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Akira90125 · 11-07-2009, 02:02 PM

i know i know everybody makes mistakes..

but I mean really often. you find it difficult to concentrate, difficult to understand the most mundane things... you're a stumbling fool

cause intelligent people don't make mistakes very very often right?

JMX · 11-07-2009, 02:19 PM

Mistakes are opportunities to learn and improve. Intelligent people are separated from the rest not by the quantity of mistakes, but by learning from their mistakes.

Neptunus · 11-07-2009, 02:23 PM

Oh definitely not! You're only "stupid" if you don't learn from your mistakes, especially after several times, and if you willingly choose not to... like living in denial, for example. Stupid equates with foolish in my book.

I've met plenty of brilliant people who haven't an ounce of common sense to their names and, consequently, make tons of mistakes. We all have our areas of "expertise" where we're less apt to make mistakes... plus, we can't control the imperfect world we live in.

Man Is An Island · 11-07-2009, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Akira90125

Do you think making mistakes often constitutes being stupid?
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cause intelligent people don't make mistakes very very often right?

Yes. At least that is what runs through my mind when I make mistakes. Hence, generally, I have learned not to try. Fewer mistakes are made that way, but I still often find a way to make them.

Sunshine009 · 11-07-2009, 05:32 PM

No. It's okay. Some things its hard to learn from. :shrugs:

Wehttam · 11-07-2009, 05:41 PM

Yes I think it does...I cant even remember how many times I've thought I was stupid for making mistakes, because an intelligent person would learn from the mistakes of others by observation,

its as if in prehistoric times, a caveman saw another caveman stick his hand into a fire to find out what happens, he see's the other caveman scream in pain and after that, goes ahead and sticks his own hand in the fire himself :S

carambola · 11-07-2009, 07:03 PM

I'm pretty intelligent. I'm also very absent-minded and frequently have trouble concentrating. These are probably at least partly because I hardly sleep, although I've been absent-minded my entire life.

anonymid · 11-07-2009, 07:25 PM

I'd say stupidity is more a matter of making poor judgments. Mistakes are something else, and smart people aren't much more immune to them than stupid people are.

Smitten · 11-07-2009, 07:32 PM

I found this interesting http://www.magazine.utoronto.ca/feat...-kurt-kleiner/

polardude18 · 11-07-2009, 07:35 PM

I make mistakes all the time, Yet I try to look at them as a chance to learn.

Making mistakes does not make you stupid. Not learning from those mistakes is what makes you stupid.

moxosis · 11-07-2009, 09:11 PM

Sometime I make mistakes because of anxiety, stress and frustration. Nobody is perfect and 6 billion mistakes are made every 10.min. And if I had to take an IQ test in front of a crowd, I would get 50 or something.

leonardess · 11-07-2009, 09:22 PM

ever been around any mensa people? go to a meeting, i guarantee you'll relax about this issue.

millenniumman75 · 11-07-2009, 09:23 PM

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Originally Posted by leonardess

ever been around any mensa people? go to a meeting, i guarantee you'll relax about this issue.

Everybody makes mistakes. That's how some of the greatest things were invented!

talk59 · 11-07-2009, 09:37 PM

I feel like i'm constantly on stage and the performance of acting normal begins to ware on you. Its this crazy mental trip of walking the proverbial residential street past a row of terraced houses and having the sense that there are a million piercing eyeballs staring at you through the net veiled windows. Is it totally irrational to expect that the perceived observation alters ones behaviour?? Que si? Que no?

Hot Chocolate · 11-07-2009, 09:39 PM

Not true but they are good at hiding it.

I know of a girl that gets lousy results (i'm first in class but I make too many mistakes in my life) but the teacher thought she is smart because she knows how to cover up and lie and pretend that she's good.

shyvr6 · 11-07-2009, 10:18 PM

I don't really know. Sometimes I witness things that people do, and it makes me wonder if they really are stupid.

Witan · 11-07-2009, 10:44 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Akira90125

i know i know everybody makes mistakes..

but I mean really often. you find it difficult to concentrate, difficult to understand the most mundane things... you're a stumbling fool

cause intelligent people don't make mistakes very very often right?

I disagree. Just the other day I was stumped by the question "What is the English Channel?". I was thinking of a "channel" like a TV channel. Of course when I remembered what it was, I wanted to beat my head against the wall. My parents will never let me live it down

People make mistakes, even really basic, stupid ones.

brainfog · 11-08-2009, 07:08 PM

Everybody makes mistakes, its only human. But people react differently when they make mistakes. When I make a mistake I beat myself up over it for hours, even if it is something trivial.

At the time of making the mistake or realising I made a mistake I tell myself that I am stupid and worthless and that this could only happen to me and I get very angry with myself. But after a few hours has past I start to think more rationally and tell myself that everyone makes mistakes. But the strange thing about it is the next time I make a mistake the whole process starts all over again, as if I have learnt nothing from my previous mistake. The mind truly works in mysterious ways.

How do the rest of you react when you make a mistake?

shypersianfan247 · 11-08-2009, 09:56 PM

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Originally Posted by brainfog

Everybody makes mistakes, its only human. But people react differently when they make mistakes. When I make a mistake I beat myself up over it for hours, even if it is something trivial.

At the time of making the mistake or realising I made a mistake I tell myself that I am stupid and worthless and that this could only happen to me and I get very angry with myself. But after a few hours has past I start to think more rationally and tell myself that everyone makes mistakes. But the strange thing about it is the next time I make a mistake the whole process starts all over again, as if I have learnt nothing from my previous mistake. The mind truly works in mysterious ways.

How do the rest of you react when you make a mistake?

I do the same thing and it dosn't help when someone agrees with you about it being stupid.

Prakas · 11-08-2009, 10:14 PM

Everyone makes mistakes, some might even be stupid, but so what. Life will go on after mistakes. You will learn from mistakes, which in turn makes you a stronger person. I love this quote from the Rocky movie, maybe it'll help you.

Its not how hard you can hit, but how hard you can GET hit and keep moving forward, thats how winning is done. -Rocky Balboa

11-07-2009, 02:02 PM	#1 (permalink)
Akira90125 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Bloomingdale, IL Gender: Male Posts: 74	Do you think making mistakes often constitutes being stupid? i know i know everybody makes mistakes.. but I mean really often. you find it difficult to concentrate, difficult to understand the most mundane things... you're a stumbling fool cause intelligent people don't make mistakes very very often right?

11-07-2009, 02:23 PM	#3 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: Authenticating Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: USA Gender: Female Posts: 2,841	Oh definitely not! You're only "stupid" if you don't learn from your mistakes, especially after several times, and if you willingly choose not to... like living in denial, for example. Stupid equates with foolish in my book. I've met plenty of brilliant people who haven't an ounce of common sense to their names and, consequently, make tons of mistakes. We all have our areas of "expertise" where we're less apt to make mistakes... plus, we can't control the imperfect world we live in. __________________ "When I stand before thee at the day's end, thou shalt see my scars and know that I had my wounds and also my healing." ~Rabindranath Tagore "Being gentle means forgiving yourself when you mess up. We should learn from our mistakes, but we shouldn't beat the tar out of ourselves over them. The past is just that, past. Learn what went wrong and why. Make amends if you need to. Then drop it and move on." ---Sean Covey

11-07-2009, 05:32 PM	#5 (permalink)
Sunshine009 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2008 Gender: Female Posts: 1,644	No. It's okay. Some things its hard to learn from. :shrugs: __________________ "God grant me the serentity to accept the things I cannot change, to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference" - serenity prayer

11-07-2009, 05:41 PM	#6 (permalink)
Wehttam Status: Anxienty Free In 2083 Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Australia Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 68	Yes I think it does...I cant even remember how many times I've thought I was stupid for making mistakes, because an intelligent person would learn from the mistakes of others by observation, its as if in prehistoric times, a caveman saw another caveman stick his hand into a fire to find out what happens, he see's the other caveman scream in pain and after that, goes ahead and sticks his own hand in the fire himself :S __________________ MySpace \|FaceBook\|Twitter\|Blog

11-07-2009, 07:25 PM	#8 (permalink)
anonymid Status: gulping for shape Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: Chicagoland Gender: Male Age: 30 Posts: 2,077	I'd say stupidity is more a matter of making poor judgments. Mistakes are something else, and smart people aren't much more immune to them than stupid people are. __________________ "He who has not the courage to suffer either death or life, who will neither resist nor flee, what can we do with him?" - Montaigne

11-07-2009, 02:19 PM	#2 (permalink)
JMX Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Indiana Gender: Male Age: 23 Posts: 299	Mistakes are opportunities to learn and improve. Intelligent people are separated from the rest not by the quantity of mistakes, but by learning from their mistakes.

11-07-2009, 07:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: California Age: 24 Posts: 735	I'm pretty intelligent. I'm also very absent-minded and frequently have trouble concentrating. These are probably at least partly because I hardly sleep, although I've been absent-minded my entire life.

11-07-2009, 07:32 PM	#9 (permalink)
Smitten Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2006 Location: Australia Gender: Female Age: 24 Posts: 142	I found this interesting http://www.magazine.utoronto.ca/feat...-kurt-kleiner/

11-07-2009, 07:35 PM	#10 (permalink)
polardude18 Status: Peanut Butter Jelly Time! Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Tennessee Gender: Male Age: 17 Posts: 116	I make mistakes all the time, Yet I try to look at them as a chance to learn. Making mistakes does not make you stupid. Not learning from those mistakes is what makes you stupid. __________________ If you are ever sad because you can't be with the person you want to be with. Never frown Because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.

11-07-2009, 09:11 PM	#11 (permalink)
moxosis Status: Lone Wolf Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: ''' Gender: Male Posts: 136	Sometime I make mistakes because of anxiety, stress and frustration. Nobody is perfect and 6 billion mistakes are made every 10.min. And if I had to take an IQ test in front of a crowd, I would get 50 or something. __________________

11-07-2009, 09:22 PM	#12 (permalink)
leonardess Status: wheresthefire?inmyeye! Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: WILL you people please leave me alone?I'm supposed to be working lol Gender: Female Age: 45 Posts: 1,231	ever been around any mensa people? go to a meeting, i guarantee you'll relax about this issue. __________________ One day I will change this sig to something really cool, if I only had a brain....

11-07-2009, 09:37 PM	#14 (permalink)
talk59 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Texas Gender: Male Age: 26 Posts: 5	I find absent-minded is the fitting term I feel like i'm constantly on stage and the performance of acting normal begins to ware on you. Its this crazy mental trip of walking the proverbial residential street past a row of terraced houses and having the sense that there are a million piercing eyeballs staring at you through the net veiled windows. Is it totally irrational to expect that the perceived observation alters ones behaviour?? Que si? Que no?

11-07-2009, 09:39 PM	#15 (permalink)
Hot Chocolate Status: Colourful Spongy Cake! Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: S.E.A Posts: 1,121	Not true but they are good at hiding it. I know of a girl that gets lousy results (i'm first in class but I make too many mistakes in my life) but the teacher thought she is smart because she knows how to cover up and lie and pretend that she's good. __________________ Living is easy with eyes closed Misunderstanding all you see It's getting hard to be someone But it all works out It doesn't matter much to me Let me take you down 'Cause i'm going to strawberry fields...

11-07-2009, 10:18 PM	#16 (permalink)
shyvr6 Status: Makin Waves Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Somewhere on a map. Gender: Male Posts: 9,645	I don't really know. Sometimes I witness things that people do, and it makes me wonder if they really are stupid. __________________ Music

11-08-2009, 07:08 PM	#18 (permalink)
brainfog Status: SAS Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: australia Gender: Male Posts: 22	Everybody makes mistakes, its only human. But people react differently when they make mistakes. When I make a mistake I beat myself up over it for hours, even if it is something trivial. At the time of making the mistake or realising I made a mistake I tell myself that I am stupid and worthless and that this could only happen to me and I get very angry with myself. But after a few hours has past I start to think more rationally and tell myself that everyone makes mistakes. But the strange thing about it is the next time I make a mistake the whole process starts all over again, as if I have learnt nothing from my previous mistake. The mind truly works in mysterious ways. How do the rest of you react when you make a mistake?

11-08-2009, 10:14 PM	#20 (permalink)
Prakas Status: Failure - Life Sucks Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Delaware Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 434	Everyone makes mistakes, some might even be stupid, but so what. Life will go on after mistakes. You will learn from mistakes, which in turn makes you a stronger person. I love this quote from the Rocky movie, maybe it'll help you. Its not how hard you can hit, but how hard you can GET hit and keep moving forward, thats how winning is done. -Rocky Balboa __________________ If life is so hard, then death must be easy. Creed-Six Feet From the Edge I'm six feet from the edge and I'm thinking... Maybe six feet ain't so far down...