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Old 07-12-2007, 08:55 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Default Do you look different in different mirrors?

Ok, this has been bothering me, and I dont know if I am paranoid.

When Im at my house looking into the mirror, I find that I look pretty attractive(not trying to be cocky).

The problem is, when I got to the mall, wal mart, public bathroom, etc., I feel like I look almost completely different in all of them. I dont know which one to trust.

On top of that, many pictures of me look a lot different lol. Its like I transform from day to day. If only I could look like I do im my mirror all the time.
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It's so annoying. Months ago, I would look in the mirror and think I looked okay. But then my mom would take pictures and I'd look nasty in them! Then I got a digital camera in February and I discovered that with that, I looked hooorrrrible!

So one night, I got my mom to stand in front of the mirror. I took a picture of her. She just looked the same to me. I don't get it!!! Are we looking in circus mirrors or something?!

I've lost weight since then, apparently. Some of my recent photos (taken with my mom's camera) are crap. One is nice. I just hope I look like that.
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It happens to me too, as weird as it might seem...

Can't say why though.
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Old 07-12-2007, 09:32 AM   #4 (permalink)
 
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Ok, lol now I know Im not the only one. Its odd though because Ive done a mirror test with all my brothers and sisters. When they would look into the mirror, they looked the same just standing there. So, in my mind now, I look how I look in my house mirror.

An odd thing with my ex gf though. When she looked into the mirror, her face was almost completely different. Her nose looked almost all the way sideways lol. I even told her that she looks so much better outside of the mirror, and she told me the same.

Its very odd. Damn these mirrors.
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Yeah, I think in certain mirrors I look like crap and in others I might look ok... very weird. I think I also usually prefer the way I look in my mirror, in my bedroom.
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It's not the mirror; it's the lighting. In my bathroom light at home I sometimes miss little bits of stubble that seem obvious when looking at myself in fluorescent lighting, making me look awful.
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It's not the mirror; it's the lighting.
Yep. Harsher lighting will make most people look washed out (like florescent lights in offices) while lower lighting makes everyone look better

Also, possibly, when you're at home, you're feeling more confident about yourself as opposed to when you go out.
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Yeah, I think its the lighting too...I hate seeing myself in public mirrors...
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It's not the mirror; it's the lighting. In my bathroom light at home I sometimes miss little bits of stubble that seem obvious when looking at myself in fluorescent lighting, making me look awful.
Correct. More specifically, it's the hue of the lighting. Blue flourescent overheads will always bring out your worst features. Unfortunately, they're the most cost-effective and energy efficient on the market, so this is typically what you see in department stores, where you'll be spending most time looking at yourself. I read something a few years ago about certain clothing store chains intentionally outfitting their stores with the worst possible lighting to inspire more sales. The assumption was that the customer will walk into a store, look in a mirror and be unhappy with their appearance and ultimately buy an article of clothing or make up that softens the harshness of the crap lighting induced image they see of themselves.

Don't worry, though. The lighting you use at home, those used in most restaurants, bars, etc. utilize very soft, orange-red hues that compliment most skin tones. If you want to know what you REALLY look like, take a picture in sunlight. Natural light provides the best, most comprehensive range of color for capturing an image.
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Yeah, I definitely look better in mirrors at home than in public. There is one bathroom at my university that has a mirror with horrible fluorescent lighting. Looking into it, my skin looks gray; I basically look like I've been dead for a few days. It's terrible. I can't stand looking in mirrors in public.
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its the lighting! and perhaps your mood
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This is funny, I've been thinking of this too. I've lost some wieght and in some mirrors I'm like, "Okay that's better". In some thought the lighting makes me look absolutely sick!
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After looking so many times at myself in the mirror, i realized that it was the lighting, and depending on which position the light is projecting will give a different prespective of how i look.
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I look terrible under flourescent lighting, i think i look somehwat attractive on my bathroom mirror tho.

yes it is the lighting
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So its agreed, everyone looks 10x worse under florescent lights.
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Totally! I am hot in my own mirror but look like a freaky troll in all others
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Default re: Do you look different in different mirrors?

It's frustrating. I can look great in the mirror, then I'll take a picture and go "WTF happened?!"

Our image is distorted in different ways. There's a such thing as a "favorite mirror" for sure and I know it's not just the lighting.
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Yes. Problem is, I always look equally hideous, just in different ways.
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In those special mirrors with the down-lighters that you get in some expensive clothes shops, I sometimes think I am a bit of a rock star hottie.

But then I go into a cheap shop like GAP and the fluoros remind me of reality. And man do I hate those ones that give you three views at once: "Oh my *** sticks out too. Fantastic". Thank you mirror. Urghh ...

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YES! I suffer from this problem terribly. It seems that I look different in every mirror I look in or at times I look much different to myself even in the same mirror. Sometimes I'll be out in public and think I look handsome when seeing myself in a mirror but from home, and especially in my bathroom mirror, I look horrible to myself. Same with the rear view mirror or when seeing my side reflection from the corner of my eye.

Lighting probably makes a huge difference. I was just noticing this lately. With natural lighting my room looks sleek and clean but if I shine an LED flashlight on something or take a photo with the cheap flash on my camera than it makes my room look like a crack addict den.
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