow, what are you doing here you anti-social guy from 5 years ago?"

11-03-2009, 12:56 PM	#5 (permalink)
Haydsmom2007 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Kansas City Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 198	If you don't have very many facebook friends, then people will probably think that you are too busy to sit around on facebook adding people to your friends list. But in reality, no one cares. I have a facebook and it's a huge waste of time, lol. I like it kinda because I can keep in touch with some people. But eh.

11-03-2009, 12:58 PM	#6 (permalink)
Abi0x Status: Permanently Banned Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: I live in that tree, that one, over there Gender: Female Age: 14 Posts: 7	facebook is good (cus i get to play FARMVILLE!! lol) but it really depresses me sometimes. i see how everyone has good times, as in all there photos, like this halloween at parties or in there outfits while i sat at home.. that kinda made me feel sad inside. and for the friends bit, i just add everyone from my year in school, its not like there gonna turn around and say dont add me on fb? besides, you can add some people off here lol fun times.

11-03-2009, 01:12 PM	#10 (permalink)
gold132 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 155	I'm sure this time next year we'll be talking about some other site (Facebook will be sooo 2009 )

11-03-2009, 01:26 PM	#11 (permalink)
swedeheart Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Sweden Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 28	Thanks for all the replies! You have given me courage, and I think that Im just going to get it, and try to stop worrying so much about it.

11-03-2009, 02:00 PM	#12 (permalink)
mooncake Status: wooden hippie nice Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: England Gender: Female Age: 20 Posts: 190	I was hesitant at first about making an account, but I figure that if I perhaps can't socialise in real life all that great with people then maybe being able to keep in touch online may become easier for me. I'll admit that I was at first a little embarassed about having so far fewer friends than a lot of people, but really if anyone judges you for the number you have, it's a bit silly. If you do sign up there, send me a link to your profile and I'll be happy to add you as a friend I'm new to the site myself and have barely added any people yet, but although I don't see myself using it all that often I think I'll keep it. You could also check out the facebook thread in the connections forum on here. It'll be nice to get to know some more people and it would boost up your friend count, if that will make you feel more comfortable.

11-03-2009, 02:25 PM	#15 (permalink)
fluch Status: in another moment... Join Date: Aug 2009 Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 101	I set up an account ages ago. Back when it was a site just for students & based on college networks. It was a much much different thing back then, I probably preferred it that way to how it is now. I really think that having an account is so innocuous and commonplace there isn't much to fear. Despite having an account for so long I still have far fewer friends than most, but it doesn't really bother me & I don't think people judge me on it either. In a way it's always kind of cool to be indifferent. I'm sure it's getting to the point where collecting friends is seen as something bad rather than the other way round. I'm sure I could have loads if I wanted to, but I'm happy to just add people that I actually know. I like to make out that I just don't really care about it, which is a kind of half-truth...sometimes I really wish that somebody would write to me I don't mind having it though. It doesn't make me feel uneasy at all. I've managed to speak to people through it that I never would have been able to talk to otherwise.

11-03-2009, 02:32 PM	#16 (permalink)
Rixy Status: Falling into Guru Muhk Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 228	Facebook is kind of cool. It seems like more of a network for keeping in touch with old friends, but all my friends go to the same 6th Form I do. It's kind of pointless for someone like me, but I still find myself going back to it. I say go for it, there's no harm in trying, right? :P

11-03-2009, 05:32 PM	#17 (permalink)
charlottemellissa Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: UK Gender: Female Posts: 3	Facebook is great for talking to old friends or family across the world for free.... and with sa it helps to be behind a computer screen sometimes.... if its good for you use it, if not , dont. Dont feel you are missing out or bullied into because its what u should do. I wouldnt feel bad about amount of friends, people with 500plus friends you know can have that many people in their lives. xx

11-03-2009, 06:30 PM	#20 (permalink)
Grixxly Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Maryland Gender: Male Posts: 26	I have a face book account but I've been thinking about deleting it. I've had no much information leeked about myself on facebook that one day may come back to haunt me. I'm a "tin foil hat" person and I don't like my information kept on file.