Social Anxiety Support

CrimsonTrigger · 06-25-2012, 04:50 PM

I feel as though I am a very poor speaker. Most of the time I can never think of anything to say. Words just do not come to me. I'm a better writer than I am a speaker, so sometimes people will ask me a question or ask me to explain something. I simply can't do it because I can't speak properly. Sometimes I'll be asked a question in class (rarely happens today but happened quite a bit when I was in elementary/high school) and I can't answer it, either because I'm just too stupid and incompetent to know anything, or because I can't think of what to say.

Most of the time when someone asks me something, the best I can get out is a jumbled mess of words that barely make any sense. Sometimes people will laugh at it, but nobody seems to understand that I have a serious problem. Communication is so difficult for me.

TryingMara · 06-25-2012, 05:16 PM

Verbal communication is probably difficult for most people on here. It is for me. I too, feel like I'm a better writer than I am a speaker. My mind is blank most of the time I have to talk to someone. And when I do think of something to say, it never comes out right. I stammer and repeat myself, use the wrong words, and can't seem to get to the point. I just end up looking more awkward. And I know it's due to low self-esteem, but I have trouble explaining things also...I always doubt that I know enough about certain topics. I don't want to come off as stupid, so I usually just stay silent or give one word answers.

I wish i was normal · 06-25-2012, 05:26 PM

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Originally Posted by TryingMara

Verbal communication is probably difficult for most people on here. It is for me. I too, feel like I'm a better writer than I am a speaker. My mind is blank most of the time I have to talk to someone. And when I do think of something to say, it never comes out right. I stammer and repeat myself, use the wrong words, and can't seem to get to the point. I just end up looking more awkward. And I know it's due to low self-esteem, but I have trouble explaining things also...I always doubt that I know enough about certain topics. I don't want to come off as stupid, so I usually just stay silent or give one word answers.

This is me too.

applesauce5482 · 06-25-2012, 05:28 PM

Yeah, my mind always goes blank when I'm in public which leads to me always not knowing what to say. It's like my brain stops functioning properly.

octoberfrost · 06-25-2012, 05:31 PM

This is also me. I write and I find I communicate so much better in writing.
Speaking? uh, well... sometimes.

Scorpmw90 · 06-25-2012, 06:00 PM

I have the same problem, it makes me depressed.

InfiniteBlaze · 06-25-2012, 06:44 PM

I also write much better than I speak. However, I've been practicing articulating my thoughts in my head, and I'm actually starting to see improvement.

FoundAndLost · 06-25-2012, 06:49 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by CrimsonTrigger

I feel as though I am a very poor speaker. Most of the time I can never think of anything to say. Words just do not come to me. I'm a better writer than I am a speaker, so sometimes people will ask me a question or ask me to explain something. I simply can't do it because I can't speak properly. Sometimes I'll be asked a question in class (rarely happens today but happened quite a bit when I was in elementary/high school) and I can't answer it, either because I'm just too stupid and incompetent to know anything, or because I can't think of what to say.

Most of the time when someone asks me something, the best I can get out is a jumbled mess of words that barely make any sense. Sometimes people will laugh at it, but nobody seems to understand that I have a serious problem. Communication is so difficult for me.

That would be me right there. I sound all nervous and panicky when I talk, and it makes people think I'm retarded or something.

Silentious · 06-25-2012, 07:21 PM

Sometimes I try to speak, and it all comes out as incoherent gibberish.

Xarin · 06-25-2012, 09:51 PM

My voice usually comes out cracked and weak, and when I'm addressed by someone I wait a few seconds and then mumble something incoherent.. So I would say I do have trouble speaking, yeah. Better in writing, but not too much of an improvement.

MikeW · 06-25-2012, 10:55 PM

I don't speak, I mumble.

Mauricio5 · 06-25-2012, 11:56 PM

Ive been told Im a great speaker its just that working up the courage to do it in front of strangers is nearly impossible. Its like my mouth is glued shut around new/unfamiliar people. Sometimes I even clench my jaw and grind my teeth.

06-25-2012, 04:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
CrimsonTrigger Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: Ontario, Canada Gender: Male Age: 22 Posts: 3,459	Does anyone else here have trouble speaking? I feel as though I am a very poor speaker. Most of the time I can never think of anything to say. Words just do not come to me. I'm a better writer than I am a speaker, so sometimes people will ask me a question or ask me to explain something. I simply can't do it because I can't speak properly. Sometimes I'll be asked a question in class (rarely happens today but happened quite a bit when I was in elementary/high school) and I can't answer it, either because I'm just too stupid and incompetent to know anything, or because I can't think of what to say. Most of the time when someone asks me something, the best I can get out is a jumbled mess of words that barely make any sense. Sometimes people will laugh at it, but nobody seems to understand that I have a serious problem. Communication is so difficult for me.

06-25-2012, 05:28 PM	#4 (permalink)
applesauce5482 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: Uganda Posts: 1,613	Yeah, my mind always goes blank when I'm in public which leads to me always not knowing what to say. It's like my brain stops functioning properly. __________________ "Too much applesause is good for you" - Appleham Lincoln

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06-25-2012, 05:16 PM	#2 (permalink)
TryingMara Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: NY Gender: Female Posts: 1,153	Verbal communication is probably difficult for most people on here. It is for me. I too, feel like I'm a better writer than I am a speaker. My mind is blank most of the time I have to talk to someone. And when I do think of something to say, it never comes out right. I stammer and repeat myself, use the wrong words, and can't seem to get to the point. I just end up looking more awkward. And I know it's due to low self-esteem, but I have trouble explaining things also...I always doubt that I know enough about certain topics. I don't want to come off as stupid, so I usually just stay silent or give one word answers.

06-25-2012, 05:31 PM	#5 (permalink)
octoberfrost Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Here and There Gender: Female Posts: 69	This is also me. I write and I find I communicate so much better in writing. Speaking? uh, well... sometimes.

06-25-2012, 06:00 PM	#6 (permalink)
Scorpmw90 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 64	I have the same problem, it makes me depressed.

06-25-2012, 06:44 PM	#7 (permalink)
InfiniteBlaze Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Chicago, IL Gender: Male Age: 19 Posts: 8,455	I also write much better than I speak. However, I've been practicing articulating my thoughts in my head, and I'm actually starting to see improvement.

06-25-2012, 07:21 PM	#9 (permalink)
Silentious Status: Longing for the woods Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: The winding road Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 1,365	Sometimes I try to speak, and it all comes out as incoherent gibberish.

06-25-2012, 09:51 PM	#10 (permalink)
Xarin Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Ft. Worth, TX Gender: Female Posts: 86	My voice usually comes out cracked and weak, and when I'm addressed by someone I wait a few seconds and then mumble something incoherent.. So I would say I do have trouble speaking, yeah. Better in writing, but not too much of an improvement.

06-25-2012, 10:55 PM	#11 (permalink)
MikeW Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2012 Location: NC Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 149	I don't speak, I mumble.

06-25-2012, 11:56 PM	#12 (permalink)
Mauricio5 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2012 Location: Illinois Posts: 80	Ive been told Im a great speaker its just that working up the courage to do it in front of strangers is nearly impossible. Its like my mouth is glued shut around new/unfamiliar people. Sometimes I even clench my jaw and grind my teeth.