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do u ever get the feeling that people dont like you?

sometimes it seems to me that people dont like me cause i dont speak out, i just listen. but other times i want to talk to someone but i think in my head that they might be mad im talking to them or they wont want to talk to me. does this ever happen to you
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Re: do u ever get the feeling that people dont like you?

People start disliking me after they get to know me well.

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Actually never. I just feel they're wierded out by me.
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Yes. I have to continiously remind myself that most people don't really care about me one way or another. But expecting people to dislike me is an automatic response at this point. To be fair, there really are people who don't like me. My competitive nature and my big mouth get me in trouble sometimes. But I'm okay with that. I'm used to having enemies anyway. It's the "they hate me for no reason" stuff I have to keep an eye on before I start to get paranoid.

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It's the social anxiety. I am starting to get better but I used to always think people disliked me when I first met them. It got so bad that if someone actually asked me to do something, I would be completely shocked. I'd even think they had alterior motives- but that never proved to be the case.

On rare occasions, people actually didn't like me but overall, my fears were completely unreasonable. The truth is, unless people tell us, we don't know what they are thinking. Once I stopped worrying about whether people liked me, I could act abit more like myself and that's helped alot.

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I don't remember if it has happened to me in person, but I'm sure a few people don't like me on the internet, lol.
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I always try to be likable, but then again that takes away from my true personality which i dont really know about
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Yes, I actually get that feeling a lot...

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One of the things that gets me is when someone makes a sarcastic comment but I can't tell if it's sarcastic..

I believe a sarcastic comment usually has alot of truth behind it.
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I rarely feel any other way.

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[quote="littlesongbird"]I feel this way especially at work. I feel like they resent that I am so quiet since it sometimes messes things up or I don't speak up about something. quote]

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I get the feeling a lot that many people prefer it when i'm not around.

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I assume people dislike me until they prove otherwise. In general, people do not like quiet, reserved guys so it is easy for me to make such an assumption.
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Sometimes irl but mostly just on the internets.

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I always feel like people are annoyed by me. I always try to be courteous and kind to everyone I meet. Yet somehow I always feel like I just become annoying. I always wonder if the "Nice guys finish last" statement is ever true.
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Constantly... which is why I tend to avoid others in my school nowadays...
Just waiting for the year to end I guess, makes me depressed how everyone else seems to be that much more social, outgoing and have more friends etc...

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Ive had people hate me so much that they wanted me dead.
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It's not just a feeling, I know they don't like me.

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Re: do u ever get the feeling that people dont like you?

Every time I'm around someone I always feel they don't like me. Even my friends, when they ask me to go out in the back of my head I'm still thinking they don't like me. I hate feeling that way, because I know I'm a cool person. Today I finally met my boyfriend's mother...she talked on the phone with me yesterday and today. On the phone it seems like she liked me, but when she finally met me in person. I thought she didn't like me (even though she asked me to go out to celebrate graduating high school with her family.)
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