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Old 01-31-2008, 04:03 PM   #1 (permalink)
 
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Default Do people say you look mad/sad when you really arent often?

Once again, since I'm not out as often as I used to be because of schooling, I don't hear it as often. I just notice how alot of people will say to me that I look angry or sad all the time and it really confuses me since my mood at the times is usually just a chill/lowkey one. Kinda funny really, this one time I was just walking down the hallways in school and a toatlly random person just came up to me like, " Oh my god! Whats wrong???!" and I'm like uhhhhh nothing???
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Old 01-31-2008, 04:08 PM   #2 (permalink)
 
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Yeah, yesterday at least 3 people asked me 'what's wrong' and why I look so sad. It never happened before though... I think I was tired. Haha.
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Old 01-31-2008, 04:29 PM   #3 (permalink)
 
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yeah people say this to me sometimes when I'm just looking normal walking along or something.. when I don' have any expression on my face (like just straight face) my mouth naturally turns down at the corners and I think people think I'm frowning thats why they think im upset.

or a few months ago I was staring really intently at my computer at work trying to figure something out b/c I didnt hae my glasses and I guess I was squinting and this guy passing by goes "you're so serious" and I stammered out some answer that I was tired or something..
I try and work making my expression not so stern.. but I don't know I really can since that is the way I naturally look, so oh well people can ask and I'll tell them I'm not mad or anything.
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and why are my posts on here always sooo freaking long everytime I want to say the littlest thing.. ramble much?
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I sometimes have people ask me if I'm sad. If you're not talking constantly, just to hear yourself talk, then you are apparently sad. Doesn't help things that I never smile unless something causes me to laugh.

Whats annoys me more Is when my friend's sister says I'm cute, because I do something like a kid would. Apparently I eat like a kid, whatever that means. She also points out things about the way I dress. I Guess some people just have never learned that it's impolite to point out other people's "faults". What reminded me of her is that she does the "are you feeling sad?" or "you look sad" thing. She doesn't do this stuff to be mean, but it makes me feel self-concious.

A guy at work bugs me unless I say "great", when he asks me how I am doing. He probably thinks I'm feeling down. He now tries to test me every chance he gets. This has been going on for months, so its getting a little old.
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yes. when i'm at work and im tired.
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Old 01-31-2008, 09:13 PM   #7 (permalink)
 
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I'm always getting the "What are you mad about" question.
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I used to get it a lot, but people have stopped pointing out that I looked "serious" or "angry/intimidating" all the time.
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People say I look uncomfortable, not really mad...possibly sad..
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Yeah, I get that from time to time, even from people that know me well. Mostly, they tell me that I have a sullen expression. In reality, I'm usually deep in thought about something
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Yes, people I passed by in the street have shouted at me to "cheer up" before.
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I get this too, although moreso in the past. I think my face is just constructed in such a way that makes me look moody/miserable even when I'm not. I remember feeling perfectly neutral or being lost in thought and many times people out of nowhere saying 'smile!' or 'cheer up!' ...if I consciously try to hold a 'normal' expression I just end up with a ridiculous fake grin plastered across my face.
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Apparently I don't enjoy anything and I'm very hard to approach (this makes for horrible social situations).
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People accuse me of being "sulky" and "moody" and I've been asked if I'm depressed about something! I'm really not at all, I just don't know what to say to people.
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Mostly when I'm sitting somewhere deep in thought. I get the tiresome gem 'Cheer up!!!'
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I get that at the gym. I put on the angry face I think to keep ppl from speaking to me. And then I wonder why my bf made all these friends there in a matter of days when I've never even met anyone.
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I sometimes have people ask me if I'm sad. If you're not talking constantly, just to hear yourself talk, then you are apparently sad. Doesn't help things that I never smile unless something causes me to laugh.
I think you're absolutely right, especially about how people talk just to hear themselves talk. It's really annoying, because the only people who have things worth saying barely ever talk.

I find the same thing on the internet a little. Like when all the annoying teenagers post bulletins every five seconds about how 'their boyfriend broke up with them' or 'their parents grounded them because they went over on their texts' or something. It's rediculous. I call it internet pollution. Lol.
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i get tht alot from my sis..she's always telling me to inhale and smile!!
also i dont feel sad wn im told tht!!
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I'm always getting the "What are you mad about" question.
Me too, I can't stand that.
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I sometimes get people asking if i'm OK a lot or if i'm sad/upset when i'm not. I hate it cos it makes me feel even more self-conscious than usual.
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