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Old 03-06-2007, 12:18 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Nope. I hate my mum hugging me or anyone else for that matter. I go all stiff (no pun intended), so my mum tells me to lighten up, but I can't. I hate it.
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Old 03-06-2007, 01:50 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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The only time i ever like being touched is by girls and only if i'm wasted where i have no inhabitations in me to react to it.
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Old 03-06-2007, 01:54 PM   #3 (permalink)
 
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I like being touched...but just like small talk touching is a form of signaling or showing affection to someone else and i don't feel i have the experience yet to show it back properly...i was pretty rough with generally talking to someone a few months back but i'm slowly picking it up and being able to express and connect with people (Sometimes).

I'm just not used to touchingl, I mean i get hugs from family members but since i've never really been in a close form relationship with someone its not something i'm used to...I need practice

I notice when doing things like taking pictures with family, people are pretty comfortable, they won't think twice about putting their arms around someone or getting cuddly with someone...me on the other hand I'm a nervous wreck

It makes me uncomfortable because I feel i need to show that back, there seems to be pressure i put on myself and maybe i interpret it all wrong...If i force myself to put my arm around someone or touch someone I feel awkward and i believe the other person can sense that I'm feeling quite uncomfortable.

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I hate being touched. I don't care who you are, don't touch me!
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I don't like touching or being touched by someone either. If someone touches me I don't really know how to react.
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If someone touches me I don't really know how to react.
same!

I freeze up and it takes me out of my comfort zone because i don't know how to show it back or what should i do here???

If i tell myself to not think about it and go for it, it still feels like it comes out awkward because i'm forcing myself or pretending like i'm not scared...
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I had a GF who used my dislike of being untouched to create a scene in front of her friends and eventually broke up with me.

I mentioned in another thread that I have a skin condition which causes dryness/flaking on my skin... Her friend and her friends boyfriend were being intimate and close to each other and she was looking at his scalp closely running fingers through his hair etc. My GF asked me in front of them why I never allowed her to do things like that and tried to go through my scalp in front of them and I pulled away as though her doing it made me angry (reality is I wouldn't mind but I think it would be disgusting to go through my dandruff head intimately in front of them...)

I'm so disgusted with myself that I feel as though I'm not worth being close to, and yes, it's ruined what could have been long relationships.
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I don't like being touched in public. I like it in private though.
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It's uncomfortable... not that I don't like it, just that I am not used to it and don't know how to react to it. It feels very foreign to be touched by people I don't know. I wish it didn't feel so alien, but it does. It doesn't happen very often anyway, so eh.
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I don't like it. I'm introverted. Luckily no one tries to touch me anyway.
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I can't stand for anyone to touch me.
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I don't like it. I'm introverted. Luckily no one tries to touch me anyway.

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I loved to be touched. One of the best things in the world.

Unfortunately, I don't get enough of it. Fortunately, I'm getting a haircut soon!
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For me, it depends on who it is & why they're touching me. I hate it when people poke me or tickle me though...it's ****ing annoying... might be ok SOMETIMES... but people who do that every time they see me...I wanna bust their nose.
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I don't really like to be touched by most people. I love to be touched only if I like/find the guy attractive or it is my boyfriend.
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I can't stand my mom or dad hugging me... and I'm uncomfortable with guys touching me unless I'm 100% attracted to them.
Touching between friends like a light touch on the arm or back as a sign of friendship, or hugging my friends, I enjoy.
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Being touched makes me feel very uncomfortable, if I have to sit right next to someone I stay as still as possible.
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I was at Boston Pizza and I had to keep some space between me so I wasn't sitting directly beside my niece. It's just too close.

I love being hugged and held if I had a bf.
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Default re: Does anyone else not like to be touched?

its not that i dont like to be touched as much as im uncomfortable/not used to being touched. i jump back when someone touches me but ive been better at preventing that. jumping back when someone touches you can be insulting
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Default re: Does anyone else not like to be touched?

I don't like being touched. I can't really explain why.
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