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Old 05-12-2008, 12:24 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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I'm one of those guys who holds all their thoughts and problems inside until one day I finally lose it and tell everyone to F off. This can't be healthy... maybe another reason why I'm always anxious. I guess it has to come out somehow. I just never felt comfortable sitting down and talking with my people about my problems. I probably avoid this because I'm also real bad at eye contact, so it feels like a chore to have conversations with people.... Even my parents..... How about you guys? Do you hold everything in and how do you think that effects you and your mental health?
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Old 05-12-2008, 01:07 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Not so much anger...it takes a whole lot to get me mad. Problems, however, I always keep to myself. My dad was raised in a family where if there was an issue, everyone was suppose to ignore it and hope it goes away (is this an irish catholic thing??? or just a family trait???) Anyway, when I was younger, my immediate family did this a lot. It has gotten a bit better over the years, but a very hard habit to break.

Another weird thing, is I feel like an open book if there is something wrong in my world. I've been told that I am hard to read, but with SA, as I'm sure other people do, I over-analyze situations and once my mind is filled and I get that anxious feeling, I tend to think that EVERYBODY around me knows I'm off. Paranoia gets me every time.

Have you ever tried writing things down, tednugent2007? I find this to be really helpful when dealing with things...it just organizes thoughts and can release feelings sometimes when it's in black and white.
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I'm easily annoyed, so my parents usually notice if I'm more pissed off than usual. But other than that, I am the kind of perosn who tends to keep things bottled up. Journaling helps.
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Mo, yeah, I have lots of paranoia. It's like I have a stream of negative thoughts always pumping through my head, no matter what. I've never tried writing things down. Maybe I'll start doing that.
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I'm difficult to make angry... there have only been a handful of instances during my life that I can say I was actually mad. In those cases I didn't bottle it up, I let it out and the person knew I was angry with them. On the rare occasion I get angry, it generally marks the end of whatever relationship I had with the person, as I tend to remove them from my life at that point.

I do bottle up a lot, but anger isn't in that category. Depression, sadness, frustration... those sorts of things stay inside for the most part. Even the times I'm happy I bottle it up. It's as though I don't know how to outwardly express emotion.
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Sometimes I let anger build up. I try and release it before it gets to a point of where I would snap at someone.
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Botteling my anger is second nature to me. Screaming and yelling doesn't even cross my mind. I'm sure it would feel great but SA just doesn't allow for the kind of behaviour. I usually wait until i'm home and in my room to express my anger. It's easier that way.
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I have a lot of anger issues that I try to keep under control by not acknowledging that I'm upset. It works for awhile but then there are times when I just snap. One time it got so bad, my mother almost called the cops on me.
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I hold my anger/problems inside, and then when I have had all that I can take, I tell people to f*** off if they are ugly to me.
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For the most part, yes.
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