Social Anxiety Support

nycdude · 05-04-2010, 07:36 AM

i started noticing that i started getting nervous talking to people when i started getting older in my late teens 15 and up. i sometimes get a little nervous talking to my OWN family members. last time i spoke to a random stranger on the street i just did not know what to say and felt like i was beening laughed from behind because of the way i said something but no one was really laughing. i just have these thoughts in my head everytime i finish talking to someone.

flip5071 · 05-04-2010, 07:43 AM

i feel the exact same way, its bad, like you said, even with my family sometimes i get nervous

Mark02 · 05-04-2010, 08:07 AM

Happens to me all the time, with anyone, including family. What helps sometimes is "investing" my thoughts in the other person and really listening to what they have to say. I try to stop caring about myself (my anxiety, my inadequacy) so much and try to care about the other person.

memoria · 05-04-2010, 12:02 PM

Yeah I get so nervous that I try to avoid conversing.

Neptunus · 05-04-2010, 12:26 PM

Yeah, I was getting better for while, but I've regressed.

heyJude · 05-04-2010, 01:56 PM

Yeah, usually to certain people I don't know. Sometimes cashiers or random strangers will try to strike up a conversation with me and my mind just goes blank, so I usually just nod and smile and try to figure out a way to get the heck away from them before I do or say something that'll really embarrass me.

For some reason, I stink at conversing with girls my own age. I never know what to say or what to talk about. I always feel like they have way more life experience than I have, so what is there to talk about. Which is the main reason why I have no female friends.

TheOutsider · 05-04-2010, 02:17 PM

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Originally Posted by heyJude

Yeah, usually to certain people I don't know. Sometimes cashiers or random strangers will try to strike up a conversation with me and my mind just goes blank, so I usually just nod and smile and try to figure out a way to get the heck away from them before I do or say something that'll really embarrass me.

For some reason, I stink at conversing with girls my own age. I never know what to say or what to talk about. I always feel like they have way more life experience than I have, so what is there to talk about. Which is the main reason why I have no female friends.

Ditto

jacksmith · 05-07-2010, 10:22 AM

yes, but especially with extroverts or really happy people, you feel ****e because your not "UP" like them,..

xJoshx · 05-07-2010, 10:43 AM

Meeting new people most definitely nervous. Friends, not so much.
Though, cashier's and such, usually try to avoid much talk, sometimes if there is a mistake makes it even more annoying lol

OregonMommy · 05-07-2010, 03:58 PM

Today I started stuttering a lot when I was talking to people. I hope this is not a new tic of mine. Yes, I get nervous talking to any one except for a few people.

psychcharged · 05-07-2010, 04:20 PM

unless it's a psychiatric disorder it will get away with time

Lexie323 · 03-17-2012, 01:39 PM

I feel the exact same way, I get MORE nervous around my family and especially my husbands family. It's awful.

carambola · 03-17-2012, 01:43 PM

Yes, of course, with everyone, including my mom and my friend/ex (I used to not usually get nervous with him, but I do again now).

flowingwater · 03-17-2012, 01:53 PM

That's why I'm here brah.

thatright · 03-17-2012, 03:42 PM

Yes but am doing a lot better now than I used to be. Stayed at home for over seven months and it caused me to feel socially anxious around others. When I started voluntary work, my social skills were poor. Really nervous around people but it's getting a lot better now.

pjb77 · 03-17-2012, 04:04 PM

I don't get it. If SA is NOT getting nervous around people then what do people consider SA to be? Difficulty with public speaking? This topic makes no sense. I always thought if you had SA you HAD to be nervous around people and talking to them.

crystaltears · 03-17-2012, 04:56 PM

yes

northstar1991 · 03-17-2012, 06:55 PM

I get nervous talking to people too, with both my family and especially around strangers.

jc36273 · 08-20-2012, 07:54 PM

I used to be the same way but you just have to think like this "**** everyone else". Not **** them as in dont give a **** about them but just forget about everyone and their opinions on you. What makes someone any better than you that you should feel insecure around them? We're all equal so no worries, just don't over think so much and just live in the moment and you won't get so nervous when someone talks to you, relax.

Silentious · 08-20-2012, 07:55 PM

I get nervous talking to anyone not living in my house

05-04-2010, 07:36 AM	#1 (permalink)
nycdude Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: New York City Gender: Male Posts: 1,578	Do you get nervous talking to people? i started noticing that i started getting nervous talking to people when i started getting older in my late teens 15 and up. i sometimes get a little nervous talking to my OWN family members. last time i spoke to a random stranger on the street i just did not know what to say and felt like i was beening laughed from behind because of the way i said something but no one was really laughing. i just have these thoughts in my head everytime i finish talking to someone.

05-04-2010, 01:56 PM	#6 (permalink)
heyJude Status: Haters to the left. Join Date: Jul 2009 Gender: Female Age: 27 Posts: 2,635	Yeah, usually to certain people I don't know. Sometimes cashiers or random strangers will try to strike up a conversation with me and my mind just goes blank, so I usually just nod and smile and try to figure out a way to get the heck away from them before I do or say something that'll really embarrass me. For some reason, I stink at conversing with girls my own age. I never know what to say or what to talk about. I always feel like they have way more life experience than I have, so what is there to talk about. Which is the main reason why I have no female friends. __________________ Where am I going and why am I in this little handbasket?

05-07-2010, 10:43 AM	#9 (permalink)
xJoshx Status: Content Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Newcastle, NSW, Australia Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 138	Meeting new people most definitely nervous. Friends, not so much. Though, cashier's and such, usually try to avoid much talk, sometimes if there is a mistake makes it even more annoying lol __________________ May 2002 and counting! No expectations, No Disappointment

05-07-2010, 03:58 PM	#10 (permalink)
OregonMommy Status: On me "toes" Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Where the heart is Gender: Female Age: 42 Posts: 1,486	Today I started stuttering a lot when I was talking to people. I hope this is not a new tic of mine. Yes, I get nervous talking to any one except for a few people. __________________ "When you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance"-- Lee Ann Womack I am not my past. I am not my anxiety, nor depression. I am not my gender, or color, or social status, or occupation title, or any other label. I am not my story.

03-17-2012, 06:55 PM	#18 (permalink)
northstar1991 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Shining in the sky Gender: Female Age: 21 Posts: 2,306	I get nervous talking to people too, with both my family and especially around strangers. __________________ Seta Alpha Seta ~ Sisters For Life "We can't solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them." - Albert Einstein "You must do the thing that you think you cannot do." -Eleanor Roosevelt

05-04-2010, 07:43 AM	#2 (permalink)
flip5071 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: New Jersey Gender: Male Age: 32 Posts: 160	i feel the exact same way, its bad, like you said, even with my family sometimes i get nervous

05-04-2010, 08:07 AM	#3 (permalink)
Mark02 Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2010 Location: USA Gender: Male Age: 27 Posts: 221	Happens to me all the time, with anyone, including family. What helps sometimes is "investing" my thoughts in the other person and really listening to what they have to say. I try to stop caring about myself (my anxiety, my inadequacy) so much and try to care about the other person.

05-04-2010, 12:02 PM	#4 (permalink)
memoria Status: SAS Member Join Date: Apr 2010 Gender: Male Age: 21 Posts: 393	Yeah I get so nervous that I try to avoid conversing.

05-04-2010, 12:26 PM	#5 (permalink)
Neptunus Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Navigating a sea of emotions Gender: Female Posts: 19,632	Yeah, I was getting better for while, but I've regressed.

05-07-2010, 10:22 AM	#8 (permalink)
jacksmith Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2010 Posts: 35	yes, but especially with extroverts or really happy people, you feel ****e because your not "UP" like them,..

05-07-2010, 04:20 PM	#11 (permalink)
psychcharged Status: SAS Member Join Date: May 2010 Posts: 6	unless it's a psychiatric disorder it will get away with time

03-17-2012, 01:39 PM	#12 (permalink)
Lexie323 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Posts: 4	I feel the exact same way, I get MORE nervous around my family and especially my husbands family. It's awful.

03-17-2012, 01:43 PM	#13 (permalink)
carambola Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2006 Age: 28 Posts: 5,006	Yes, of course, with everyone, including my mom and my friend/ex (I used to not usually get nervous with him, but I do again now).

03-17-2012, 01:53 PM	#14 (permalink)
flowingwater Status: SAS Member Join Date: Mar 2012 Gender: Male Age: 20 Posts: 87	That's why I'm here brah.

03-17-2012, 03:42 PM	#15 (permalink)
thatright Status: User Requested Permanent Ban Join Date: Mar 2012 Gender: Female Posts: 40	Yes but am doing a lot better now than I used to be. Stayed at home for over seven months and it caused me to feel socially anxious around others. When I started voluntary work, my social skills were poor. Really nervous around people but it's getting a lot better now.

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03-17-2012, 04:04 PM	#16 (permalink)
pjb77 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: NS, Canada Gender: Male Age: 36 Posts: 104	I don't get it. If SA is NOT getting nervous around people then what do people consider SA to be? Difficulty with public speaking? This topic makes no sense. I always thought if you had SA you HAD to be nervous around people and talking to them.

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08-20-2012, 07:54 PM	#19 (permalink)
jc36273 Status: SAS Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Posts: 1	I used to be the same way but you just have to think like this "** everyone else". Not them as in dont give a ** about them but just forget about everyone and their opinions on you. What makes someone any better than you that you should feel insecure around them? We're all equal so no worries, just don't over think so much and just live in the moment and you won't get so nervous when someone talks to you, relax.

08-20-2012, 07:55 PM	#20 (permalink)
Silentious Status: Longing for the woods Join Date: Feb 2012 Location: The winding road Gender: Female Age: 22 Posts: 1,360	I get nervous talking to anyone not living in my house __________________ "I am the Wanderer I've seen many a shore But the road I long the most to go Is closed for evermore"