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Does anyone feel anxiety in email?!

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Does anyone feel anxiety in email?! It is a strange. When I send to somebody an email, it is ok. But when I see that they have responded, I feel very anxiety and can not bring myself to read it! I don`t know the name of this problem. I am scared to read their respond.

Does anyone else have this strange problem?!
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re: Does anyone feel anxiety in email?!

Yes, I do that sometimes. I don't know if there's a specific word for it- it's a form of procrastination. I let things compound for a long time and then eventually do everything at once, such as cleaning my room or making an appointment.
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Re: Does anyone feel anxiety in email?!

I do this occasionally....usually only when I put myself out there in one way or another in my original message. If my message to the other person said something I feel very strongly about or if I invited a person out to some get together. I'm just so accustomed to failure that its almost that I know before reading it I'm going to get rejected again.

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I do. My stomach ends up in my throat.
Sometimes I refresh the screen over and over waiting for a reponse too.
I also hate checking my bank statement, picking up voicemail and getting the regular mail, mostly because I am a huge procrastinator !!

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Yes, I get major anxiety writing e-mails. It usually takes me a long time to compose one.

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Hello,

Does anyone feel anxiety in email?! It is a strange. When I send to somebody an email, it is ok. But when I see that they have responded, I feel very anxiety and can not bring myself to read it! I don`t know the name of this problem. I am scared to read their respond.

Does anyone else have this strange problem?!
I feel the anxiety more if they haven't responded. I then start wondering why they didn't write back or why they didn't like me. I know it could be that they just didn't have time. I get really depressed about it. At least if they've written back I know where they stand with me. I can understand your point though.
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I'm always anxious when I receive emails. God only knows what horrible things they might contain. For instance, somebody might ask me to go somewhere and do something !
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Yes! I'm actually experiencing this right now. There are two important emails in my inbox that I'm afraid to open.


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I expect a negative response (or worse - no reply), and so I get anxious.
I get that procrastination thing as well. I thought it was just me being lazy.. Well, it is kind of, but you get what I'm saying..
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re: Does anyone feel anxiety in email?!

I get anxiety when writing emails because I expect a negative response too. I always worry that I somehow sound rude, and the other person will not want to bother replying to me. Then, if they don't reply for a while, I start thinking they must not like me, or I must have done something wrong and not realized.
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I get more anxiety awaiting a response than sending the message itself. Sometimes the replies are delayed. What if someone does not respond at all? Did they not get the message? Are they just busy? Do they really not like me? The uncertainty is depressing.

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Not so much anymore,but more before..I would think that the person I was writing to didn't want my emails and thought that I was boring..But now I say to myself that this is just me being paranoid and if people don't want to email with me they can just be honest and say so..

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Oh yeah definately. I'm responsible for what I say, and I'm in fear of the other person getting mad at me, embaressing me, or judging me in some way. Or they might think "why is she emailing me and wasting my time?" Emails are easier than the phone or IM though by far.

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definitely!

they make it sound like SA only happens to people in public or on the phone, but its so not true. though i have a respite from anxiety is when i am completely alone, even things like emails can make my anxiety shoot through the roof.

I have let some emails sit in my inbox for over a month. Oh, and about a week ago i found a year old letter that I was too afraid to open so I forgot about it.
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I like getting email, but I sometimes have anxiety composing one.
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I feel anxiety about reading emails from work. For some reason I half expect to be reprimanded or given the boot.

I also feel anxiety when I'm emailing someone unfamiliar and imagine them judging me on poor grammar, even if their email contained lots of mistakes! If they don't reply, I go over what I wrote in my head, trying to work out if I was offensive or weird.


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Anything that involves contact with people in any way whatsoever causes me anxiety.
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Heh, I don't use email. It's for that very reason, actually.
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