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Old 05-04-2010, 08:36 AM   #1 (permalink)
 
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i started noticing that i started getting nervous talking to people when i started getting older in my late teens 15 and up. i sometimes get a little nervous talking to my OWN family members. last time i spoke to a random stranger on the street i just did not know what to say and felt like i was beening laughed from behind because of the way i said something but no one was really laughing. i just have these thoughts in my head everytime i finish talking to someone.
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i feel the exact same way, its bad, like you said, even with my family sometimes i get nervous
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Happens to me all the time, with anyone, including family. What helps sometimes is "investing" my thoughts in the other person and really listening to what they have to say. I try to stop caring about myself (my anxiety, my inadequacy) so much and try to care about the other person.
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Yeah I get so nervous that I try to avoid conversing.
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Yeah, I was getting better for while, but I've regressed.
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Yeah, usually to certain people I don't know. Sometimes cashiers or random strangers will try to strike up a conversation with me and my mind just goes blank, so I usually just nod and smile and try to figure out a way to get the heck away from them before I do or say something that'll really embarrass me.

For some reason, I stink at conversing with girls my own age. I never know what to say or what to talk about. I always feel like they have way more life experience than I have, so what is there to talk about. Which is the main reason why I have no female friends.
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Yeah, usually to certain people I don't know. Sometimes cashiers or random strangers will try to strike up a conversation with me and my mind just goes blank, so I usually just nod and smile and try to figure out a way to get the heck away from them before I do or say something that'll really embarrass me.

For some reason, I stink at conversing with girls my own age. I never know what to say or what to talk about. I always feel like they have way more life experience than I have, so what is there to talk about. Which is the main reason why I have no female friends.

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yes, but especially with extroverts or really happy people, you feel ****e because your not "UP" like them,..
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Meeting new people most definitely nervous. Friends, not so much.
Though, cashier's and such, usually try to avoid much talk, sometimes if there is a mistake makes it even more annoying lol
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Today I started stuttering a lot when I was talking to people. I hope this is not a new tic of mine. Yes, I get nervous talking to any one except for a few people.
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unless it's a psychiatric disorder it will get away with time
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I feel the exact same way, I get MORE nervous around my family and especially my husbands family. It's awful.
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Yes, of course, with everyone, including my mom and my friend/ex (I used to not usually get nervous with him, but I do again now).
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That's why I'm here brah.
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Yes but am doing a lot better now than I used to be. Stayed at home for over seven months and it caused me to feel socially anxious around others. When I started voluntary work, my social skills were poor. Really nervous around people but it's getting a lot better now.
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I don't get it. If SA is NOT getting nervous around people then what do people consider SA to be? Difficulty with public speaking? This topic makes no sense. I always thought if you had SA you HAD to be nervous around people and talking to them.
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I get nervous talking to people too, with both my family and especially around strangers.
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I used to be the same way but you just have to think like this "**** everyone else". Not **** them as in dont give a **** about them but just forget about everyone and their opinions on you. What makes someone any better than you that you should feel insecure around them? We're all equal so no worries, just don't over think so much and just live in the moment and you won't get so nervous when someone talks to you, relax.
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I get nervous talking to anyone not living in my house
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